Ukuba umntwana wakho ubonisa umdla okanye italente kwimidlalo yolutsha, umbuzo uza kutshabalalisa ngokukhawuleza: Ngaba lixesha leqela lezemidlalo elikhuphisanayo (okanye ukhuphiswano lwe-solo)? Impendulo ihluka ngoxhomekeke kumntwana; ezinye zifanelekile ukuxinzelelo oluphezulu olukhuphiswano. Cinga ngezi ngxaki njengoko wenza isigqibo sakho.
Ingaba Umntwana Wakho Omdala Unele Imidlalo Yokhuphiswano?
Iingcali kwimidlalo yomibini yolutsha kunye nentuthuko yabantwana iyavumelana: Izingane azilungele ukuncintisana de ibe ubuncinane ubuneminyaka engama-8 ubudala.
Ngaphambi koko, abanakukwazi ukusingatha uxinzelelo lokuwina, ukulahlekelwa, kunye nokulinganiswa kwaye bafumaneke ekusebenzeni kwabo. Kwabantwana abangaphantsi kwe-8, imidlalo kufuneka ibe malunga nokusebenza ngokomzimba, ukuzonwabisa, ukufunda izakhono ezintsha, nokubeka umgangatho wokuzonwabisa kakuhle .
Oku akuthethi ukuba bonke abantwana baya kulungele imidlalo yezokhuphiswano ngokukhawuleza xa bejika 8. Kwabantwana abaninzi, akude kube malunga nama-10 ubudala ukuba bakwazi ukuqonda ezinye zeempawu ezihambelana nokhuphiswano. Kunzima ukufunda ukuba ngamanye amaxesha, ulahlekelwa yiyo xa uzama okusemandleni akho.
Ngokuphuhliswayo, abantwana badlala ngokukhuphisana ngokuzithengela ngokwaneleyo kunye nokuqwalasela kakuhle. Kufuneka baqoke ngokwaneleyo ukuphulaphula nokuhlonela umqeqeshi, kunye nemigangatho yemfundiso yeqela. Ukuba umntwana wakho unomdla kakhulu ngebhola kodwa engenawo umonde ukuqhuba ukuqhubezela ngokuphindaphindiweyo, akanako ukulungele ukujoyina iqela lokukhuphisana.
Ukunciphisa umngcipheko wokulimala , abantwana abafanelekanga ukudlala imidlalo yokudibanisa njengobhola bebhola kuze kube yile bakala kwisikolo esiphakathi (ubudala 11 okanye 12). Kukho umngcipheko wokulimala kakhulu xa umntwana wakho ekhethekileyo kwimidlalo ethile okanye edlala kwindawo esemncinci.
Ingaba Umntwana Wakho Unolwazi Olwaneleyo?
Ukunyusa akusoloko kulingana nobuchule.
Umntwana wakho unokuncedisa ibhola yebholabhayi, kodwa ugqibe ukukhwela ibhentshi xa ejoyina iqela eliphambili kakhulu kuye. Amaqela ezemidlalo okukhuphisana ngokusemthethweni agxininisa ngakumbi ekuphumeleleni, oku kuthetha ukuba abadlali abanamakhono amaninzi abahlali bexesha elide lokudlala.
UJim Thompson ungumlawuli olawulayo we-Positive Coaching Alliance (PCA), ekhuthaza ukufundisa imfundo ngezemidlalo. Ukhuthaza abazali ukuba bafune abaqeqeshi kunye namaqhinga agxininisa ukulawula ngokuphumelela nayiphi na indleko. Cinga ngobuchule njengomthi we-ELM, uTh Thompson uthi. Abadlali banokulawula i- E yabo ye- Ffort, i- L yokufumana, kunye neempendulo kwi- M istakes. Kodwa abakwazi ukulawula ukuba ngaba bayaphumelela okanye balahlekelwe.
Uthi: "Ngezibhozo ezisibhozo, ezithoba, ezilishumi ubudala, abantwana bafuna ukwazi: 'Ndiyayilinganisa njani nabanye abantu? Ngaba ndibe ngcono?'" Kuchaza. "Indlela efanelekileyo yokufumana ukhuphiswano kukugxila ekusebenzeni. Indlela engcono kakhulu yokuphumelela kukubetha iqela elingaphantsi. Kodwa oko kwenza ntoni kuwe?" Thompson uyabuza.
Ingaba Umntwana Wakho Ufuna Ukudlala Imidlalo Yokhuphiswano?
Ngaphambi kokubeka phantsi idiphozithi, qiniseka ukuba intliziyo yomntanakho ilapha kule yangempela. Ingaba ufuna ukujoyina iqela nje ngenxa yokuba abahlobo bakhe bakhona? Okanye kuba abazali bakhe bebe (mhlawumbi bengenakuqonda) bamphoxela kuyo?
