Ezi ngcaciso ezilula zinganciphisa impumelelo yomntwana wakho. Ngaba unetyala?
Akusoloko kulula ukuba ngumzali oxhasa umntwana wezemidlalo. Iyiphi indlela efanelekileyo yokunceda umdlali wakho omncinci akhule kwaye aphuhlise? Ungakanani omele uyenze, kwaye uhamba ntoni kumqeqeshi? Kubaqalayo, unokuziphepha ezi ngxelo zonke eziqhelekileyo eziya kuba yingozi ngakumbi kunokuba luncedo.
Ungathi: "Ulungile uYobhi"
Abantu abadala abanentsingiselo bathi le nto kubantwana ngexesha lonke, kunjalo?
Yingakho kungabi nantoni kwaye ibe nokuba nefuthe elibi. Akunjalo oko uzimisele kuzo zonke! "Umsebenzi omhle" uzwakala ungenanto, kwanabantwana. Basenokuxelela ukuba utsho nje ngokuba ufuna ukunikela ngendumiso ethile. Kwaye akunakuziva ukufumana indumiso ongayifumani. Ngoko gcina indumiso ngeemeko ezifanelekileyo, uze uchaze oko uthethayo: "Ndabona ukuba usebenze kanzima ngexesha lolo hlobo" okanye "U-Nice catch!
Musa ukuthi: "Kutheni ungazange ..."
Ngeli binzana, uqaphela ukuba yintoni umntwana wakho oyenzayo, kodwa kungekho ngendlela efanelekileyo. Uthabatha iincinci endaweni yamathuba okuphucula. Masithi umdlali wakho webholabhodi kufuneka asebenze ekuhlaleni kwakhe. "Esikhundleni sokuthi 'izakhono zakho zokungqubuzana zibuthathaka' okanye 'akufanele uzame ukunqumla khona,' uzama ukuthi, 'Uyazi, kunye nomzamo omncinane ozinikeleyo kwizakhono zakho zokuqhuba uya kuba nomdlalo opheleleyo ngokubanzi, '"utsho iJordan Fliegel, umsunguli weCoachUp (inkampani yangasese yoqeqesho lwezemidlalo).
"Umyalezo ufana," uFliegel uyaqhubeka, "kodwa ukuhanjiswa kwahluke kakhulu."
Musa ukuthi: "Loo ngxelo kufuneka ube ne ..."
Uluhlu olubomvu! Amagosa akhona ukuze ancede ukugcina wonke umntu ekhuselekileyo kwaye edlala ngemithetho, ngoko imidlalo iyamnandi kwaye imnandi. Kwaye ininzi yexesha, ziyivolontiya-okanye ihlawulwa kangako kunokwenzeka ukuba ibe njalo.
Ngoko akusiyo imidlalo emihle yokubakhubaza kwiindawo (ama-95 ekhulwini lwabaqeqeshi bezemidlalo abaselula abajongwa yiCocupUp bathi bavile oku!). Ukubakhonkceza kamva ngasese akukho nto ingcono. Ubeka umzekelo ombi kumntwana wakho, kwaye umvumela ukuba angayi kuthatha uxanduva malunga neepazamo zakhe okanye iqela lakhe lokwenene.
Musa Ukuthi: "Uza Njani Umqeqeshi Wakho Akakwazi ..."
Kanye nje neempendulo, abaqeqeshi bathathe inxaxheba kwimidlalo yolutsha kuba bayayithanda umdlalo. Ngokuqinisekileyo akuyiyo i-bucks enkulu. Kodwa zizona iinkokheli apha, ngoko yima emva kwaye uvumele ukuba ziholele. Umntwana wakho ufuna ukuba uncedise ngokungahambelani . Oku akuyi kwenzeka xa uziva ekhungethwe ngxabano phakathi kwengcebiso yomqeqeshi kunye nomzali wakhe.
Musa ukuthi: "Andikwazi ukukholelwa iqabane lakho ..."
UFliegel unalo cebiso kubaqeqeshi, kwaye kusebenza kubazali nabo: "Ungalokothi usho nto engalunganga ngomnye wabadlali bakho komnye umdlali. Akusiyo kuphela into engeyiyo ikhiqiza, kodwa inonakalisa amandla omntu weqela ." Akunjalo kwimidlalo yakho yebhokhwe okanye iqela lakhe.
Oko Utsho Endaweni
UDkt. Amy Baltzell ungumfundisi wezengqondo zezemidlalo zeBoston yaseYoston, owayengumqeqeshi we-Olimpiki, umqeqeshi wolutsha kunye nombhali-mbambano wezemidlalo kwincwadi yomzali, ngubani na umdlalo wakhe, akunjalo?
Ucebisa ukutshintshela eminye imibuzo emihle kunye neengxelo ezifana nalezi:
- Ngaba uthanda ukwenza? Iyiphi inxalenye yalo?
- Ngaba ufunde nantoni na? Ufunde ntoni?
- Ndabona ukuba usebenza nzima, wenza umgudu omkhulu.
- Ndiyaziqhenya ngendlela onzima ngayo.
- Ndakubona ukhuthaza umlingane, okwangenza ndonwaba ngawe.
- Ndabona ukuba emva kwelinye iqela lifumene, unesibindi sokuqhubeka uzama.