Vuyiswa! Intsapho yakho ilindele umntwana! Njengoko ulungiselela iinyanga ezizayo, omnye wemisebenzi ebalulekileyo oya kuba nayo ukufumana isikolo sakho sokufunda esikolweni silungele indima enkulu yokuba ngumntakwabo (ngokokuqala ngqa okanye kwakhona).
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba umntwana wakho ongasesikolweni unabela njani kwiindaba-ngovuyo, enomsindo okanye ngokungathi akukho mpendulo kuyo yonke into-kuyinto evamile.
Uninzi lwalo luya kuthatha inxaxheba kwinqanaba lokufunda esikolweni (umntu oneminyaka engama-3 akayi kuqonda ngokutshintshwa kwintsapho enamandla njengokuba uneminyaka eli-5 ubudala ) kodwa nangona kunjalo, ukufunda malunga neemvakalelo zabo eziguqukayo kunye nendlela abasabela ngayo kuzo inxalenye enkulu yokuphuhliswa kwengqondo kwabafundi.
Ubhedu bakho obuhle kukujongana noshintsho lwakho kwintsapho ngaphambi kokuba umntwana omtsha afike kodwa ugcine engqondweni, kungakhathaliseki ukuba umntwana wakho okhuselekileyo unokubonakala njani, xa umntwana ezalwa, kuya kuba nexesha lokulungiswa. Nantsi indlela yokwenza umntwana wakho alungele kwaye (ethemba) enomdla wokuba ngumzalwana okanye udade omkhulu.
Ngexesha lokukhulelwa
- Ukwabelana ngeendaba ezinkulu
Akukho ndlela yokwenene yokuzama-kunye-yinyaniso yokuxelela umntwana onokufundela malunga nosana olutsha. Cinga malunga nokude kangakanani nomhla ofunekayo kunye nomdala wakho wokufunda esikolweni. Uninzi lwabantwana abangaphantsi kwe-5 banenkxalabo yokuqonda ixesha kwaye kuyona nto ibhetele ukutsho ukuba umntwana uza kufika xa iimozulu ishushu okanye ijikeleze iHalloween. Ukuba umncinane wakho ucela iinkcukacha, ungazi ukuba kufuneka uchaze konke. Umfundi osemaqeleni ofuna ukwazi ukuba umntwana uvela phi ufuna impendulo yangempela. Ukuthi, "Ngaphakathi kwenyameko kamama," kunokwenzeka. Vumela imibuzo yomntwana wakho ibe yikhokelo.
- Mkhumbuze Yena Wayeyintsana Kwaze kwaba njalo
Xa ukhangela i-attic efuna iimfesane kunye nejelo ozilahlile olunye usuku, qiniseka ukukrazula i-albhamu yezithombe ukususela xa umntwana wakho usana olusana kunye nencwadana yengane yakho. Thetha malunga nokuba yintoni umntwana omhle wayeyiyo kwaye kuya kuba mnandi kangakanani ukuba nomnye umncinci endlwini.
- Cela icebiso lakhe
Nangona ungeke ube nesibindi ngokwaneleyo ukucela iingcamango zegama kumntwana wakho, kufuneka ucele umbono wakho wokufunda esikolweni kwezinye iinkcukacha ezibalulekileyo ezifana nokulala , imidlalo, kunye nempahla. Ukuba ugqiba ukurejista, yisela umntwana wakho kunye (zama ukugcina uhambo olufutshane, unako ukubuyela emva kamva kwaye wongeza izinto ukuba ufuna) kwaye uzibuze ngenjongo yakhe. Ukuba kunokwenzeka, vumela isikolo sakho sokufundela esikolweni ukuba sikhethe izinto enye okanye ezimbini ozithenga kuyo-indawo yokukhangela okanye iparajamas, mhlawumbi. Ukufumana umntwana wakho abandakanyekayo kwinkqubo kuya kumenza aqaphele ukuba ubalulekile, ilungu elinika inxaxheba kwintsapho kwaye ubomi bomntakwabo omtsha kufuneka abe yinxalenye. - Lindela Ukunyameka Kancinci
Kuqhelekile ukuba umntwana wakho abe nemizwa eyahlukileyo ngosuku lomntwana olutsha ngosuku (okanye iyure ngeyure). Njengoko umama omama eqala ukuba mncinci kwaye akakwazi ukugoba nokuthabatha umntwana omdala, mhlawumbi umfundi wakho ongasesikolweni unokuthukuthela njengoko uvakalelwa kukuba umphefumlo wakhe uphakanyiswa. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba umntwana wakho uyabelana njani kubalulekile ukuba uphulaphule ngokunyanisekileyo kwaye ungamenzeli umntwana wakho kakubi xa engaboni ngokukhethekileyo intliziyo efudumeleyo kwimbono yentsana entsha.
