Indlela yokuyeka ukuziphatha ngokusisigxina
Xa umntwana wakho ebetha omnye umntu, kulula ukuziva ngathi ungumzali onzima kunazo zonke ehlabathini. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwiminyaka yokuqala yokufundela, ukubetha kunqabile ngokungafunekiyo okanye kulungiselelwe, kwaye akuqhelekanga-abaninzi abantwana baya kumluma umntu, nokuba ngaba ngumzali, umnakekeli, umhlobo okanye umntakwabo ubuncinane kanye kanye. Intuthuzelo encinci, ngakumbi xa umntwana wakho ekhupha, kodwa yindlela yokuziphatha engalungiswa ngayo.
Nantsi indlela.
Kutheni abantwana Bite
Kuba uninzi lwabantwana, ukulila, okanye nayiphi na indlela enobugwenxa kulo mbandela, kwenzeka ngenxa yokuba baxineke kwimeko njengoko kuvela phambi kwabo. I-Biting iyona ndlela yokugqibela, enobudlova kwaye ivela ngenxa yokuba umntwana engayazi into enokuyenza. Baya kuba nomsindo, bengazi ukuba yiyiphi amagama athethayo ukuba bacele uncedo okanye babe noyiko. Ezinye izizathu zokubamba umntwana ziquka:
- Ukuxinezeleka ebomini bomntwana, kuquka umntwana omtsha , ukufa kwintsapho, indlu entsha okanye abazali abaqhawulayo okanye bahlukana
- Indlela yokubonisa uthando kunye nemvakalelo kumncedi-engaqhelekanga, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha abantwana abasenokuba nzima ukusebenzisana nothando olunzulu lwabo
- Ukulibaziseka kokuthetha okungavumelekanga ukuba umntwana acele oko afunayo ngokwaneleyo, ebangela ukuba bacinezeleke
- Umntwana uphelelwa ngamandla kwaye akazi ukuba aziphathe njani
- Ukukhangela ingqalelo-khumbula, nayiphi na ingqalelo, nokuba yinto engalunganga, ingqalelo
- Omnye ubabetha kuqala okanye azive esongelwa ngandlela-thile
- Abanye abantwana bafunda ukuba ukubetha yindlela yokulawula imeko kwaye ilawulwe
Ngokuqinisekileyo, nasiphi na esinye sezi zizathu asenzeki samkeleke, kodwa kunokukunceda ukuba uqonde ukuba kutheni umntwana wakho wenza ngale ndlela.
Kwaye kuyisisitshixo sokumisa umntwana ekumeni-ukuyeka ukuziphatha kakubi ngokufumana ingcambu yengxaki ukuze uncede unqabana lwakho.
Oko Ukwenza Xa Umntwana Ebetha
Ukuba ukhona kwimeko xa umntwana wakho ehlabayo, impendulo yakho imele ikhawuleze ibe yintloko. Zama ukuzola. Qinisekisa ukuba umntwana okanye umntu otyunyiwe ulungile. Unakekele kuqala, unike uncedo lokuqala, uncedo lwebhanki, nokuba yintoni umntu ayifunayo. Ukuba umntanakho ungumlindi, ekutshweni komzuzu ungalingeka ukuba umlume umntwana wakho. Musa. Oku kuya kwenza imeko ibe yimbi ngakumbi, kuba kungekhona nje kuphela ngoku ukubonisa indlela yokuziphatha enobugwenxa ongafuni ukuba umntanakho akwenze, kodwa usebenza ngomsindo kwaye isifundo apha kukufundisa umntwana ukuba ubundlobongela abufanele kuzala udlame. Endaweni yoko, zama la maqhinga.
Buza umntwana wakho oko kwenzeka. Emva kokuba uthuli luhleli, ukuba awuboni iziganeko ezikhokelela ekubheni, cela umntwana wakho ukuba ahambe nawe. Yayiyintoni eyayiyintloko yakhe xa ekhwaza omnye umntwana. Uyakhumbula oko wayecinga? Yintoni enokuyenza ngokuhlukileyo?
Xoxa nomntwana wakho malunga noko akumele akwenze xa ecasulwa. Njengoko isikolo sokukhula esikolweni sikhula, baqala ukuhlakulela imvakalelo eninzi abangayiqondi kakuhle into yokuyenza.
Oku kuyinyani ngokwenene umsindo. Chaza ukuba xa eqala ukuziva ehlutha okanye enomsindo okanye okhungathekileyo yithuba elifunekayo lokucela umntu omdala ukuba ancede. Abanye abantwana (ikakhulukazi abasesikolweni abadala) banqwenela ukuya kwilapho bekhulile xa bexutywa okanye banenkathazo nomnye umntwana ngenxa yokuba abafuni ukubizwa nge- tattletale . Ukugcina oko engqondweni, ngexesha elizayo xa umntwana wakho efika kuwe ekhononda malunga nento umntu ayenzileyo kubo, qi niseka ukuba ugcine ingqalelo kwaye uthathe inkxalabo yakhe. Iyakunqanda isiganeko sokumangalisa kwixesha elizayo. Kwabancinci abasenkulumeni, incwadi enjengamazinyo Akunakulinganiswa (thelekisa amanani) unokukunceda ukuba uchaze imeko ngokucacileyo, kunye nento into ongayi kubuyela kuyo njengoko ifunekayo kwikamva.
Bonisa imifanekiso. Ukuba umntwana wakho uyisiqhelo, cinga malunga nokuba yiyiphi na into eyenza ukuba ihambe. Oku kwenzeka ukuba akusiyo into eyenzekayo. Ukuba unokwazi ukuba yintoni ebangela umntwana wakho ukuba alume, unokuzibona ukuba ungamthintela njani ukumbamba kwindawo yokuqala. Emva koko, xa udlala kwiqela lokudlala okanye kwibala lokudlala, gcina umlindo wokugqibela kumntwana wakho. Ukuba ucinga ukuba uya kuluma, thintela ngokukhawuleza kwaye umthumele kumsebenzi ohlukileyo.
Yithi hayi kwaye ushiye. Kubonakala kulula kodwa kufuneka uyipela. Tshela umntwana wakho ukuba ukulila kungalunganga, ukuphela kwebali. Musa ukumemeza okanye ukumemeza. Hlala uxolo njengoko unako kwaye uthi ngokuqinisekileyo, "Hayi, asiyi kuluma." Uyakhubaza uSally, ngoku kufuneka sishiye, "ususe umntwana wakho kwimeko.
Fumana uncedo. Ukuba ukubetha kuqhelo kwaye iindlela zakho azisebenzi, kusenokuba ixesha lokucela uncedo. Buza udokotela wakho wezilwanyana okanye utitshala womntwana wakho ukuze anike iingcebiso.