Ukuphelelwa ngumntwana kuyinkathazo enzima ye-tweens, kodwa inokuba yinkxalabo eninzi phakathi kwabo bonke abahlobo bakhe baye baqulunqa, kodwa abanako. Ukutshatyalaliswa kokutshatyalaliswa kweminyaka kubonisa imingeni eyahlukeneyo kubantwana kunye nabazali, kodwa ngumngeni onokubambisana kunye .
Umntu ophakathi noobani obhekene nokulibazisa ukutshatyalaliswa kwakhe unokuziva ngathi into ephosakeleyo kubo.
Okubi nakakhulu, umntu ofunda naye owenza inkcazo engalunganga unokubangela uxinzelelo kunye nokukhathazeka. Ukuba i-kati yakho ihamba emva kokutshatyalaliswa kwangoko emva koontanga, okanye ukuba uphuhliso lwazo lwendalo luphuza ukuqala, into ebaluleke kakhulu ongayenzayo kukuxhasa.
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Ukutshatyalaliswa kokutshatyalaliswa xa abantu begqitha "iminyaka yobudala" ngaphandle kokubonisa nayiphi na imiqondiso yenguqu yomzimba. Kuyinto yokutshatyalaliswa okwenzeka kamva ekuphuhliseni komntwana kunokuba kuchazwa "njengesiqhelo." Ukuphinda kungabikho ubusuku. Yinkqubo ende emininzi. Ngamantombazana , ukutshatyalaliswa ngokuqhelekileyo kuqala phakathi kweminyaka engama-7 no-13 . Kubafana , luqala phakathi ko-9 no-15. Akuqhelekanga ukuba amantombazana kunye namakhwenkwe athuthuke ngokukhawuleza ngo-13, 14 okanye 15.
Kodwa ukuba umntwana wakho engakabonakali imiqondiso yobushushu ngo-14 ubudala kumantombazana okanye kwi-15 kumakhwenkwe, ukulibazisa ukutshatyalaliswa kwintshukumo kungabangela ityala.
Gcina ukhumbule ukuba ukulibaziseka ukutshatyalaliswa akubakho nto yokuxhalabisa kakhulu. Wonke umntu ukhula ngokungafaniyo. Ukutshatyalaliswa kwexesha lokutshatyalaliswa kwakhona kusebenza kwiintsapho. Ukuba wena okanye amanye amalungu osapho lwakho aphuhliswa kamva, amathuba akho aphakathi kwakho aya, nawo. Oku kwaziwa njengokulibaziseka komgaqo-siseko, nokuba "yi-bloom late."
Sekunjalo, kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba ukubambezeleka kokubanjwa kungabangelwa yiimeko ezahlukeneyo zomzimba:
- Ukungondleki. Ukuba umntwana wakho akafumananga izondlo ezifanelekileyo, umzimba wakhe awukwazi ukuxhotyiswa ukutshatyalaliswa.
- Imiba yeHormonal. Iimeko ezichaphazela i-pituitary kunye ne-thyroid i-glands zithintela ukuba izilwanyana zivelise i-hormone eziyimfuneko ekuphuhliseni.
- Iimeko ezingapheliyo. Izifo ezifana nesifo sikashukela, i-cystic fibrosis, nesifo seengtso kwenza kube nzima ukuba umzimba uphuhlise.
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Ukunyamezela kuyisimo esihle, kwaye kwiimeko zokulibazisa ukutshatyalaliswa kwintshukumo, yintoni kanye wena kunye neyakho. Ukuba unyana wakho okanye intombi yakho igxininisa malunga nokukhulelwa, baqiniseke ukuba wonke umntu ukhula ngexesha lawo kwaye umzimba wabo uza kulungela xa usulungile.
Ezinye izinto ziyi-markmarks zokukhula: ukusebenzisa i-deodorant, ukuphunga imilenze yakho, ukuthenga i-bra yakho yokuqala, njl njl. Vumela umntwana wakho ukuba enze ezi zinto, nokuba ngaba akudingeki ukuba. Ukuvumela ukuba bahlanganyele kwiindlela eziqhelekileyo zokuziphatha baya kubanceda bazive benokungena kwaye balungele xa kufika ubusuku.
Okubaluleke ngakumbi, khumbuza phakathi kwakho kobutshintshi - kunye nokukhungatheka kwexesha lokutshatyalaliswa kwintshukumo-isisigaba nje.
Njengazo zonke izigaba, oku kuza kugqitywa, kwaye xa umntwana wakho ekhohliweyo uya kuyilibala konke malunga nexhala kunye nexhala.