Uphi umehluko kwaye unokunceda njani umntwana wakho ukuba aziphathe?
Imiphumo yemvelo, njengoko igama elithi "yendalo" lithetha ukuba, kwenzeka ntoni ngaphandle kwegalelo okanye ukuphazamiseka ngenxa yesenzo okanye isigqibo. Eminye imizekelo emihle yale nto ingaba ngumntwana wenqaba ukubeka ijacket xa kubanda ngaphandle kwaye angabi nantoni na enxibayo xa eziva ekhulelwe okanye umntwana ekhumbula ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuzisa imali yasemini esikolweni aze alambile ngexesha lesidlo sasemini.
Ngesinye icala, iziphumo ezinikwa ngumntwana ngumzali okanye umkhathaleli xa umntwana engenzi kakuhle okanye ephule umgaqo, kwaye zixhomekeke ekuziphatheni okubi. Ngokomzekelo, umntwana ongaliphulaphuli xa exelelwe ukuba angayi kuphosa ibhola ejikelezayo endlwini kwaye aphule isibane kufuneka alahle imali yokunika imali okanye enze imisebenzi eyongezelelweyo ukukunceda ukuhlawula indawo yokubuyisela; umntwana otyelwe ukuba angakhweli ibhayisiki esitalatweni kodwa wenza njalo mhlawumbi ibhayisiki ithatyathwe yonke imihla.
Iziphumo zingaba zilungile okanye zibi. Ukulala ngethuba kuya kwenza umntwana azizwe ephumle kwaye ekulungele ukufunda ngosuku olulandelayo xa elwa nokulala ngexesha lokulala kunye nabagadi beTV okanye umboniso weTV uya kubangela ukuba umntwana abe nomuzwa wokuzilahla, u-cranky, kwaye ngokubanzi ephuma kwiintlobo ngosuku olulandelayo.
Iziphumo Zifundisa Izingane?
Njengomgaqo jikelele, imiphumo enengqiqo isoloko ikhethekileyo xa ifika kwimpilo yengane kunye nokhuseleko.
Emva kwakho konke, awuyi kuvumela umntwana ukuba angagqithisi amazinyo akhe kwaye avume ukulandelwa kwemvelo-izibonda-ukuba zifake emlonyeni wakhe; Kwimeko apho, umntwana wenqaba okanye ukulibala ukusibhabana kuya kulandelwa ngesiphumo esinengqiqo, njengokungafumani nayiphi na i-dessert okanye iilekese xa yonke intsapho inayo.
Zomibini imiphumela nemvelo ingancedisa ukufundisa abantwana ukuba benze ukhetho olungcono kwaye bafunde kwiimpazamo zabo. (Umntwana wakho akayi kulwa nokuzisa ijekethi ngexesha elizayo xa wayexhaphaza, umzekelo.Umntwana olahlekelwa ukufikelela kwiselfowuni yakhe yokuthumela imiyalezo emininzi unokukhumbula ukuba akayi kuphinda ayenze kwakhona.) Ezinye iintlobo iziphumo zokuguqula indlela yokuziphatha komntwana :
- Iziphumo zivumela ukuba ukhetho olungalungileyo okanye ingxaki yokuziphatha ingabikho kumntwana wakho. Isenzo siphumela kwisiphumo; Ugxininiso ekukhethweni kunye nesiphumo, kungekhona kumntwana.
- Akukho zihlazo, ukugweba, okanye isohlwayo. Ukhetho lwenziwa, kwaye lwakhokelela kwinto ethile, emfutshane kwaye elula. Ngoko ke ukuba umntwana akaqapheli aze alahleke okanye aphule into ethile, uya kubuzwa ukuba uza kusebenza njani ukuba atshintshe, ngaphandle kokumenza azive kakubi malunga noko akwenzileyo.
- Iziphumo zithatha umsindo kunye nesohlwayo kwi-equation kunye nokubeka ingqalelo ekufundiseni. Akukho sidingo sokusabela ngeemvakalelo kunye nomsindo nomntwana wakho ngenxa yoko oko kuya kumfundisa, kungekhona inkulumo ende malunga noko akwenzileyo okanye ukukhala okanye ukujeziswa .
Ibeka uxanduva kunye nokukhethwa kwizandla zomntwana wakho.
Iindlela eziMandla zokuSebenzisa iMiphumo yeNdalo kunye neNgqiqo
- Khumbula ukuba izisongelo kunye nezohlwayo azikho imfuneko. "Ukuba awuyikumisa ngoku, ndiya ku ..." akuyimfuneko kuba kuqondakala ukuba ukuba umntwana wakho "x," kuya kuba nomphumo we "y". Ukwenza uluhlu lwemiphumo kuya kunceda umntwana wakho abone ukuba iziphumo ziya kuba nini xa enza ukhetho olubi.
- Gcina ukhumbule ukuba konke kukukhumbuza umntwana wakho ukhetho lwakhe. Esikhundleni sosongelo olunjengokuthi, "Ukuba ungayeki ukukhaba umntakwenu ngoku, ndiya kukubeka ngexesha!" Unokumkhumbuza umntwana wakho ukuba ukhethe: Unokuyeka ukukhaba umntakwabo okanye uhlale phantsi kwaye ucingisise ngezenzo zakhe uze ulungele ukuxolisa kwaye ujoyine yonke intsapho.
- Hlala uhlala. Ukuba umntwana wakho ubonisa umsindo okanye intukuthelo xa ebhekene nesiphumo, hlala uhlale uphawule uze ukhumbuze umntwana wakho ukuba oku kukhethwe nguye. Unganikeli kwaye umvumele abe nendlela yakhe.
- Vumela umphumo ulungele impazamo. Ukuba umntwana wakho akayi kuthatha amathoyizi okanye iimpahla zakhe emva kokubuzwa, umphumo unokuthi akafumani ukudlala kunye nemidlalo yakhe-okanye ikhompyutha okanye imidlalo yevidiyo-ade alungise ukuhlambulula emva kwakhe.
- Thatha imvakalelo ekusebenzisaneni kwakho kwaye uthethe kwintetho enobubele kodwa eqinile. Asikho isidingo sokuba nomsindo okanye ukucaphukisa umntwana wakho kuba yinto elula yezizathu kunye nempembelelo-iphutha likhokelela kwisiphumo.
- Musa ukuthetha ngexesha elidlulileyo -khuphela kwixesha elizayo kunye nekamva elizayo. Gwema ukuthetha izinto ezinje, "Awuze uphulaphule" okanye "Uhlala ulibala." Unamathele ekuziphatheni ngakwesokunene, kwaye ukhetho lomntwana olwenzayo luya kukhokelela kwisiphumo. Zama ukuhlala kwizenzo ezidlulileyo okanye wenze izigwebo malunga nezenzo zakhe zekamva.