Iziphumo zeSaveyi malunga Nokuba Abazali Nabafundisi Bacinga Ngomusa
Ukuba ithoni yezopolitiko zase-US kunye neengxelo zee-trolls kunye neempendulo ezimbi kunye nokuziphatha kakubi ngabantu abakufanele babe yienkokheli zethu kunye nabameli bakho ukuba ukhathazekile malunga naluphi uhlobo lo mzekelo ongenakuchaza ukulungiselela abantwana, awunabo bodwa: Ucwaningo lwesizwe olukhishwe yiSesame Workshop ngo-Oktobha 2016 lubonisa ukuba ububele bubekwe engqondweni yabazali abaninzi e-US
Uphando oluthiwa "K Ngomusa: I-National Survey ngoBubele noBantwana," yafumanisa ukuba malunga nekota yesithathu yabazali kunye nabantwana abathandathu abane-5 bahlala bexhalabisa ukuba ihlabathi liyindawo engabonakaliyo kubantwana. Ngokwenzululwazi, abazali kunye nootitshala banenkxalabo yokuba abantu abaphumelelanga indlela yokunceda abanye, kwaye bakholelwa ukuba abantwana badinga izakhono zentlalo kunye neengqondo ukuze bakwazi ukwenza kakuhle ebomini.
Ukuhlola Ububele
Ukubonakalisa umsebenzi wabo njengonceda abantwana yonke indawo "bakhule banobuqili, banamandla kwaye banomusa," iSeshame Workshop yanquma ukuhlola ingxaki yomtshato njengembambano ebalulekileyo kubantwana nakwiintsapho kulo nyaka. Bakhetha ukugxininisa ngobubele ngenxa yokuba "inani elinyukayo leendaba zeentlanga zomsindo, ukwesaba, ukuxhatshazwa, kunye nobudlova, kunye nombono jikelele wokungabikho kokungabikho komntu owenza intetho yentlalo," nangenxa yophando ebonisa ukuba i-narcissism iyanda kwaye inesihe yehla.
I-Sesame Workshop yahlolwa ngabazali abangaphezu kwama-2,000 abantwana abaneminyaka engama-3 ukuya kwe-12 nge-phone kwaye baqhuba uphando lwe-intanethi lwabafundisi abangama-500 kwi-pre-K ukuya kwibanga lesi-6. Iziphumo zibonisa ukuba bobabini abazali kunye nootitshala banenkxalabo yokuba abantwana namhlanje bakhula kwihlabathi elingenabubele kwaye amaqela amabini avumelana ukuba ububele kubalulekile kwimpumelelo yezingane, nangaphezulu kwamabakala amahle. Ezinye izinto ezigqwesileyo zophando:
- Iipesenti ezingama-70 zabazali bathi zihlala zixhalabisa ukuba ihlabathi liyindawo engenabubele umntwana wabo
- Iipesenti ezingama-86 zotitshala bathi bahlala bexhalabisa ukuba ihlabathi liyindawo engabonakaliyo yabantwana
- Iipesenti ezingama-73 zabazali bathi kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umntwana wabo abe nomusa kwabanye ngaphandle kokuphumelela ngokwezemfundo
- Iipesenti ezingama-78 zootitshala bathi kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba abantwana babe nomusa kwabanye kunokuba baphumelele ngokwezemfundo
Kodwa ngoxa abazali nabafundisi begxininise ukubaluleka kobubele kulungile, kubonakala ngathi kuncinci kokunqanyulwa kwento entle kuthetha ngayo. Abazali bathi ukuhlonipha kwakubaluleke ngaphezu kokucingela okanye ukunceda ( uvelwano ) ngoxa ootitshala bebonisa uvelwano ngokuziphatha : Xa kubuzwa ukuba, "Yiyiphi ebaluleke kakhulu ukuba umntwana wakho abe khona ngoku?" Amaphesenti angamashumi amahlanu anesibhozo wabazali bakhetha ukuziphatha ngokuthelekiswa nama-41 ekhulwini kwabazali abakhetha ukuvelana. Phakathi kootitshala, iipesenti ezingama-63 zathi ukubonisa uvelwano kubaluleke kakhulu xa kuqhathaniswa nama-37 ekhulwini abakhetha ukuziphatha.
Ukuqonda imilinganiselo kunye novelwano
Ukwahlukana okuthakazelisayo kubonisa ukuba abazali banokulinganisa imilinganiselo efanelekileyo novelwano. Kodwa inyaniso, imbeko kunye novelwano ayikho into efanayo. (Umzekelo, umntwana onentsingiselo angabonisa imbeko enkulu phambi kwabantu abadala aze aguquke aze axhaphaze okanye amthobe umntu.) Xa kuthethwa ukuba ubani omele afundise abantwana ububele, ootitshala babika ukuba abazali banokwenza okungaphezulu (kuphela i-44 ekhulwini ootitshala bathi bakholelwa ukuba abazali "bonke" okanye "abaninzi" bakhulisa abantwana babo ukuba bahloniphe, kwaye kuphela ama-34 ekhulwini athi "bonke" okanye "abaninzi" abazali bakhulisa abantwana ukuba babe novelwano novelwano)
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, abazali bafundisa ngokunyanisekileyo abantwana babo ububele: Abaninzi abangama-75 ekhulwini abazali baxela ukuba bathetha nabantwana babo ubuncinane amaxesha ambalwa ngeveki okanye ngaphezulu ngokubona izinto kwiindawo zokujonga abantu, kwaye Ipesenti ezingama-88 zathi umntwana wabo unomusa.
Ngaphantsi
Ngoko oko kuthetha ntoni kubazali, ootitshala kunye nezingane? Kukho ubutyebi bobubungqina bokuthi izakhono zentlalo nezengqondo ezifana novelwano nobubele kubalulekile ekuphumeleleni kwezingane. (Yenza ingqiqo-emva koko, ngubani ofuna ukusebenzisana ne-narcissist kunye noxhaphaza kwiqela labo emsebenzini okanye abe ngumhlobo nomntu ozikhathalela yena kuphela?) Abazali, ootitshala kunye nabo bonke banokwenza inxaxheba yabo ukuze bancede abantwana bahloniphe, onobubele, onombulelo kunye nokufunda imilinganiselo efanelekileyo. Ukuba sinokunceda abantwana ba namhlanje bafunde ukuhlonelana, kunokube nethemba elizayo.