Ukudlala imidlalo kukufundisa intsha ubuninzi bezakhono, zombini iimidlalo kunye nenye indlela. Kwaye kunokuvuyisa ngokwenene ukubukela umntwana wakho enkundleni okanye entsimini ukwenza oko akuthandayo ukukwenza. Kodwa, kunokuba kubekho umnyama kumdlalo wezemidlalo ephakamileyo. Kwabaninzi abaselula, kukho uxinzelelo oluninzi lokwenza kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, ukuba uxinzelelo lunokuba lubi kakhulu.
Kukho iifowuni ezivela kubakhenkethi abaqhaqhayisa amathuba okuba abafundi bezemidlalo baphambi kwe-adolescence yakho.
Okanye, kunokubakho uxinzelelo lwabaqeqeshi ukuba banciphise ubunzima okanye bafumane isisulu ukuze bafike 'kwinqanaba elilandelayo.' Kwaye, ininzi intsha iphupha ngokudlala imidlalo yezemfundo. Ukukhangela ukuzityebi kunye nodumo, kunye nokuhlawulwa ukwenza into abathandayo, kunokunyusa umnqweno wabo wokuphucula.
Ukuhlala ukhuphiswano ezikolweni ezininzi kuthetha ukuya kwiinkampu zezemidlalo ezibiza kakhulu kunye nezifundo ezizimeleyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, kuthethwa ukusebenzela iiyure nganye ngosuku, nangona ngexesha lexesha elide.
Ingcinezelo yokuba yinto engcono kakhulu inokuthabatha intsha kubantwana, ngokwengqondo nangokwenyama. Kubalulekile ukunceda wakho umntwana ukuba alawulwe ingcinezelo evame ukuza kunye nomdlali wezemidlalo eziphakamileyo.
Khuthaza Ubomi Obulungeleleneyo
Kwabaninzi abaselula, ukuphucula italente yabo yezemidlalo kuthetha ukuyeka izinto ezininzi esikolweni esiphakeme. Ngoko kubalulekile ukuqwalasela ukuba ngaba kuyayixabisa.
Uninzi lwabagijimi beprojekthi bathetha ngazo zonke izenzo kunye nokuzinikezela okwathathayo ukubanceda ukuba abe ngcono.
Kodwa, kuyo yonke inkwenkwezi ephuma apho, baninzi abaninzi abangakhange bafumane ukuncintisana kwizinga elincinane.
Iingxaki zokufumana i-scholarship epheleleyo yezemidlalo zihle kakhulu. Kwaye namathuba okuba ngumdlali wezemidlalo athile kakhulu.
Ngoko kubalulekile ukuzinikela-kunye ne-yakho yeshumi-eyona nto ihlolisayo.
Yaye ucinge malunga nokuba kukufanelekile ukuyeka ixesha kunye nabahlobo kunye nosapho okanye umsebenzi wesikolo emva koko , ukuze umntwana wakho akwazi ukudlala imidlalo.
Shintsha i-Mindset
Ukusebenzisa nje ibinzana elithi "ukujongana noxinzelelo" kungabangela ingxaki, njengoko ibonisa ukuba le meko yinto engatshatyalaliswayo "kufuneka iphathwe." Tshintsho incoko ukukhuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba "avume" okanye "aphumelele" ngcinezelo, ebonisa ukuba Umngeni kuyindlela yokwenza ngcono kunye nokwakha umgangatho onamandla.
Enyanisweni, uphando lubonisa ukuba ukunyamezela okuncinci kuphucula ukusebenza komdlali kumdlalo. Xhuma uxinzelelo lweengcinezelo okanye izisongela ngesiphumo esihle, njengokudlala kakuhle xa uziva phantsi kwengcinezelo. Okubalulekileyo, ufuna ukudala umoya okhuthazayo kunye nomyalezo onokuthi umntwana wakho akwazi ukuphumelela xa ejongene nobunzima, kunokuba abe nomoya wokuxinzezeleka.
Iinkqubo Zokuphucula
Ukuba umntwana wakho uhlala exhala malunga nokusebenza kwakhe okanye ukhathazekile ngokwenene umdlalo omkhulu, iindlela ezimbalwa zokuphumula zingahamba ixesha elide ukuncedisa umntwana wakho ukuba azinciphe. Amasu okuphucula ahamba ngendlela ende ekuncediseni umntwana wakho umntwana ukuba aphile ubomi obukhululekile.
Fundisa iindlela zakho zokulawulwa kwengcinezelo yobutsha, kuquka ukucamngca, ukuphumla kwemisipha kunye nokuphefumla.
Ukuba ungacingi ukuba unamakhono kuzo naziphi na ezi zinto, jongene nochwepheshe onokukunceda bobabini nifunde indlela yokuzola.
Njengazo zonke ezinye izakhono, izakhono zokuphucula zisebenza. Kodwa ukuba wakho umntwana usebenzayo rhoqo, ezi zakhono ziya kunciphisa izinga lakhe loxinzelelo.
