Iimpazamo eziqhelekileyo zezihlandlo abazali abazenzayo nendlela yokuzilungisa
Kunesizathu sokuba kutheni ixesha lokusetyenziswa liphuma ngabazali abaninzi - xa lisebenza, lisebenza ngokwenene. Kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba isebenza rhoqo, nangenxa yabazali ababona ixesha lokuphuma kwexesha bawenza umehluko ekuziphatheni kwezingane zabo. Inyaniso kukuba kwezinye iintsapho, ukuphuma kwexesha kungeke kwenzeke ngempumelelo kubantwana babo, okanye kusebenze umntwana omnye kodwa kungekhona umntakwabo.
Ngamanye amazwi, ixesha lokuphuma alikho ubungakanani obufanayo-sonke isisombululo sokulungisa ukuziphatha kakubi kwezingane.
Abanye abantwana bayenqaba ukuhlala ngexesha okanye bachithe ixesha lonke bekhala baze bekhala. Abanye abanokukhathalela ngokuhlala bemi kwaye bahlala bevuya ngokudlala kwigumbi labo. Okanye umntanakho angaphumelela kwixesha elivuthayo kunokuba ngaphambili kwaye ulungele ukubuyela kwimimoya yokuziphatha embi.
Ezinye izizathu zokuba ixesha lokuphumla lingahle lisisebenzele wena ngoku
- Umntwana wakho uyazi ukuba kuyingozi. Ungasongela ixesha lakho kumntwana wakho kodwa ungalandeli. Njengenkwenkwezi eyakhala ingxolo, isongela ukubeka umntwana wakho ngexesha lokuphuma kwaye ungayenzi okanye uyinqweno kwaye ukumbeka ngexesha ngokuphuma kweso sihlandlo kunye nokubuya emva kwesikhashana xa umntwana wakho ethukuthele uya kuphucula ukusebenza kwakho ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Xa umntwana wakho enza into efuna umphumo, mbeke ngexesha ngokukhawuleza kwaye uhlale uhambelana. (Oku kuya kuzo zonke izicwangciso zokuziphatha kwabafundi , kungekhona nje ukuphuma kwexesha.)
- Umntwana wakho udlala ngamathoyizi egumbini lakhe kunokucinga ngokuziphatha kwakhe ngexesha lokuphuma. Yaye ukuba uvumela umntwana wakho ukuba abukele iTV okanye udlale kwifowuni yakhe okanye ikhompyutha okanye ithebhulethi, akusiyo ixesha elide lokuzonwabisa.
- Uthetha nomntwana wakho ngelixa ephumayo. Umntwana wakho unokufumana njani ixesha kunye nendawo yokucinga ngokuziphatha kwakhe kakubi kwaye kutheni ekuphumeni xa uthetha naye ixesha lonke? Ukuphuma kwexesha kufuneka kube yileyo - ikhefu - kwaye kungekhona umzuzu wokugxeka umntwana wakho, uthethe ngezinto azenzileyo, ukucacisa ukuba kutheni ekuphumeni kwakhe, okanye ukubandakanyeka nayo nayiphi na indlela. Kumele kube yithuba lomntwana wakho (kunye nawe) ukuzola kunye nomntwana wakho ukuba athathe ikhefu kuyo nayiphi na ingxabano okanye ingxaki ekhokelela ekuziphatheni okubi, ukubuyisela amandla akhe, nokucinga malunga noko akufanele akufanele akwenze . Akusixesha lokuba abazali baxoxe nomntwana wabo, bakhala , okanye baveze ukukhungatheka. Unokuxoxa ngokuzinzileyo into eyenziwa ngumntwana wakho kunye nento angayenza ngcono ngexesha elizayo emva kokuphuma kwexesha.
- Umntwana wakho uzizwa engakhuselekanga ngexesha lokuphuma. Ukuba umntwana wakho ukhawuleza kwaye udidekile malunga nokuhamba ngexesha, mhlawumbi uziva ekhuselekile. Ngelizwi elihlazileyo, mchazele ukuba uvele unike ixesha lokuba kwindawo elithulileyo ukuze azinqabise aze acinge ngezinto azenzileyo. Qinisekisa umntwana wakho ukuba uyamthanda kwaye uya kuthetha naye emva kokuphuma kwexesha. Ngabantwana abancinci, unokuba ufuna ukuhlala kufuphi (kodwa ungabandakanyekanga naye) ngelixa uhlala ngexesha.
