Kutheni kubalulekile ukuqeqesha abantwana nokusekela iziseko zokuziphatha kakuhle
Ukuba uke waziwa abantwana abangakhange baqeqeshwe ngabazali babo, mhlawumbi uye wabona izibonelo ezintle kakhulu zokubangela ukuba kubalulekile ukuqeqesha abantwana.
Ukulungiswa akulungele abantwana kuphela, kubalulekile ukuba banonwabo kunye nenhlalakahle. Uqeqesho luyinto ebalulekileyo ekuphuculeni umntwana ophilileyo njengokutya okunomsoco, ukuzivocavoca umzimba kunye nolwazi, uthando kunye nezinye iimfuno ezisisiseko.
Ngaphandle kokuqeqeshwa, abantwana abanako izixhobo eziyimfuneko ukuhamba ngobuhlobo kunye nemingeni ebomini, njengokuzimela, ukuhlonipha abanye kunye nokukwazi ukusebenzisana noontanga.
Ngokuchasene noko abanye abazali abangakholelwa ngokuphosakeleyo, abantwana abangakhange baqeqeshwe rhoqo abayonwabanga. Enyanisweni, ukungaphumeleli ukuqeqesha abantwana kubangele kubangele abantwana abangenwavuyo, abanomsindo, baze bacaphuke. Kwabo abazungezile, umntwana ongaqeqeshwayo uya kuba yinkampani engamangalisi, kwaye umntwana ongenakho uqeqesho angakufumanisa nzima ukwenza abahlobo.
Kubantwana beminyaka yobudala, ngokukodwa, ukufunda indlela yokulawula ukuziphatha kwabo kunye nokulawula iimpembelelo zabo ezimbi kubaluleke kakhulu. Njengabantwana besikolo esikwiminyaka eyisikolo esikwiminyaka eyisikolo esisezikolo eziphambili kunye nentuthuko yeminyaka yeshumi elivisayo, baya kuba nako ukufikelela ngempumelelo kwimingeni kunye nezilingo ukuba banezixhobo zokuziqeqesha .
Ukuqonda indlela Uqeqesho olusebenza ngayo
Kukho izizathu ezininzi zokuba umzali angafuni ukuqeqesha umntwana. Abanye abazali banokungafuni ukuqeqesha abantwana kuba bafuna ukuphepha ukuxabana okanye ngenxa yokuba abafuni ukuba umntwana wabo abe nomsindo kubo. Abanye bangakwazi okanye abanqweneli ukunikela ixesha kunye namandla kumsebenzi wokuqeqesha abantwana.
Nangona kunjalo, abanye banokuba neengcinga ezingathandekiyo zokuqeqeshwa xa bebantwana kwaye bafuna ukwenza izinto zibe lula kwizingane zabo ngokuziphucula imithetho kunye nokuzinikela ngokukhululekile.
Kodwa inyaniso kukuba, ukuziphatha akukona ukudala ukungquzulana nomntwana wakho okanye ukukhawuleza. Uqeqesho lwabantwana, xa lwenziwa ngokuchanekileyo, alukho malunga nokuzama ukulawula umntwana wakho kodwa ngokumbonisa indlela yokulawula ukuziphatha kwakhe. Akukona ukujezisa umntwana ngokwenza into engalunganga kodwa ngokubeka iiparameters ezicacileyo kunye nemiphumo yokuphula imithetho ukuze afunde indlela yokuzilawula ngayo.
Umntwana ofundiswe ngokufanelekileyo kokungalunganga kwaye unengqiqo eqinileyo yezinto ezimbi kunye nokuziphatha okulungileyo uyazi ukuba wenze into engalunganga. Uya kufuna ukuziphatha ngokuchanekileyo ngomnqweno wokuba ngummi omhle kunye nelungu losapho lwakhe noluntu-kungekhona ngenxa yokuba uyesaba isijeziso.
Kubaluleka kokubeka iziseko zokuziphatha okuhle
Ziziphi abazali abaninzi abanqwenela ukuqeqesha abantwana abangaqondi ukuba yintoni eyonakalisa umntwana ukuba angabi nemida. Ngaphandle kokuqeqeshwa, abantwana baya kuba bengabikho kwezi zinto ezibalulekileyo zokuphila:
- Abayi kuba nokuzithiba.
- Abayi kubahlonela abazali babo okanye amanye amagunya.
- Abayi kukwazi ukuziphatha okufanelekileyo.
- Baya kuba ngabam, ngokuzingca, kunye neenkampani ezingenakulinganiswa.
- Abayi kuba nezakhono zentlalo ebalulekileyo ekwenzeni abahlobo njengovelwano, umonde, nokwazi ukwabelana.
- Baya kuba banokuthi bangene kwiimpawu ezingalunganga ezinobungozi kwaye zi nokuba yingozi kubo nakwabanye.
- Abayi kuba nemihlali.
Iimpawu zabantwana abaye baqeqeshwa
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, abantwana abaye banikezwa ngokuqinileyo kodwa bakhokelo lothando banalo mfanelo kunye namakhono alandelayo:
- Bazinokuzithiba ngakumbi kwaye banokwaneleyo.
- Banoxanduva ngakumbi kwaye banandipha "ukulungiswa" nokunceda abanye ekhaya, esikolweni nakwihlabathi jikelele.
- Baye banokuzithemba. Bayazi ukuba izimvo zabo neemvakalelo zabo ziya kuvakala, kwaye abazali babo bayabathanda nangona benza iimpazamo.
- Bayazi ukuba bayaziphendulela zabo iimpazamo okanye ukuziphatha kakubi, kwaye banako ukwenza ukhetho olufanelekileyo kuba bafuna, kungekhona ngenxa yokuba bayesaba isigwebo.
- Ziyamnandi ukuba zijikeleze kwaye zikwazi ukuba nexesha elilula ukwenza abahlobo.
Kakade ke, indlela esiziphatha ngayo ngokubaluleka kukuba kubaluleke kangakanani nokuba ngaba asiqeqeshi. Ukumangalela umntwana akuthethi ukuthungela okanye ukulahlekelwa ngumsindo (nangona ungumntu, bonke abazali banako ukufumana loo mizuzu xa sikwazi ukucaphuka okanye ukuphazamiseka ngokuziphatha komntwana kakubi).
Isibalulekileyo sokuziphatha kakuhle kwengqondo kubantwana bakho kugcina ukupholisa kwakho (kwaye uzinike ixesha xa kudingekile) ukuze ukwazi ukunxibelelana nomntwana wakho ngokukhawuleza malunga nokuba yiyiphi indlela kwaye ayimkelekanga indlela yokuziphatha kunye nendlela angenza ngayo ukhetho olungcono kwaye ufunde kwiimpazamo zakhe.