Musa ukuyenza nzima
Kwiimeko ezininzi, abazali bafuna ukukunceda. Nangona kunjalo, kukho iindlela ezininzi abazali abangakwazi ukuzenza uxinzelelo kubadlali babo abaselula ngaphandle kokuziqonda:
- Ukudumisa okanye ukuvuza umntanakho kuphela emva kwempumelelo okanye ukuqhuba kakuhle, kodwa kungekhona emva kokusebenza kakubi okanye ukulahleka
- Ukunikezela ngcebiso engacelanga ukuba wenze ntoni kumdlalo olandelayo okanye indlela yokuphucula
- Ukuthelekisa ukusebenza komntwana wakho komnye umntu kwiqela, okanye udumisa ngokugqithiseleyo umlingane
- Ukugxininisa into eyenziwa yintsapho yokuzincama ukuze uxhase imidlalo yakho yezemidlalo
- Ukuqhaqhaqhaqhayisa ukunyameka komzimba, ukubonakalisa ubuso okanye ubuso bezwi
- Ukuthetha ngesidingo sokufumana i-athletic scholarship okanye imfuno yokwenza ngcono ukuguqula imidlalo ibe ngumsebenzi wokuphila
Emva kokulahleka, xhathisa isichukumiso sokunikela ngeengcinga ezinjengokuthi "zonke izinto ezibalulekileyo uzame" okanye "umdlalo omhle." Umntwana wakho osemncinci mhlawumbi akayi kucinga ukuba oku kuyinyani, kwaye mhlawumbi uya kufumana isohlwayo okanye ukuphendula kwakhona.
Umqeqeshi unokwenza ukuba ingcinezelo ibe nzima nakakhulu , kodwa lowo ngumsebenzi wakhe. Ukuba ucinga ukuba kuya kude kakhulu, lungiselela intlanganiso nganye-nye-nye ukuze uxoxe ngezinto ozikhathazayo kwiindawo ezizimeleyo.
Qaphela Ukulimala
Ngokutsho kweAmerican Academy of Orthopedic Surgeons, abadlali abasemagunyeni abaselula bayakwazi ukulimala njengabadlali bezemidlalo. Umehluko? Iiprojekthi zihlala kuba ziyazi ukuba ukulimala kugqiba umsebenzi, ngelixa umntwana osemtsha engakwazi ukukhula nokuqonda ukwenza njalo.
Ingane yakho inokuziva ixinzelelwe ukuba idlale, kwintlungu, ukucinga ukuba ukushiya umdlalo kukubonakalisa ubuthathaka. Ukuba ukholelwa ukuba umntwana wakho wenzakele, yenza konke okusemandleni akho ukumenza athathe isinyathelo emva kwaye amnike umzimba wakhe uphumle.
Musa ukuvumela iMidlalo ukuba ibe yi-Idenity yakho ye-Teen
Abanye abatsha baya kuncedisa ekugqweseni komsebenzi omnye; Nangona kunjalo, kulungile ukukhuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba abe ngumntu ojikeleze kakuhle. Yenza umkhondo, ewe, kodwa ujonge kwakhona umdlalo wesikolo okanye ubambe umsebenzi wexeshana ngexesha le-off-season. Ingakumbi umdlalo uba ngumntu osetsheni, ubandezelo oluninzi uya kuziva ukuba luhle kakhulu kwisikolo, kwingingqi okanye kwilizwe.
Qaphela ukusetyenziswa kweziyobisi
Njengoko utywala ngotywala kunye nentambo, intsha iyakwazi ukuzama izinto eziphucula ukusebenza ukuphucula ukusebenza okanye umzimba. Nangona abaninzi abazali bethatha ukuba umntwana wabo akaze asebenzise iziyobisi, abaninzi abatsha bafuna iifutshane zokuphucula ukusebenza kwabo.
Khangela iimpawu zokulumkisa zokusetyenziswa kweziyobisi ezifana:
- Ukunyuka ngokukhawuleza kwimizimba yesisundu
- I-acne ebonakalayo
- Amanqaku ezinambuzane kwiingalo okanye emilenzeni,
- Ukuguquguquka komsindo okanye ukuqhuma komsindo
- Ukwandisa izicubu zesifuba emadodeni okanye ukunciphisa ubungakanani besifuba kubasetyhini
Nokuba izibonelelo zomthetho zingonakalisa xa zithathwa kwiqondo eliphezulu. Jonga ulutsha otywala iinzivitham, i-powders, okanye ezinye izongezo zokwakha imisipha.
Ezinye iindlela zokuNceda
Umdlali osemtsha ufuna ukuxhaswa kwabazali bakhe kunye nomzila ovulekileyo wokunxibelelana ukucela uncedo xa kufuneka. Izindlela ezongezelelweyo onokukunceda umntwana wakho abambe ingcinezelo ziquka:
- Ukuhlala uzolile ngexesha lemidlalo okanye izenzo
- Ukuphepha ingxoxo yokuphumelela okanye ukulahlekelwa
- Ukuvumela umntwana ukuba anqume ukuba ufuna ukuqeqeshwa okongeziweyo njengeenkampu okanye abaqeqeshi abazimeleyo
- Ukugcina izithethe endaweni, ezifana nokuya kusemini emva komdlalo, nokuba iqela liphumelela okanye lilahlekile
Mkhumbuza wakho umntwana ukuba, nokuba uyawuthabatha okanye alahleke, uya kuhlala uxhasa kwaye ubonisa ukuba uyaziqhenya ngento abaye bayenza. Njalo emva kwesikhashana, vumela okanye ukhuthaze umntwana wakho ukuba athathe usuku lokuphumla, abambelele ebuthongweni okanye kwizifundo aze aphumele umzimba wakhe-bawufumene!
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