Kubazali abanomdla wokugcina abantwana ngokuhambelana ne "Ulungele ukuba luhle kuba indlela yokubukela uSanta", I-Thanksgiving ibonakala iyithuba apho isongelo liqala ukusebenza. Ukwesaba uhla lwamalahle kwi-stocking, kunye nezikhumbuzo ze "awuyi kuzuza naziphi izipho kulo nyaka," zingasetyenziselwa izigwenxa ezivela kwintlondi yokungahambelani.
Nangona isikhumbuzo sokuba uSanta "uyazi xa ulele," kwaye "uyazi xa uvukile," sele isetyenziswe kwizizukulwana, iicac tactics zatshintshile kule minyaka.
Ukuba usongelo lwezakhono zikaSanta zokuzibukela zonke iintshukumo ezivela kude zazingenakunqwenela, ngoku uSanta unamacwecwe amnceda ukuba alondoloze ukuba ngubani onguhlu olungenanto. I-Elf kwi-Surveillance's constant surveillance isebenza njengesikhumbuzo esingokwenyama kubantwana ukuba iSanta uyazi ukuba zilungile okanye zimbi kulo nyaka.
Ngokucacileyo, uxinzelelo lweeholide lunokubangela ukuba abantwana abaninzi benze izinto ngaphezu kwexesha eliqhelekileyo. Yaye nangona abazali abaninzi besongela ukuba abayi kuba nezipho xa ukuziphatha komntwana kungaphuculanga, ngabazali abambalwa kakhulu balandela loo ntsongelo.
Kwaye nangona uloyiko lokubekwa kuluhlu lweSanta lungabakhumbuza abanye abantwana ukuba baziphathe, izinto ezisongelayo ngokuqinisekileyo azisebenzi kubuninzi. Ngaba usongela ukuKhuphela iKrismesi isicacisi somzali?
Iingxaki ngokusebenzisa iKrismesi njengeMgqugquzeli
Ukufumana abantwana abakhuthazayo ukuba baziphathe ngokungekho semzini-kungqinelana nawe-ngumxholo othakazelisayo. Ukuthi, "USanta ufuna ukuba ulungile," esikhundleni sokuba, "Ndifuna ukuba ulunge," kwenza ukuba kuve ngathi umntwana wakho kufuneka akhathalele ngakumbi ngento kaSanta kunokwakho.
Izinto ezisongelayo azizange zibe ngumsebenzi onceda abazali.
Ukubamba umntwana wakho ngokuziphatha kwakhe kwaye umxwayise ukuba akafumani naziphi izipho ezingonakalisa ukuthembeka kwakho. Xa uSanta ehambisa izipho-kungakhathaliseki ukuziphatha kakubi-kwangaphambili umntwana wakho uya kuthatha ukuba awukwazi into othetha ngayo.
Ngokucacileyo, abaninzi abantwana abaxhalabele ukuba kwenzekani ngomso, nangona kunjalo iiveki ezimbalwa ukususela ngoku. Ngoko isongelo sokungafumani iziphi iintsuku okanye iiveki kwixesha elizayo kungeze kube yinto enqandekayo.
Ukongezelela, imbono yokuba kufuneka "ulungile," yinto engacacanga. Ushiya abantwana abaninzi bebuza, "Ndiyintoni na into efanelekileyo ukuba ndibe nayo?" Inokuphakamisa umbuzo, ukuba "ukulungileyo" kuthetha ukuthini? Wena nomntwana wakho unokuba neengcamango ezahlukileyo malunga noko kukufaneleka ukuba "kuhle."
Eminye indlela eya kwi "Uluhlu olungathandabuzekiyo"
Ixesha leeholide livame ukuzaliswa ngexesha lentsapho, ukutshatya okweshukela kunye nokutshintshwa kwiindlela eziqhelekileyo. Yaye ngelixa ezo zinto zingonwabile, zinokuxinzelela abantwana. Yingakho iingxaki zokuziphatha ezikhulayo ngexesha leeholide ziqhelekileyo.
Ukukhumbuza abantwana ukuba baziphathe ngokufanayo amagama abo avela kwi "uluhlu oluhle" lunokuzonwabisa. Kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuba isisombululo esipheleleyo sesikhathi eside sokulawula ukuziphatha.
Ngoko kunokuba usongele ukuthatha iKrisimesi kwaye uyigxeke kumfana kwi-suit enkulu ebomvu, qwalasela ezi ngcebiso:
- Abantwana benza okulungileyo xa banokuphumela ngokukhawuleza kokuziphatha kwabo okubi . Ngoko ke xa umntwana wakho ebulala umntakwabo, ixesha elikhawulezayo liya kusebenza ngakumbi kunokuba usongelo "lokubukela uSanta."
- Abantwana badinga iinjongo ezithile . Kunokuba uhlose ukuba "ulungile," umntwana unokukwazi ukuphendula kwinjongo efana nokuthi "sebenzisa amagama anomdla kuphela," okanye "sebenzisa kuphela ngothintelo nenja."
- Iifom zemivuzo zikhonza njengomgqugquzeli omkhulu . Yenza isatidi esitikiti okanye inkqubo yecandelo loqoqosho oluvumela umntwana wakho ukuba athole umvuzo ngokukhawuleza wokuziphatha.
- Ukuqiniswa okulungileyo kusebenza ngakumbi kunosongelo . Sebenzisa udumo ngokukhawuleza ukubonisa ukuziphatha kakuhle kwaye unikezele ngqalelo eninzi.
- Ukuxelela umntwana "kwiluhlu olungenanto" akunakwenzeka ukuba akwazi ukuzibhokoxa . Izingane ziziphatha kakuhle xa ziziva zilungileyo ngabo. Sebenzisa izicwangciso zokuziphatha ezikhuthaza ukuzithemba ngokusemgangathweni .
- Sebenza kwiingxaki zokuziphatha unyaka wonke. Ukuba unomdla malunga nomntwana wakho " engabongiyo " okanye ukuphanga, ukukhansela ixesha leKrisimesi kungenakuguqula isimo sengqondo somntwana wakho. Kunoko, sebenze ukukhuthaza ukubonga yonke imihla yonyaka ngaphezu kokuthintela iholide ekubeni zonke malunga nezipho.
Ukuba uya kusebenzisa i-Elf kwiShelf kunye nezikhumbuzo malunga ne "uluhlu olungenanto," lusetyenzise ngokuzonwabisa, kungekhona njengendlela yokuziphatha engundoqo. Emva kwakho konke, ixesha leeholide lifutshane kwaye kufuneka uhlasele izicwangciso zokuziphatha ngokukhawuleza emva kokuba izivulo zivuliwe. Gxininisa ekufundiseni umntwana wakho ukuba aziphathe ngenxa yokuba yinto enentlonelo yokwenza, kungekhona ngenxa yokuba akazukufumana umvuzo kwiKrismesi.
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