Ukubambisana kunokunceda ujongane neengxaki zokuziphatha
Iimpawu ezimbini eziqhelekileyo zisesigqeba esiqhelekileyo ekuphuhlisweni komntwana apho umntwana omncinci onokuhlala ehlawulela phakathi kokuxhomekeka kubantu abadala kunye nomnqweno osandul 'ukutshabalalisa wokuzimela. Kwinqanaba elincinci labantwana abancinci baya kuhamba ngee-degrees ezahlukeneyo. Ngomzuzwana omnye, umntwana anganamathela ngokukhawuleza kwaye, ngokulandelayo, abalekele kuwe ngokukrakra okukhulu.
Ukuqonda iimbini ezimbi kunokukunceda ukuba ungabhekana kuphela nalezi ziphatho kodwa ufumane iindlela zokujongana kangcono nabo ngaphandle kwengqumbo okanye ubundlobongela.
Ukuqonda iiNkqantosi eziMbi
Nangona abazali bengalindelanga ukuba ezimbini zimbini ziqale ukuqala de kube ngumntwana ubuncinane ezimbini, kunokuhlala kwenzeka ngaphambili. Enyanisweni, abanye abantwana abanokuqala ngaphambi kokuzalwa kwabo kokuqala kunye neendlela zokuziphatha ezivela kwiimeko eziqhelekileyo zitshintsha ukutshatyalaliswa ngokukrakra .
Xa ubhekene nale mingeni yokuziphatha, kufuneka uhlale ukhumbuza ukuba umntwana akenzanga oku ngenjongo yodwa yokungahloneli. ( Oku kuya kuza kamva. ) Kunoko, umncinci uzama ukubonisa ukuzimela ngaphandle kwezakhono zonxibelelwano ukwenza njalo. Ngaphandle kwesigama esisisigxina sokuthembela, umntwana unokukhawuleza kwaye angenayo enye indlela yokuvakalisa loo mvakalelo kunokuba abe nomsindo okanye ubundlobongela.
Xa oko kwenzeka, umzali unokukhawuleza ukujamelana nokukhala, ukukhala, ukukhaba okanye ukubalekela.
Ukuphendula ngohlobo, njengomsindo okanye ukulila, kuya kunceda nje ukuqinisa ugonyamelo njengendlela efanelekileyo yokunxibelelana. Iqinisa kwaye ilandise indlela yokuziphatha kunokuncedisa umntwana ukuba athole isigama esimele ayenze ngokubhekiselele kwiimvakalelo.
Ukulumkisa i-Double Worries
Ukulumka iimbini ezibuhlungu ziqala ngokuzithobela iimvakalelo zakho.
Ukuba ubhekene nesantya ebantwaneni bakho, zama ukuhlala uxolo, kwimeko yoluntu. Ngokungafani nabantwana abakhulileyo, abangasetyenziselwa ukuxhalabisa igunya, umntwana oneminyaka emibili uzimisele ukuziphatha ngendlela ayazi ngayo uya kuphendula.
Ukuba ubhekene nesantya, kukho izicwangciso ezinokuzama ukuzenza:
- Qala ngokuzama ukuhanjiswa kwengqalelo kwenye indawo kwenye indawo, njengento ephumayo kwifestile, ibali lebali okanye umsebenzi onokukunceda umntwana. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, musa ukuvuza umvuzo ngokunika umntwana unyango okanye into ayifunayo.
- Ukuba awukwazi ukuphazamisa umntwana, ungayihoyi indlela yokuziphatha. Abantwana beli lizwe abayi kuqonda oku njengesiqhinga sobuzali. Kunoko, kuya kuqhagamshelana ukuba le ndlela yokuziphatha ayifumaneli impendulo ayifunayo. Kuza kufuneka uhlale uqinile, kodwa, ngokuhamba kwexesha, ukuziphatha kudla ukuphucula ukuba impendulo iyaqhubeka
- Ukuba uhlala esidlangalaleni, thatha umntwana ngaphandle ngaphandle kwengxoxo okanye uxoxe kwaye ulinde dekile. Ukuba uziphatha ngokungafaniyo esidlangalaleni kunokuba wenze ngasese, umntwana wakho uya kuqonda oku kwaye ingaba yimfazwe yokuthanda.
- Ukuba umntwana uyancipha kwaye ukuziphatha kuphucula, musa ukwenza inkcazelo yokuziphatha okubi okanye ukuxubusha ingxaki ngokubanzi. (Umntwana kuphela ezimbini, emva koko konke). Kunoko, dumisani ukuziphatha kakuhle, kungekhona ngezipho kodwa ngamazwi nangothando.
Ezinye Iingcebiso Ezinokunceda
Abazali bayayiqonda ngokucacileyo ukuba ukuba umntwana ukhathele, unokufumana ingxaki. Ukunciphisa umngcipheko wale nto, zama ukulungiselela ukuthenga ngexesha lexesha lomntwana. Iintsana zihlala zivuya ngakumbi xa unamathela kwiindlela eziqhelekileyo zemihla ngemihla, kubandakanya i-naps rhoqo kunye nexesha lokudla. Ngelixa iishedyuli zifuna ukuba zitshintshwe, iishedyuli ezitshintshiweyo zikhuni ngokwaneleyo ukuba abazali bajongane nazo. Ngomntwana, kunokubangela ukukhwabanisa.
Kukho ezinye iincwadana ezimbalwa ezinokukunceda:
- Nika njalo ukhetha ukukhetha okuncinane kumntwana omncinci. Esikhundleni sokubuza into afuna ngayo intlanzi, umzekelo, cela ukuba umntwana angathanda i-apula okanye i-orange. Oku kunika umntwana ingqondo yokulawula-ukukwazi ukukhetha-ngaphandle kokuphazamisa umntwana ngokukhetha ezininzi.
- Nangona ukuphuma kwexesha kungumyalelo ofanelekileyo kule minyaka, soloko uyenza ngaphandle komsindo. Ukuba ukuziphatha okuqhubekayo, ungathatha amalungelo okanye usebenzise ezinye iindlela zokuziphatha.
- Nika umntwana wakho encinci enendawo ephephile, engakhuselekanga nabantwana . Ngokuqinisekileyo akunakulungele ukujezisa uneminyaka emibili ubudala ukuba uthathe into enokufikelela kuyo ukuba awuzange uthathe ixesha lokuzikhusela ngokufanelekileyo.
Ngokwamkela ukuba utshintsho lwakho umntwana luhamba kwaye lubonisa uthando kunye nentlonipho, unokunceda umntwana wakho ngale nqanaba elinzima kwaye uncedise ukwakha ukuzithemba kwakhe.