Isatidi yokuziphatha yenye yezinto ezilula kunye nokukhawuleza zokuguqula izixhobo ezikhoyo. Abantwana bathanda ingxelo esheshayo enikezelwa yinkqubo yomvuzo kunye neetati zokuziphatha kunokubanceda bahlale bekhuthazwa ukuba bahlale kwindlela.
Isatidi yokuziphatha akufanele isetyenziswe ukuhlazisa okanye ukuhlazisa umntwana wakho. Ukuva izinto ezinjengokuthi, "Unesiqu esinye kuphela ngeveki," ayiyi kukhuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba enze ngcono.
Kodwa, ungathatha amanyathelo ukwenza ishadi lokuziphatha ithuba elivuzayo.
Nazi iindlela ezisixhenxe zokudala ishadi eliziphatha kakuhle:
1. Ukuchonga ukuziphatha okufunayo
Khetha indlela ofuna ukuyijonga ngayo kuqala. Kungcono ukuqala kulula, ngokukhetha ukuya kwiimpawu ezintathu ofuna ukujongana nazo. Ukusebenza kwimilinganiselo emininzi ngexesha kunokudideka.
Qinisekisa ukuba ufumana ethile. Ukuthi, "Yiba luhle," ayiyi kusebenza ngenxa yokuba umntwana wakho akayi kuqonda oko kuthetha oko.
Hlela indlela yokuziphatha ngendlela elungileyo-sithetha oko ufuna ukukubona umntwana wakho akwenzayo. Ngokomzekelo, kunokuthi, "Musa ukubetha," zama "Sebenzisa ngokuchukumisayo ngetek."
2. Qinisekisa ukuba Zihlandlo Kangakanani Ukubuyisela Ukuziphatha Okulungileyo
Cinga ngantoni na ukuba umntwana uya kufuna njani impendulo ngokuziphatha kwakhe okuhle. Abantwana abancinci bangadinga isitiki, i-checkmark, okanye inkwenkwezi ukubonisa inkqubela yabo ngamaxesha amaninzi ngemini, kodwa abantwana abakhulileyo banako ukulinda kude kube sekupheleni komhla wempendulo.
Unokufuna ukuvuza umntwa wakho phakathi kweentsasa, ngokuhlwa, okanye ngokuhlwa. Okanye, hlukanisa imini ibe ngamacandelo amathathu ahlukeneyo: ngaphambi kwesikolo, emva kwesikolo, kunye nexesha lokulala. Unokwenza isigqibo sokuba kulungele ukugxila ekuziphatheni ngexesha elinye lemihla kuphela.
3. Khangela imivuzo emikhulu
Nangona iitshathi zesikhombi zingashukumisela umntwana oneminyaka engama-1000 ubudala, abantwana abaninzi banokutshintshisana nalabo abashicileli ukuba bafumane umvuzo omkhulu wokuhlala bekhuthazwa.
Noko ke, imivuzo ayikho isidingo sokubiza. Kukho amaninzi amaninzi ahlawuleyo kunye neendleko eziphantsi .
Kubalulekile ukusebenzisa umvuzo wakho umntwana onomdla wokufumana. Kwabanye abantwana, ixesha le-elektronike lingaba ngumvuzo ophumelelayo. Kwabanye abantwana, ukuhlala eminye imizuzu engaphezulu kwemizuzu eyi-15 kunokuba ngumvuzo ongcono.
Yenza umntwana wakho anikele ngegalelo kwizinto afuna ukuzenza. Emva koko, uya kukhuthazwa ukuba asebenze kule mivuzo.
4. Misela iNjongo yoMntwana Wakho
Yenza umgomo oqikelelweyo ochaza xa umntwana wakho uya kuvuzwa. Unokufuna iinjongo zemihla ngemihla ezinjengokuthi, "Ukuba ufumana ezintathu zokutshekisha, siya kudlala umdlalo emva kokutya."
Izingane ezindala ziyakwazi ukulinda ixesha elithile umvuzo. Cinga ngenjongo efana neyo, "Ukuba ufumana iindawo zokujonga ezintlanu zokunikezela emsebenzini wakho wesikolo ngexesha ngeli veki, siya kupaki ngoLwesihlanu emva kwesikolo."
5. Chaza umzobo kumntwana wakho
Thetha nomntwana wakho ngeseshati yokuziphatha. Yenza icacise ukuba isatshati malunga nokumnceda, kungekhona ukumjezisa.
Thetha malunga nendlela efika ngayo kuye ukufumana amalungelo kunye nemivuzo yokuziphatha kwakhe okuhle. Nika umntwana wakho ithuba lokubuza imibuzo malunga nendlela isatidi yokuziphatha isebenza ngayo.
6. Sebenzisa iNdumiso yokuThuthukiswa koKongeza
Kubalulekile ukusebenzisa indumiso ngaphezu kwetshathi yokuziphatha.
Emva koko, njengoko umntwana wakho ufunda ukuziphatha okutsha kunye noomatshini amakhono amatsha, ungaziqhawula umvuzo wakho kwaye usebenzise udumo kuphela.
7. Lungisa ishadi lakho lokuziphatha njengoko kufuneka
Ngamanye amaxesha, iinkqubo zemivuzo zidinga ilinge elincinane kunye nephutha. Ukuba isatidi yokuziphatha ibonakala kulula kakhulu kumntanakho, lungisa utshintsho lwakhe ukwenza kube nzima kunzima.
Ukuba kunjalo, umntwana wakho unzima ngokwenene ukuze azuze injongo yakhe emva kwemizamo emininzi, inkqubo yomvuzo ingaba nzima kakhulu. Yenze kube lula ukuba abe nempumelelo ethile, nto leyo eya kumkhuthaza ukuba aqhubeke eqhuba kakuhle.
Njengoko izakhono zomntwana zithuthuka, yenza isenzo esithile osebenza kuzo kwaye ungeze enye indlela yokuziphatha.
Kukho iindlela ezininzi eziphendula kakuhle kwiinkqubo zokuvuza . Ukuba umntwana wakho akhathala ngetshathi yokuziphatha, cinga ukutshintsha indawo yenkqubo yecandelo loqoqosho .
> Imithombo
> I-HealthyChildren.org: Ukuqiniswa ngokufanelekileyo ngokusebenzisa imivuzo.
> Webster-Stratton C. I-Incredible Years: abazali, ootitshala, kunye noqeqesho lwezingane: umxholo womxholo, iindlela, uphando kunye nokusabalalisa 1980-2011 . Seattle, WA: Iminyaka Engabonakaliyo; 2011.