Abazali abangabodwa abangabantwana abangabantwana abangabantwana abangabantwana abangabantwana abangabantwana abangatshatangayo banokuzidela zabo iintswelo kwaye bafuna ukubeka abantwana babo kuqala Kodwa kuninzi ukuba ngumzali onobubele ophumelelayo kunokuba athathe isihlalo sokubuyela kwizinto eziphambili. Nantsi ingqalelo indlela onokuhlakulela ngayo imimiselo ebalulekileyo kunye neendlela zokucinga ebomini bakho.
Beka Iinjongo ezicacileyo
Kubalulekile ukuba nomfanekiso ocacileyo engqondweni yakho yinto ofuna yona kunye nezingane zakho.
Le yilapho ukukholelwa, ukuzimisela nokuzibophelela okufunekayo ukuba ngumzali ongenamzali onamandla. Ngoko ke zeziphi iinjongo kufuneka uzibekele wena kunye nosapho lwakho? Ngokuxhomekeke apho uhlala khona ngoku, baqhuba i-gamut kwiinjongo ezilula njengokudala isimiso sentsasa ukuze benze umnyango ngexesha elilula ukudala iinjongo zesikhathi eside-njengokubuyela esikolweni, ukufudukela ukuya kwintsapho, ukulawula imali yakho ngokuthe ngempumelelo, okanye ukuphucula ubuhlobo bakho bobudlelwane bobudlelwane kunye neyokuqala.
Hlaliswa kakuhle
Akukho mntu uhlawula ngaphezu kokuba asebenze abazali abangabodwa abangabelana ngokugcinwa ngokomzimba. Unayo ishedyuli yakho yokulawula, kunye neendlela zakho zesikolo rhoqo, umsebenzi wesikolo, kwaye ke yonke ipakethe kunye nokuhamba okuhamba kunye nokulawula iishedyuli zokugcinwa kwamanyathelo. Ukuze ulungelelanise, zama ukusebenzisa inkqubo yokuxhumela kwi-Intanethi njengeGoogle Calendar okanye Cozi. Zombili zezi zixhobo zivumela ukuba wenze amakhalenda, uphathe imicimbi ephindaphindayo, kwaye wabelane ngamakhalenda kunye namalungu entsapho-njengabazali bakho kunye neyokuqala.
Emva kokuba ukhululekile ukuyisebenzisa, fumana umkhwa wokongeza izinto ezintsha kwikhalenda ngokukhawuleza kokungena kwabo, njengemisitho yesikolo kunye neeshedyuli zezemidlalo zezingane. Enye yeenzuzo eziphambili kubazali-co-parent kukuba i-ikhalenda ye-intanethi ekwabelwana ngayo ithetha ukuba ngumsebenzi wakho wokujonga ikhalenda kwaye uhlale usesikhathini, ngokuphathelele uxanduva lwakho lokufowunela, ukuthumela umbhalo, okanye i-imeyile xa enye i-flyer ibuya ekhaya isikolo.
Kwaye kubantwana, inzuzo enkulu kukuba uya kuba sesibini kwimicimbi yabo, kuba ukwabelana ngeenkcukacha malunga noko kwenzekayo, kwaye nini, kulula kakhulu.
Yiba neFlexible
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba uhlelekile kangakanani, kuya kubakho izinto ezingahambi kakuhle okanye ziphuma ngokuhlukileyo kunokuba uzicwangcise. Xa kwenzeka, yenza ubuchule kwaye ujonge ezinye izisombululo. Ayikwazi ukuya esikolweni ukukhetha umntwana wakho emva kokunyamekela ngexesha ngenxa yentlanganiso? Shayela umnakekeli womnakekeli womntwana onokumthembayo, njengommelwane, ukuba ugcwalise. Ngaba umgcini wakho osele kumgca, ufuna ukutshintsha iiveki kunye nawe ngenyanga ezayo? Nangona kunokwenzeka ukuba wena kunye nezingane, zama ukulungelelanisa kwaye uvumele utshintsho-ngokulindela ukuba uya kuninika inceba efanayo kunye nokuguquguquka xa uhambo olungalindelekanga lukunyanzelisa ukuba ucele ukuthanda. (Ngamanye amaxesha isenzo esilula sokuphendula kwisicelo senceba konke okufuneka uqalise indlela entsha yokuguquguquka phakathi kwakho.)
... Ke kunjalo Qinisekile
Abazali abangabodwa abangamaqabane bayazi ukuba kufuneka babonise abantwana babo ukuba bathetha oko bathethayo kwaye bathetha oko bathethayo. Oko akuthethi ukuba awukwazi ukutshintsha ingqondo yakho! Kodwa xa uqeqesha abantwana bakho okanye uphumelele kwimiphumo efanelekileyo yokuziphatha kakubi, kufuneka uyenze ngokuqiniseka.
Kulula kakhulu ukubuyela emva kwesiphumo kunokuvumela ukuziphatha kakubi okanye isimo sengqondo esibi sidlule 'singaboni' kwaye kamva silindele ukuba abantwana bakho benze izilungiso. Kwaye ngaloo mizuzu xa ungaqiniseki ukuba ungayenza ntoni ekuphenduleni into eyenziwa ngabantwana bakho, khangela isicatshulwa esilandelayo uze ufowune umhlobo!
