Yenza imithetho yasekhaya eyenza ukulindela kwakho kulindeleke.
Uninzi lweentsapho "zinemithetho engafanelekanga" abayilandelayo, njengokuthi "faka izitya zakho kwisitya emva kokutya." Kodwa, bambalwa abazali benza uluhlu lwemithetho esemthethweni yasekhaya.
Ukuba unalo uluhlu lwemithetho yasemakhaya, cinga ukudala uluhlu olubhaliweyo. Ukuchaza okulindelekileyo kunciphisa iingxaki zokuziphatha kwaye kwandiswe ukuziphatha okufanayo .
Nazi iingcebiso ezili-10 zokuseka imithetho yakho yasekhaya:
1. Sebenzisa i-Positive Spin
Zama ukuthetha imithetho ngendlela efanelekileyo xa kunokwenzeka. Yithi, "Sebenzisa ulwimi oluhloniphayo," esikhundleni sokuba "Akukho ukufunga ."
Qinisekisa ukuba uncokola nomntwana wakho malunga nokuba yintoni ebonisa ulwimi oluhloniphayo ukuze umntwana wakho aqonde ukuba umthetho uthini.
Unokufuna ukubonelela "ezimbalwa" njengeendlela zokuchazela umgaqo wakho. Ukuba unomthetho othi, "Sebenzisa ngokuchukumisayo kunye nezilwanyana," ungadinga ukucacisa oko kuthetha ukuba, "Musa ukutshitshisa, ungadonisi umsila wekiti, uze ungafaki izilwanyana."
2. Yilungiselele ukunyanzelisa iMigaqo
Ukuba uya kubandakanya umgaqo oluhlu, lungele ukunyanzelisa. Ukuba awuyi kujongana nemicimbi efana nokufunga okanye ukungenzi umbhede, ungayifaki eluhlu. Ngaphandle koko, uzothumela umyalezo wokuthi izinto eziluhlu ziyiziphakamiso, ngokuchasene nemithetho.
3. Ukubonelela ngeziphumo
Abantwana badinga imiphumo yokubanceda benze ukhetho olungcono ngexesha elizayo.
Imiphumo efanelekileyo yokuphula imithetho ingabandakanya izinto ezifana nokuphuma kwexesha , ukulahlekelwa kwamalungelo okanye ukubuyisela .
Cacisa imiphumo emibi yokuphula imithetho ngaphambi kwexesha kwaye abantwana bakho baya kuba nzima ukuvavanya imida ukubona oko kwenzekayo.
4. Hlaziya iMigaqo rhoqo
Imithetho oyifunayo xa umntwana wakho wayesekhulile esikolweni uya kuhluke kakhulu kwimithetho oyifunayo xa eselula.
Lungisa imithetho yakho yasekhaya njengoko usapho lwakho lukhula kwaye luguquka.
5. Vumela Abantwana Bakho Ukunikezela Ukungena
Ekugqibeleni, uluhlu lwemithetho yakho luya kuwe, kodwa umntwana wakho uya kukhuthazwa ukuba alandele imigaqo xa evakalelwa ukuba unethuba lokunikela ngegalelo. Umntwana wakho unokuza neengcamango ezintsha kunye nezinto ongazange uzibandakanye nangona zibandakanya, ngoko ube nengqondo evulekile.
6. Yiba ngumzekelo omhle
Imithetho yakho yasekhaya kufuneka ibe yimithetho yokuba wonke umntu alandelayo-kuquka nawe. Ngoko ungafaki imigaqo ongayilindele ukuyilandela. Ukuba umthetho ohlala endlwini yakho ukuthetha inyaniso, ungatsho ukuba wakho oneminyaka engama-13 ubudala kuphela nje ukuba athole ithikithi le-movie elibiza.
7. Yenza iimpazamo zakho
Nangona abantu abadala baphula imithetho ngamanye amaxesha. Kodwa ukuba uzama ukuphazamisa ukuziphatha kwakho okanye wenze izizathu zokuzibambela, abantwana bakho baya kwenza okufanayo xa bephula imithetho. Ngoko ke xa uthetha ilizwi okanye uxoxe amanga, zithatha uxanduva lokuziphatha kwakho.
8. Ukunikezela ngengcaciso emfutshane yeMigaqo
Abantwana baya kuba baninzi amathuba okubona ukubaluleka komgaqo ukuba baqonda ukuqiqa emva komgaqo. Ngoko cacisa, "Sihamba endlwini kuba akukho ndawo eyaneleyo yokujikeleza kwaye umntu angalimaza."
9. Ukushiya ngaphandle kweMimiselo ethile yoMntu
Umntwana ngamnye uya kufuna imithetho yakhe malunga nokulala, imisebenzi, okanye iingxaki ezithile zokuziphatha.
Musa ukubandakanya abo kwimithetho yendlu. Endaweni yoko, yenza ikhaya lakho lilandele uluhlu oluqhelekileyo olulindele ukuba wonke umntu ohlala ekhaya alandele-kuquka iindwendwe.
10. Thumela uluhlu lweeMithetho
Yenza uluhlu lwakho lwemithetho ebhaliweyo kwindawo apho wonke umntu angababona khona, njengesiqholo. Qinisekisa ukuba uluhlu alude kakhulu okanye luyinkimbinkimbi-awufuni ukuba lube lufana nencwadana yomgaqo-nkqubo kunokuba uluhlu lwemithetho yasekhaya.
Xa iindwendwe ziza ekhayeni lakho, njengomntwana oza kumdlalo wokudlala, unokumema umntwana wakho ukuba azi kakuhle isivakashi sakhe ngemithetho. Ngaloo ndlela ezinye izingane ziya kuqonda ukuba awuvumeli ukugxuma kwifenitshala okanye ukuba kubaluleke kakhulu ukusebenzisa amagama ngaphakathi xa u tyelela ikhaya lakho.
Imithombo
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