Ukuba ufuna ngokwenene ukuzitshintshela kumgangatho olandelayo, mkhulu! Kodwa ukuba akayena, unako ukhetho lokuzonwabisa umdlalo wakhe ozithandayo kwi-non-contestitive or recague league, okanye ngokudlala imidlalo kunye nosapho kunye nabahlobo.
Kwakhona, cinga ukuba iqela okanye ukhuphiswano lomntu lilungele umntwana wakho. Oku kuya kuxhomekeka kakhulu kubuntwana bakho. Ezinye iikhampani ziyachuma kwiqela leqela ; abanye bafuna ukulawula okungaphezulu kwixesha labo. Abanye abantwana bafumana ukuba yingxenye yeqela bathabatha uxinzelelo. Abanye bazive bexhala , bexhala lokuba baya kuvumela abadlali beqela.
Ukuvumela Umntwana Wakho Ukukhuphisana Ngezizathu Ezifanelekileyo
Kukho ulwahlulo olubalulekileyo phakathi "kukhuphiswano lokuphumelela" kunye "nokukhuphisana ukuphumelela." Ukuncintisana ukuphumelela kuthetha kuthetha ukuzama "ukulawula nokugqithisa" abanye, ngelixa ukukhuphisana ukuphumelela "malunga nokuqhuba kakuhle nokugqithisa iinjongo zakho." Abadlali abanomdla oyintloko wokukhuphisana ukuze bakwazi ukugqwesa banokubona iintlobo ezinkulu, ngokubhekiselele kuphando lophando lwabadlali be-110 bezemidlalo eziphakamileyo.
Ezi zinzuzo ziquka ukuzithemba okuphezulu nokunciphisa ubuninzi.
Abadlali abaphumelele ukuncintisana baqhutyelwa ukuba baphumelele. Kodwa iinjongo zabo zivela ngaphakathi: "Ndifuna ukuba yinto engcono kakhulu ukuba ndibe" esikhundleni sokuba "Ndifuna ukutshaya bonke abo bathathele." Ukuncintisana ukugqwesa kugxininisa ukuphumelela nokulahlekelwa. Iinguqu zokugxila ekusebenziseni ukhuphiswano njengendlela yokukhuthaza impumelelo nganye. Ukuncintisana ukugqwesa kuye kwabizwa ngokuba "ukhuphiswano lomntu siqu," "ukhuphiswano olujoliswe kumsebenzi," okanye nje "isidingo sokwenza kakuhle."
Ungakhuthaza uphuhliso lwakho kunye nokuzithemba ngokukhuphisana ngokugxininisa ekuphuculeni ukwandiswa kunye nokwakhiwa kwezakhono. Mdumise umntwana wakho xa ephumelela ngokusemgangathweni, nangona ukuba akaphumelelanga umncintiswano. Isaziso kunye nokuphawula xa wenza igalelo elibalulekileyo kwiqela lakhe, nangona iqela lingapheli ngokuphumelela ngaloo mini. Qiniseka ukuba umkhumbuze indlela oziqhenyayo ngayo, ukuphikelela, kunye nomgudu , kungekhona nje iziphumo ezifana nempumelelo kunye neendlela.
Ukulungelelanisa intsapho
Ukuba umntwana wakho ujoyina iqela, ngokukodwa iqela elincinane okanye elihambahambayo, uya kwenza ukuzibophezela okukhulu kwexesha kunye nemali. Ngaphandle kokufakela umntwana wakho kwimikhwa kunye nemidlalo, kuya kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba uncedise iiyure zokuzithandela (kunye / okanye i- dollar fundraising ) kwiqela, iqela okanye iqela.
Kwaye kukho enye intsapho emele iqwalasele, uthi uDarell Hammond, i-CEO yeqela lokukhuthaza umdlalo weKaBoom !. Ngaba iimidlalo ezikhuphisanayo ziza kunqanda ixesha lokudlala lomntwana ongenakulinganiswa , ziphazamise ubuchule bakhe? "Iqela lezemidlalo elungiselelwe libeka imithetho kumabantwana," uHammond uphikisana nesicatshulwa esibhalwe iHuffington Post . Kodwa xa abantwana bebandakanya kwindawo yokudlala kunye nemidlalo yesitalato, bathambekele ekwakheni iqoqo lemiqathango engaqinisekanga kwaye bazakhele zabo njengoko behambayo. Oku akubalulekanga kubantwana abancinci-inxalenye yesibheno se-skateboarding, umzekelo , ingumoya wayo wokuvelisa, ukucinga, ukuzibonakalisa, kwaye, ewe, ingozi. "
Oku akuthethi ukuba kufuneka uqhubele phambili imidlalo yokukhuphisana ngokupheleleyo. Kodwa unokuba ufuna ukukhusela ishedyuli yezingane zakho ukuze bafumane ixesha elaneleyo lokuzikhethela.
> Umthombo:
> I-Hibbard DR kunye no-Buhrmester D. Ukukhuphisana, iSini, kunye noNyathelo phakathi koLutsha. Imisebenzi yezesondo Vol
>. 63, umxholo 5-6, Septemba 2010.