Akuninzi Uninzi Njengoko Unokucinga
Kufuneka kubekho uhlobo lwekhonkco phakathi kobuninzi obunomntu nomlinganiselo wokulawula onokuphila kwakhe. Kwaye kufuneka kube ukulungelelaniswa okufutshane. Kodwa ootatomkhulu abaninzi bafumana intlungu yabo yokuba akukho nxu lumano olukhoyo kwiimeko zabazukulwana babo. Kunoko, phantse konke ukulawula kusezandleni zabazali.
Uninzi lwexesha elo ilungiselelo lisebenza kakuhle. Abazali bayabiza amahlumela, kwaye oogogo nomkhulu bafumana ukuzonwabisa. Kodwa xa abazali benza izigqibo ezimbi kwaye oogogo nomkhulu bazama ukungenelela, bavame ukuyeka, bebashiya ukuba babuze, "Ngaba ootatomkhulu abanamalungelo omthetho?"
Umbuzo omhle kakhulu.
Amalungelo omzali anamandla
Uninzi lwexesha, abazali banelungelo lokwenza izigqibo malunga nabantwana babo. Kwiimeko ezidibana nencazelo yomthetho yokuxhaphazwa okanye ukungahoywa, abantwana bangasuswa ekhaya, nangona bahlala bebuyiselwa emva kwexesha. Phantse kuzo zonke iimeko, abazali bahlala belawulwa ngabantwana babo, nangona xa benza izigqibo ezingathandabuzekiyo. Ukuba abantwana abasengozini enkulu yengozi, izigqibo zabazali zivunyelwe ukuma.
Ukusetyenziswa kakubi kweziyobisi kuphakamisa uluhlu lwezizathu zokubangela ukuba abantwana basuswe emakhaya abo, kodwa amaxesha amaninzi asele abantwana emakhaya nomzali onobungozi bokusetyenziswa kweziyobisi ngenxa yokuba izigxeko zokusetyenziswa gadalala azikwazi ukubonakaliswa, okanye ngenxa yokusetyenziswa komzali kuba yingozi kubantwana.
Nangona ootatomkhulu banokuvakalelwa kukuba banokubonelela indawo engcono kubazukulu babo kwaye ukuba banokwenza izigqibo ezingcono zabazali, akunandaba. Ngaphandle kokuba abantwana basuswe ekhaya ngenxa yesizathu esithile, oogogo nomkhulu abahambanga.
Ukuba Abazukulu bafuna ikhaya elitsha
Ukuba abazukulu baqwalaselwe engozini kwaye basuswa ekhaya, oogogo nomkhulu banelungelo lokukwaziswa.
Umthetho we-2008 uthi izihlobo zabantu abadala kufuneka zichongwe kwaye zaziswe kwaye zanikwa ilungelo lokuthatha inxaxheba malunga nezigqibo malunga noko kuza kwenzeka kubantwana.
Ukuba bafuna ukunyamekela abantwana, oogogo nomkhulu bangaphathwa ngendlela efanayo nabazali abangabantwana. Ukongezelela, ootatomkhulu bangafuna ukugcinwa , kodwa kwiimeko ezininzi, abayi kuhanjiswa ngokuzenzekelayo nayiphi na ingqalelo. Isikhalazo sazo siya kunyangwa phantsi kweenkqubo zesikhalazo ngasinye senkampani yesithathu. Ukuba oogogo nomkhulu bafumana ilungelo lokunyamekela abazukulu babo, ilungiselelo lokugcina lingathatha iindidi ezahlukeneyo .
Kuthiwani ngamalungelo okutyelela?
Ukutyelela ngokugqithiseleyo kuyahluke kwi-custody. Zonke iindawo zaseUnited States zijongene nokutyelela oogogo kunye nomthetho wesizwe . KwiCanada, amaphondo amathandathu kunye nommandla omnye baye babhalisa amalungelo ovakatatomkhulu ootatomkhulu, kwaye ootatomkhulu banokuthi bangamangalela njengamaqela anomdla kwezinye iindawo.
Kungenxa yokuba indawo inemithetho elungiselela ukuvakashelana nootatomkhulu, kungekhona bonke ootatomkhulu baye bemi kwifayili yefayili, kwaye ama-suits ayabiza kwaye anzima ukunqoba. Nangona emva kokuba isitifiketi siphumelele, kunokuba nzima ukufumana umyalelo wokuvakasha. Nangona ubunzima obubandakanyekayo, abaninzi ootatomkhulu ngamnye unyaka benze isigqibo sokwenza ifayile.
Ukuzibandakanya Kubalulekile
Ukuba unakekwa kwindawo yokufuna ukugcinwa okanye ukuhanjelwa, uya kuba sesikhundleni sokuqina ukuba uye wagcina unxulumano olunamandla nabazukulwana bakho. Ukuba ucinga ukuba unokufakwa kwisimo esinjalo, kungekudala ukuba uqale uqaphele ulwalamano lwakho nabazukulwana bakho.
Ngamanye amaxesha abazali banqanda ootatomkhulu ukuba bangabambisani nabazukulwana. Abazali banokwenza oku kuba amalungelo abo omzali anamandla. Ukuba le imeko yakho, kufuneka uqaphele iinzame zakho zokuphuhlisa ubudlelwane nabazukulwana bakho.
Xa sicinga ngolu hlobo lwamalungelo omthetho, okholisayo ubulumko ukugcina ubudlelwane obuhle nabazali bakho nabazukulu bakho.
Ngelishwa, akunjalo njalo, okusibuyisela ngqo apho siye saqala khona.
Ootatomkhulu banokubathanda abazukulu babo abavakalelwa kakhulu njengothando lwabazali, kodwa amalungelo abo akude namalungelo omzali.