Abafazi kunye noomama banokuziva befuna ukukhuphisana
Ehlabathini lanamhlanje, iingcamango zethu malunga neendibano zesini ziye zavulwa kwiintloko. Nangona kunjalo, iipatheni eziye zathonya ukuziphatha kwabantu kwiinkulungwane ezininzi zisezinamandla, ngakumbi xa zibandakanya amalungu ezizukulwana ezidala. Ezinye zezo ndlela zidala zibandakanya ubudlelwane phakathi koomama kunye noonyana babo abadala. Ngamanye amaxesha ama-paradigms aqhubekayo nangona oonyana abadala bebayeni kunye noobawo.
Umfazi Ngokuchasene Nomama Ongqubanayo
Ulwalamano oluqinileyo nomama luphawu oluhle lobomi obatshatayo. Abasetyhini baxhomekeke kakhulu ekukhuthazeni ukuqonda kwengqondo kubantwana babo, kwaye unyana onokuqonda ngokuphakamileyo kwiinkcukacha zeemvakalelo unokuqonda ngakumbi umfazi wakhe. Indoda enjalo inokuthi ibenqabe ukuthunyelwa kweposi.
Nangona ekwazi ukuba nomthelela omuhle womama, umfazi naye unokungqubana nomamazala. Mhlawumbi unomona onomdla wendima eqhubekayo yomama ebomini bendodana yakhe. Ngenxalenye yomama, xa ekhutshwe kwindoda yakhe njengomntu oyintloko ebomini bendodana yakhe, ukuxhatshazwa kunye nomntu osebenza ngokugqithisileyo kuninzi kunokwenzeka. Indoda eziva ukuba ibanjwe phakathi iyakwazi ukusabela ngokususa kwindawo yokulwa, kodwa unina okanye umfazi akancedi xa indoda leyo i-AWOL. Ngenxa yoko, le ndoda ilahleka kwakhona.
Xa oomama bodwa
Ingxabano inokunyuka xa oomama beqhawule umtshato , umhlolokazi okanye omnye.
Ngamanye amaxesha umama uye wamkhwelisa unyana wakhe wendlu kwaye uthembele kuye kwinqanaba elibi. Kwakhona, xa ugogo nomkhulu wabo bobabini besesigxina, bathambekele ekubeni nefuthe elifanelekileyo lokuziphatha komnye nomnye, banceda omnye nomnye ukuba abone xa bewela imida engafanele iphulwe.
Ukugcina ukulingana
Kungcono xa bonke abathathi-nxaxheba bezama ukugcina ibhalansi yemvelo ebuhlotsheni babo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, umfazi womntu kufanele eze kuqala, kodwa kufuneka kubekho ixesha kunye namandla asele ngenxa kanina. Kwaye umfazi nomama kufuneka baxhathise nantoni na imeko apho indoda leyo yayiza kufuneka ikhethe phakathi kwabo babini. Oomama, oku kuthetha ukuthi:
- Musa ukucela unyana wakho ukuba akwenzele izinto xa uneminye imithombo ukuze uyenze - ukuba, ngokomzekelo, unokukwazi ukuhlawula umntu ukuba akwenze.
- Melana nomnqweno wokucebisa isisombululo kwiingxaki enokuthi unyana wakho nomfazi wakhe babe nazo. Baya kukhula njengoko beqhuba iingxaki kunye.
- Zama ukuthatha unyana wakho nomfazi wakhe ngokulinganayo. Thetha kubo bobabini xa ubiza, ukuba zombini zikhoyo. Sebenzisa imali efana nezipho zabo.
- Kwimixholo yezipho, soloko uxabisa nasiphi isipho osifumanayo. Ungalokothi uthathe nantoni na ngaphandle kokuba kungenxa yokutshintshisana okulula njengokufana nobukhulu obuhlukile. Gqoka okanye ubonise izipho onikwe zona.
- Njalo, qho uqaphele ukuba ungumkhulu ugogo kwaye awukho umzali wabazukulwana bakho. Ukuthobela imithetho yabazali nokuhlonela imida yabo.
Abasetyhini njengeKin Keepers
Umzekeliso omdala uthi, "Unyana uyindodana ade athathe umfazi.
Intombi yintombi ebomini bayo bonke. "Le ngcaphuno ibonisa ukuba xa umntu esitshatileyo eshada, bahlala behlala belamano olusondeleyo kunye nolunye uhlangothi lwentsapho kunokuba lunye, kwaye ngokuphindaphindiweyo yintombi. ukuba oogogo nomama oomama banomdla onamandla kunye nabantwana abadala kunye nabazukulu ngaphezu kootata bobazali.
Ubuhlobo obusondeleyo kunye nootatomkhulu boomama bunokulandelwa ekusebenziseni amabhinqa asebenza njengabagcini bezilwanyana. "Umgcini womzimba" wentsapho ngumntu ogcina ubudlelwane kunye namalungu osapho olongezelelweyo. Loo mntu unako ukuba ngumfazi kunomyeni, kwimeko yoluntu namhlanje.
Oko kuthetha ukuba kwintsapho yonyana, umfazi mhlawumbi nguye olungiselela ikhalenda yentsapho. Ngenjongo okanye ngokungahambi kakuhle, unokuthi ahluleke ukwazisa ootata-ntata kayise malunga neziganeko zeentsapho okanye, ngokuthetha nje kunye nabo ngokuncinci, bahlale bephuma ngaphandle. Oomama bangakwazi ukuthatha udibaniso ngokuqalisa uqhagamshelwano, kodwa umngeni uhlala ekuthinteni ngaphandle kokungena.
Imithetho yokuhlala isondele
Ukunxibelelana nabantwana abadala kufuna izakhono ezithile, kodwa ezi zakhono zingafundwa. Ngokuqhelekileyo, qhubeka ukhumbuza ukuba uthetha nabantu abadala. Bahloniphe njengokuba nawuphi na umntu osemdala. Khumbula ukuphulaphula oko bakuxelele.
Iifowuni zindlela enkulu yokugcina umnxeba, kodwa iifowuni kufuneka zifutshane. Oomama kufuneka baphephe ukubiza ngexesha elibi, njengexesha lokutya okanye xa abantwana bebethelwa. Kakade, akuyona into efanelekileyo ukubiza umnxeba kamva, xa ubuhlobo obusondeleyo bomzali buphazamiseka! Ukuba unokungabaza malunga nokuba lixesha elifanelekileyo lokubiza, zama umyalezo wesicatshulwa endaweni yoko. Xa ufowunela, kuhle ukubuza imibuzo ethile. "Ngaba uBobby unomdlalo kule iveki?" lungcono kunokuba "Yintoni entsha kunye nabantwana?"
Ukutyelela ngenye indlela yokugcina umnxibelelwano, kodwa kungasonakalisa ukuhambelana kwentsapho. Oomama abahlala kufuphi nentsapho yonyana kufuneka banqabana ukutyelela ngokuphindaphindiweyo, ukuqhubeka nokuhambela okufutshane kwaye ungalokothi uphelelwe. Ama-mama abahlala kude ukusuka kwindodana bahlala bevakatye kwaye balindele ukuhlala ixesha elide. Ukutyelela okunjalo kunokuba luncedo kuzo zonke izizukulwana, kodwa umthwalo ungokokuba umama abe yindwendwe elungileyo kwaye ugcine uhambo luhambelana.