- Lungiselela, Lungiselela, Lungiselela
Unamathuba okwenza uphando olutsha, nceda unqanda ukufunda ukuba enze okufanayo. Thatha uhambo ukuya elayibrari uze ukhethe ezinye iincwadi eziza kukuchazela ngobumnene izinto eziqhubekayo. Izihloko ezilungileyo zibandakanya Oko kukulindela xa uMama ephethe umntwana ngo-Heidi Murkoff noLaura Rader (HarperFestival, 2004) kunye neNew Baby nge-Mercer Mayer (iRandom House, 2001) ejongene nokukhanyela komzalwana ukuwamkela umntwana omtsha. - Musa ukukhawuleza
Ngaba uqeqesho lwakho lwamanzi olusesikolweni? Ngaba ucinga ngokumthuthela kumntwana obhede? Unokufuna ukubamba ixesha elincinane. Awufuni ukuba wakho omncinci azive ekhululekile ngenxa yokuba umntwana omtsha ufuna isidlo sakhe. Emva kokuba umama angene kwi-trimester yesithathu, yinto efanelekileyo yokuzibamba ngokuzisa nayiphi na into ebalulekileyo kwimpilo yakho yokufundela . Ewe, umntwana omtsha kufuneka alale kwisibhedlele, kodwa kwiiveki ezimbalwa okanye iinyanga ezimbalwa zokuqala, unokufuna ukucinga ngokusebenzisa umlenze okanye ulala naye.
- Iimfihlakalo zonyango ezingabonakaliyo
Amathuba akho okufunda esikolweni adibanisa nesibhedlele kunye nodokotela ngokugula. Kubalulekile ukumqinisekisa ukuba ukuya kudokotela kubalulekile ukuba umama okhulelweyo kwaye akukho nto iphosakeleyo. Makhe ahambe naye ekutyeleleni; mhlawumbi uya kufumana ukukhaba ukuva intliziyo kunye nokubona umntwana ngokusebenzisa i-ultrasound. I-OB yakho inokuthetha nomntwana wakho kwaye ikwazi ukuphendula nayiphi na imibuzo ayenayo. Ukuba kunokwenzeka, makhe ahambe nawe ekutyeleleni esibhedlele; Enyanisweni, amaziko amaninzi anika iiklasi ezikhethekileyo kunye neeseshoni zabazalwana abakhulu. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni, mkhuthaze ukuba abuze imibuzo kwaye wenze okusemandleni akho ukuphendula, ukugcina okufutshane kwiinkcukacha zezokwelapha zokubeletha. Awufuni ukumkhathaza ngokungenasiphelo malunga nento engenakukuqonda. - Gcina ezinye zijolise kwi-Big Sibling
Abafundi basesikolweni banomdla, ngenxa yokuba befunda ngeendawo zabo kwihlabathi. Ngako-ke nondle ngokunyanisekileyo ngokuthetha ngento enokubakho umntakwabo oza kubakho nokuba njani intsapho iya kulufuna uncedo lwakhe. Njengoko uhlobisa i-nursery okanye indawo yokulala yabantwana, unokufuna ukucinga ngokutshintsha ezinye iindawo zendawo yakho yokufunda esikolweni xa ucinga ukuba kuya kunceda-mhlawumbi i-bedspread okanye isibane esitsha. - Bantwana, UyiDolli
Ingcamango enhle kubafundi abasebancinci, zama ukuthenga umntwana onodoli ofana nobungakanani kwiintsana. Yenza umncinci wakho asebenze, atshintshe aze amondle "umntwana." Yiphathe njengento esondeleyo kwinto enokuyenza, uthabathe ukuhamba ehambahambayo kwaye uyifake kwisihlalo semoto njengoko umhla wokugqibela ufike.