Yazi ixesha lokuzimela kunye nexesha lokuxhomekeka kwabanye
Lona lukhulu. Njengomzali ongabodwa, mhlawumbi usetyenziselwa ukuzimela, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ufuna okanye ukhetha. Kodwa abazali abangabodwa abangamaqabane bayazi ukuba kukho amaxesha apho kufuneka uhambe wedwa, kwaye kukho amaxesha apho kufuneka ujikeleze nabanye ukuze ufikelele ngosuku.
Ngoko thabatha eli cebiso: thepha kwinethiwekhi yakho. Unokulingwa ukuba ucinge ukuba akukho mntu ujikelezayo ukubonelela inkxaso kunye nokukhuthaza xa ufuna. Kodwa amathuba, awunayo yedwa njengoko uvakalelwa. Jonga kakuhle kwaye ufumanise amathuba amatsha okutyalomali kwiintsebenziswano. Ukusuka kubasebenzi abambisene nabamelwane kunye nabahlobo bamandulo, kukho inethiwekhi yenkxaso apho ukuba ungene kuyo.
Kholelwa kuwe
Le ngenye yezinto ezibaluleke kakhulu onokuzenza njengomzali ongabodwa. Imeko yakho ayinakuphelela, kodwa uwanele . Khangela emva kweenyanga ezidlulileyo kunye neminyaka (okanye iintsuku kunye neveki, ukuba ungumzali ongatshatanga). Zinike 'iipropati' kuzo zonke ozifezile kwaye wanyamezela ngokunyamezela ngoku. Yazisa oko ufikelele kwaye unamandla kangakanani namhlanje kunokuba wawukho ngosuku oqalise ngalolu hambo. Kwaye ukuba awuqinisekanga, nantsi into endiyincomayo: bamba iphephancwadi uze uqale ukubhala. Andikhathali ukuba ngaba ibhola yencwadana yokubetha! Vele uqale ukuhlawula into eyenzekayo, indlela ojongene nayo, kunye nento oyiqwalasele ngawe endleleni. Cinga nje njengamaxwebhu okukhula kwakho. Ngexesha elizayo xa uzibuza ukuba ubude kangakanani, uza kukhangela emva kwaye uyibone apho kwincwadi yakho.
Yazi ukuba ubunzima bexeshana
Abazali abangabodwa abangenabileyo banombono. Bayakwazi ukubona ukuba nayiphi na into enzima kakhulu ngoku ayikho into ebaluleke kakhulu oya kuba nayo kwinyanga ukususela ngoku-okanye kwiveki ukususela ngoku. Ukubeka umxholo malunga nento ohamba nayo, engeza ibinzana elithi "ngoku" kwigama lakho lokuthetha ngesigama. Ingxakini yokulwa ne-ex yakho yokugcinwa kwengane? Okwangoku- kuba isisombululo siza. Ukhungathekile ukuba wakho oneminyaka emine ubudala ukhonkcekile kwaye uyamhlophe? Okwangoku. Qhubeka ukwabelana nothando lwakho oluninzi, kwaye ukuzithemba kwakhe kuya kukhula. Xa uqaphela ukuba iingxaki zakho zangoku zisesigxina, uyazivumela ukuba ubone ixesha elide. Yaye ke uya kuqala ukujonga lonke ithemba nethemba lakho elizayo.
Buyisa
Ekugqibeleni, abazali abangenabileyo abangamaqabane bayazi ukuba bafumene yonke into enamandla kunye nokuzithemba abaye bayakhela phezu kweminyaka, kwaye banomdla ngokuxelela uhambo lwabo ukuze abanye bazuze. Cinga ukuqalisa iqela elixhasayo lomzali kwindawo yakho ukuze abanye abazali abangabodwa banokufumana inkxaso, ukukhuthazwa kunye nobudlelwane. Ingaba uyayifumana kwisikolo sakho sezingane okanye udibana kunye nevenkile yendawo yekhofi emva kwenyanga, uya kumangaliswa ukuba uninzi oomama kunye nabazali kwidolophu yakho bekhange iqela lijoyine!
Abazali abangabodwa abangamaqabane bayazi ukuba lo msebenzi awulula, nangayiphi na indlela. Kodwa nabo bayazi ukuba ixabiso elixabisekileyo nelungelo elikhulayo lokukhulisa abantwana bakho njengomama okanye utata ongatshatanga. Uza kuba neentsuku phambili-siyakuthembisa-xa uzibamba ugcinile, uyamangalisa ngokuqinisekileyo kwakho uzive ngomzuzwana okwakunokukushiya uziva unxunguphekile kwaye ungaqiniseki. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ungaphi kulolu hambo, yazi ukuba umsebenzi owenzayo umcimbi, kwaye ngamnye kunyaka odlulileyo, uya kufumana enye inqanaba lokuzithemba namandla. Kungekudala, uza kubona oko abanye babonayo kuwe ngokukhawuleza ngoku: uyadwala!