- Ixesha elide lide kakhulu. Umntwana oneminyaka emi-5 ubudala , imizuzu eyi-15 yokuphuma ixesha elide kakhulu. Njengomgaqo oqhelekileyo, gcina ixesha elifutshane ukufumana abantwana abancinci. Ubunjani, ubuninzi bokuba yiyiphi into ebalulekileyo: Ufuna umntwana wakho abe kwindawo elithule apho unokucinga malunga noko akwenzileyo ukuze azifumane ngexesha lokuphuma kunye noko angakwenza ngexesha elizayo ukuba angapheli kwakhona.
- Kuhle kakhulu. Ukuba uthumela umntwana wakho egumbini lakhe apho angayidlala ngokuzonwabisa kunye namathoyizi akhe okanye ambeke phambi kweTV okanye amnike ithebhulethi okanye ikhompyutha ukuba idlale nayo, akusiyo ixesha. Ufuna indawo ephumlileyo, yokuphazamiseka ukucinga ngokuziphatha kwakhe.
- Uthukuthele, ukhala, okanye zombini xa umxelela ukuba ahambe ngexesha. Ukuba unengqondo xa ubeka umntwana wakho ngexesha lokuphuma, ungathumela umntwana wakho umyalezo othi uyamlahlela esikhundleni sokuba umnike umphumo ngenxa yokuziphatha kwakhe. Njengoko ukuzola kungathathaka, ngoko unokushukukuthela kunye nobushushu. Ukuze ugweme imfazwe yentando kunye neenyembezi ezininzi kunye neengxubusho, kubalulekile ukuba uchaze umntwana wakho ukuba uyamthanda, kodwa ukuba awuyi kwamkela ukuziphatha kwakhe okubi. Yiba noxolo kwaye unothando njengoko umxelela ukuba ixesha eliphumayo liphumela ekuziphatheni kwakhe kwaye lixesha lokucinga ngokucotha ukuze enze ukhetho olungcono ngexesha elizayo, kungekhona isijeziso ngenxa yokuba uyacaphuka.
- Uyeka emva kokuzama ixesha eliqela. Ukuba ixesha lingasebenzi (umntwana wakho uphazamiseka; awuboni naluphi na uphuculo lokuziphatha; njl), zinike ixesha. Umntwana wakho unokufuna nje ukulungelelanisa kwingcamango yokucinga kwindawo ephumlileyo kwaye ufunde indlela yokuzincama. Yiba njalo kwaye uhlalise kwaye uqhubeke usebenzisa ixesha lokuphuma ngaphandle kweveki ezimbalwa ngaphambi kokuba ulahle ithawula. Kwaye njengoko umntwana wakho ekhula, unokufuna ukuzama ukuphuma kwakhona ukuze ufunde ukuthabatha kunye nokuzincama xa ecatshukiswa - ubuchule obaluleke kakhulu kubantwana abaneminyaka esikolweni ukuphuhlisa.
- Uchitha ixesha ixesha. Ngaba umntwana wakho usebenzisa ixesha elide ngexesha lokuphuma ngaphandle kokusebenzisana okulungileyo nawe? Ukuba umntwana wakho uphume ixesha lonke, unokufuna ukubheka oko kubangela ukuziphatha okubi kwaye ufumane iindlela zokuyeka ukuziphatha ngaphambi kokuba uqale. Unokufuna ukujonga ezinye iindlela zokuqeqesha umntwana wakho, njengokuthatha amalungelo. Eyona nto ibaluleke kunabo bonke, qiniseka ukuba wena kunye nomntwana wakho wakha uxhamla oluqinileyo , unobungozi obuninzi kwaye udlala kwaye uhlekise kunye kunye , kwaye unxibelelane rhoqo (njengokuba unokutya kweentsapho rhoqo kangangoko unakho).
- Awuthetha izinto kunye nomntwana wakho emva kokuphuma kwexesha. Enye yezona zinto zibalulekileyo zexesha uxoxa nomntwana wakho emva kokuxubusha okwenzekayo, kutheni bekufuneka kubekho umphumo, kwaye yintoni anokuyenza ngokungafani ngexesha elizayo. Ngokudibanisa nomntwana wakho emva kokufumana ithuba lokuzola kwaye ucinge ngexesha lokuphuma, ubonisa umntwana wakho ukuba uyamthanda kwaye ukhona ukuba amkhokele ekuziphatheni okungcono kwixesha elizayo.