Ngaphambi kokubeleka kunye nasezibhedlele
- Sondela kufuphi kunye neNdawo yangempela
Ukuba unethamsanqa ukwazi umntu osandul 'usana, funda ukuba umfundi wakho ongasesikolweni ungadlala umzalwana omkhulu okanye udade omkhulu ngeeyure ezimbalwa. Ngokuxhomekeke kwiminyaka yengane yakho (kunye nobubungqina babazali abatsha), buza ukuba umntwana wakho angenza imisebenzi elula, ekhutshwe ngabantu abadala, njengokugcina, ukutya okanye ukuhlamba umntwana. Ukuba awukwazi nabani na umntwana, jonga kwizifundo esibhedlele. Abayi kukuvumela ukuba uthintele abantwana ngokucacileyo, kodwa abahlengikazi bahlala benamadonki okwenyaniso okubambelekileyo kwaye baya kwenza ukuba umntwana wakho abe nokuziva ngenxa yoko bangayilindela. - Yenza Umdlalo weMidlalo
Njengoko umhla ofunekayo usondela, khuluma nomntwana wakho malunga noko kuza kwenzeka xa umama (kunye nobaba) beza esibhedlele. Chaza ngubani oza kubakhathalela kwaye kungekuphela nje ukuba baya kukwazi ukuthetha nomama kwifowuni (ukuba ngaba ukhetho) kodwa ukuba baya kukwazi ukutyelela umama kunye nosana olutsha emva kokuba umntwana azalwe. Kwiintsuku ngaphambi kokubeleka, zama ukugcina inkqubo rhoqo. Ufuna ubomi bube kufutshane nesiqhelo sakho sokufunda. - Umhambi # 1
Vumela ukuba umntwana onokufundela umntwana abe ngowokuqala kwintsapho ukuze ahlangane nomntwana, ngokusondele ekuzalweni kwakhe ngokusemandleni. Futhi gcina intlanganiso yangasese, amalungu nje osapho osondeleyo ukuze umntwana wakho asabele ngokuqhelekileyo, ngaphandle kwesihlwele esikhona. Isihlandlo sokuqala sakho sokufunda esikolweni sibeka amehlo kumntakwabo omtsha kunokumkhathaza ngokwemvakalelo kuye, ngoko kubalulekile ukuba uhlale uhambelana noko akuvakalelwayo. Xa ixesha lokuba ezinye iindwendwe ziyeke ukuyeka, vumela ukuba isikolo sakho sokufundela esikolweni sidlale naluphi na indima ekhululekile kuyo. Abanye bayakufuna ukwenza njengenkosi yemikhosi, ukuzisa umntakwabo omtsha kumkhulu, ngelixa abanye bangakhetha ukuphinda babuyele kwaye babukele isenzo. Ukuba kunokwenzeka, cela isihlobo sokuba umntwana wakho osondeleyo kunye naye ukuba amthathe uhambo okanye mhlawumbi ufumane i-snack, ukumncedisa ukuba ahambe kuyo yonke ixesha elifutshane. - Bhiyozela! (Ngeentetho)
Ngaphezu kwayo yonke into, umntwana omtsha ubangela ukubhiyozela. Qiniseka ukuba uvumele umntwana wakho wokufunda esikolweni ukuba athathe isipho sokumnika umntakwabo omtsha okanye udade kunye naye ngokufanayo, unomntwana omtsha "uzisa" isipho kumntwana wakho omncinci. Nangona usibhedlele emva kokuba umntwana esele azalwa, mhlawumbi ukongezwa okutsha kuya kufumana izipho ezininzi ezivela kubanqwenela kakuhle. Oku kunzima kumfundi wakho wokufundela, ngoko unokufuna ukugcina izinto ezincinci njengeencwadi zokubala, iikhrayoni, izitikiti kunye neepinki ezincinci ukukhupha.
