Njengoko unyaka wesikolo udlulela ekupheleni, abantwana behlabathi lonke bayavuya. Nangona kunjalo, abazali abaninzi abahlali bevuya kakhulu ngeentsuku zehlobo. Kwiintsapho ezininzi, iiholide zasehlobo zibhekisa ukuxabana komntakwabo, ukunyaniseka okwandisiweyo kunye neengxaki ezinkulu zokuziphatha.
Ukuba uncinci malunga neeholide lomntwana wakho, zilapha izicwangciso ezinhlanu zokuqeqesha nokujongana neengxaki zokuziphatha:
1. Ukuseka iMithetho yeMakhaya
Musa ukuvumela iholidi yeholide ukukhokelela kwi-mayhem epheleleyo. Yenza imithetho yasekhaya ngokukhethekileyo kwiholide zasehlobo.
Ihlobo lixesha elihle lokuhlaziya imigaqo yakho ekhoyo ngokusekelwe kwiimfuno nokuziphatha komntwana. Mhlawumbi unako ukuvumela ixesha elifutshane lokulala kwaye ukhululeke ngakumbi xa abantwana bakho benza imisebenzi yabo.
Qinisekisa ukuba zeziphi iimpawu ozifunayo ngokuthe ngqo. Bhala phantsi imigaqo yakho uze uthumele uluhlu kwindawo ebonakalayo.
Musa ukwenza uluhlu olude kakhulu-mhlawumbi uya kuphazamisa abantwana bakho kwaye uluhlu olunzima luya kunzima ukunyanzelisa. Imithetho yakho yasekhaya kufuneka ibe luhlu olulula, kunokuba umgaqo-nkqubo opheleleyo kunye nenkqubo yenkqubo.
2. Yakha isakhiwo kwiSuku lwaBantwana bakho
Ukutshintshwa kwishedyuli ehleliweyo yosuku lwesikolo kwiholide eziphumayo kungabangela ingozi kwabanye abantwana. Ngaphandle kokuxelelwa ukuba benzeni okanye njani ukuchitha ixesha labo, abantwana abaninzi baphendukela ekuziphatheni kakubi.
Nangona ezinye iingxaki zokuziphatha zenzelwe ukutsala ingqalelo, abanye bavele besuka kwixhala.
Yakha isakhiwo ngokumisela isimiso esilula kumntwana wakho, mhlawumbi yonke imini okanye emva kokunakekelwa kwelanga.
Yenza umyalelo wokuba imisebenzi ifuneka ukugqitywa ekuseni. Tshela umntwana wakho ukuba angasebenzisa i-elektroniki okanye adlale ngaphandle ngaphandle kokuba umsebenzi wakhe usenziwa.
Okanye, xelela umntwana wakho ukuba kusasa kukufunda, ukwenza imisebenzi, kunye nokugqiba iiprojekthi zobugcisa ngelixa iinyanga zidlala ngaphandle.
Abantwana abancinci badinga imisebenzi ehlelwe ngakumbi ukwahlula ixesha labo. Ixesha lokugcina ixesha, ixesha langaphandle, ixesha lokutya, kunye nexesha lokudla njengento efanayo.
3. Gxila kwiNkcazo efanelekileyo
Ukuziphatha okukhohlakeleyo nokuphazamisayo kuvame ukuphuma kwisifiso sabantwana sokufumana ingqalelo. Njalo xa uhlambalaza, uxwayise, okanye ugxeke umntwana wakho, uyamnaka. Kwaye kubantwana abaninzi, ingqwalasela engalunganga ingcono kunokuba ingakhathalelwanga nonke.
Nika umntwanakho uninzi lweengqalelo zomntu omnye . Yichitha ixesha kunye nomntwana othethayo, ukufunda, kunye nokwenza izinto ezimnandi.
Ukunyuka kwamanani okubakho okulungileyo-kunye nemizuzu eyi-10 ngosuku-kunokuhamba ngendlela ende yokunciphisa ukuziphatha okubi.
Dumisani ukuziphatha okuhle rhoqo. Bonisa ukubonga xa umntwana wakho edlala ngokuthula, wabelane nomzalwana wakhe, okanye ulandele indlela yakho. Ukudumisa yindlela elula yokuqinisa ukuziphatha kakuhle nokuthintela ukuziphatha okufunayo.
4. Yenza inkqubo yoNcedo
Iindlela zokufumana umvuzo ngenye yeendlela ezikhawulezayo zokulungisa iingxaki zokuziphatha. Khangela ukuziphatha okulungileyo ofuna ukukubona rhoqo.
Emva koko, sebenzisa izikhuthazo zokunceda umntwana wakho ahlangabezane neenjongo zakhe.
Ngoko ngelixa i-schooling school isabela kakuhle kwisatidi esicatshulwa esikhumbuza ukuba athathe amathoyizi akhe, umntwana osekhulile angashukunyiswa yinkqubo yoqoqosho lwempawu eyenza ukuba asebenzise ulwimi oluhloniphekileyo.
Gcina ukhumbule ukuba imivuzo ayifuni ukubandakanya izinto ezibiza okanye imisebenzi emikhulu. Kukho amaninzi amaninzi ahlawuleyo kunye neendleko ezingaphantsi ezingakhuthaza abantwana ukuba balandele imigaqo.
5. Landela ngeZiphumo
Xa umntwana wakho ephula imithetho, landela umphumo onengqiqo . Iziphumo kufuneka zigxile ekufundiseni-kunokuba ujezise-umntwana wakho ngokuziphatha kakubi.
Imiphumo ephumelelayo iya kunceda umntwana wakho aqaphele ezinye iindlela zokuziphatha kakubi kwixesha elizayo.
Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana wakho akayikubeka ibhayisikili yakhe, thatha ilungelo lakhe lokukhwela ngeeyure ezingama-24. Ukuba akafuni ukuhlambulula igumbi lakhe, ungamvumeli ukuba asebenzise i-elektroniki de lakhe igumbi licoceke. Nceda umntwana wakho athathe uxanduva lokuziphatha kwakhe kakubi.
Xelela abantwana bakho imiphumo phambi kwexesha xa kunokwenzeka. Yithi, "Ukuba awuhlambululi igumbi lakho ngaphambi kokutya, awukwazi ukuhamba epakini namhlanje." Emva koko, ushiye umntwana wakho ukuba enze ukhetho oluhle.
Musa ukwenza izisongelo ezingenanto. Bonisa umntwana wakho ukuba uthetha oko utshoyo kwaye uthetha oko uthethayo. Ukubambisana kuyisitshixo sokufumana umntwana wakho ukuphulaphula okokuqala xa uthetha.
Igama elivela kwi-Verywell
Bonke abantwana bafanele bavavanye imigaqo baze bafumane ubunzima ngexesha leeholide zasehlobo. Kulixesha elihle ukuba bavavanye imida yabo.
Zama ukubheka ukuphulwa komthetho njengoko iinzame zomntwana wakho zokumisela ukuzimela. Naluphi na ubunzima aphetheyo ukuziphatha kwakhe bubungqina obufuna inkxaso engakumbi kunye nesikhokelo esivela kuwe.
Okubaluleke ngakumbi, ke, zama ukuzonwabisa neeholide ehlobo. Ingaba ungumzali osebenzayo okanye uza kuba ekhaya kunye nabantwana bakho, thabathe umoya oqaqambileyo kwaye ujonge uvuyo kwizinto ezilula kunye nezingane zakho ngexesha leeholide zasehlobo.
> Imithombo
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https://doi.org/10.1016/j.sbspro.2011.10.333
Ukubuyisela kwakhona:
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