Ubomi obutsha ekhaya
- Ukuqaphela Ukunyanzeliswa Kuqhelekileyo
Njengoko usapho lwakho lushintsha kwintshintsho yalo entsha, khumbula ukuba "inkunzi yakho" inokungonwabi kwinxaxheba yakhe entsha. Ungamangaliswa xa ecela ukuba aphuze ebhodleleni okanye ngongikazi, abe neengozi ezinxulumene nokuhlambela kwindlu yangasese, ujoyine "intetho yomntwana," okanye aze acele ukuba alele ebhokheni (mhlawumbi ukuba i-crib yayikhona kuye). Zama ukungabi nomsindo; Enyanisweni, kubalulekile ukuba ungenzi. Le yindlela yomntwana wakho yokubonisa uxhalabo malunga nendima yakhe kwintsapho. Hlala uzinikezela ngakumbi, kwaye xa eziphatha njengentombazana enkulu owaziyo ukuba uyayifumana, yifumene kwiindumiso ezongezelelweyo. - Siyakwamkela "Uncedo"
Kukho imisebenzi eninzi yokufunda esikolweni onokuyenza ukuze uncede unakekele umntwana omtsha njengokuba ufumana i-diapers, shenxisa umqhubi, okanye unokuncedisa ukuba ugqoke. Kungathabatha ixesha elide kunye nesetyenziso esongezelelweyo sezandla, kodwa ukuba isikolo sakho sokufunda esikolweni sifuna ukubandakanyeka, samkele imizamo yakhe. Kodwa ke, ezinye izinto izinto eziza kwenza umama kunye nosana, njengokuncelisa, okuya kubangela ukuba abantwana abadala bave . Qiniseka ukuba ugcine iincwadi ezinokuthi umama okhulayo angakwazi ukufunda kunye nomntwana oselukhulile okanye unomama ahlale kufuphi nomabonwakude kwaye amvumele ukuba umama kunye nokufunda esikolweni aze abukele umboniso kunye ngenkathi umntwana edla. - Beka ixesha eliKhethekileyo
Ngayo yonke ingqalelo imfuno entsha yintsana, kuya kuba lula ukuba wakho omncinci alahleke ekukhutsheni. Qinisekisa ukuba umama nobaba banexesha elikhethekileyo lokuchitha kunye nomntakwabo omtsha ngaphandle komntwana okhoyo. Lezo zintsuku zokuqala ekhaya zingenzima. Akukho mntu ulala ngokufanelekileyo kwaye mhlawumbi umkhondo wakho uphonswe ngaphandle kwewindow. Cela uncedo kwisihlobo okanye umhlobo osondeleyo ukuba enze izinto ezonwabileyo kunye nomfundi wakho wokufunda esikolweni xa ikhaya lilungisa. Qaphela nje ukuba isikolo sakho sokufunda esikolweni singacinga ukuba sisuswe ekhaya, awufuni ukuba acinge ukuba ushiywe ngaphandle kwezenzo. Kulungile nokho, fumana inkulu ukuba ubukele umntwana kwaye uthathe isikolo sakho sokufunda esikolweni ixesha elifutshane-ukuhamba, uhambo lwe-ayisikrimu okanye kwilayibrari. Thetha malunga nokuziqhenya ngaye ngokuba ngumntakwabo omkhulu kwaye umbuze ukuba unemibuzo malunga noko kwenzekayo. - Qaphela ukuba Kukho Ubomi Ngaphandle Kwanyana
Ngamanye amaxesha unokufuna ukunikwa ingqalelo kumntwana omtsha uze uyibuyisele esikolweni sakho esikolweni. Khuthaza iindwendwe ukuba ngezinye iinkalana zithethe nomntwana wakho omncinane malunga nantoni na ngaphandle kokufika okutsha. Xoxa ngesikolo, ngabahlobo, imisebenzi-nantoni ebalulekileyo kumntwana wakho.
Abanye abantwana bangamkela umntakwethu omtsha ngeengalo ezivulekile kwaye akalokothi akhulume nayiphi na inganeliseki. Abanye bangathi izinto ezilimazayo . Uninzi lwawa kwindawo ephakathi. Kubalulekile ukuba ube nesigulane njengoko wakho umntwana ulungisa. Mkhuthaza ukuba akhulume ngendlela avakalelwa ngayo ngamazwi okanye nakwimifanekiso. Zama ukuthetha. Ukuba umntwana akayeki ukukhala, xelela unobantwana bakho bokufundela ukuba kunokukukhathaza ukuba uva.
Inombolo yokuqala ebalulekileyo kukuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho uzizwa emthandayo kwaye efunekayo. Ukongeza ilungu elitsha kwintsapho liya kuthintela isikolo sakho sokufunda esikolweni ngendlela enkulu, kodwa ekugqibeleni lihle. Bafumana umntakwabo omtsha, kodwa benethemba lokuba nabo bafumana umngane onomdla.