Yintoni oyenzayo xa ukholelwa ukuba abantwana bakho basengozini
Ukuba ukwesaba ngokwenene ukhuseleko lwabantwana bakho, kufuneka ukhulume malunga neenkxalabo zakho. Kodwa wazi ngaphambili phambi kokuba kubekho iziphumo. Masiqwalasele ngakumbi.
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Ukuba uloyiko lokuba yakho yangaphambili iyingozi kuwe okanye kubantwana bakho, inkundla iya kuyiphatha ingxaki njengento ebalulekileyo kunye nengxaki. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abagwebi banonophelo ukuphanda ngokucacileyo izigxeko zokusetyenziswa gadalala, ukwesatshiswa kobundlobongela, kunye naluphina uhlobo lwezobundlobongela basekhaya ngaphambi kokumisela ukugcinwa komntwana.
Oku kuthetha ukuba ngaphambi kokuba unike imvume okanye ilungelo lokutyelela kwi-ex yakho, ijaji iya kuphanda izityholo ukuqinisekisa ukuba awuziphakamisi. Iinkonzo zokukhusela zentsapho zinokubandakanyeka ekuncedeni uphando. Inkundla kunye / okanye iinkonzo zokukhusela abantwana zinganxibelelana nabamelwane bakho, amalungu entsapho enwetshiwe, kunye nabantwana bakho ootitshala kwizame zokuqinisekisa ibali lakho.
Ngeli xesha, ijaji inokuvumela umzali otshutshiswa ukuba achithe ixesha kunye nabantwana bakho. Kwezinye iimeko, ukutyelelwa kungabhekiswa okanye kwenzeke kwindawo engathathi hlangothi ukuqinisekisa ukuba ukhuseleko lwabantwana.
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Unokuthatha amanyathelo amaninzi ukuxhasa lakho imeko ukuba wakho umlandu uzenze izigwebo zobuxoki. Ukuba lakho ex likuxhaphaze wena okanye umntwana wakho ngaphambili, kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba unamaxwebhu abonisa oku. Oku kungabandakanya iingxelo zamapolisa, iirekhodi zonyango, okanye ubungqina obuvela kubantu abakwaziyo kwaye banokuthetha ngokusetyenziswa kakubi.
Ukuba umntwana wakho watyelela ugqirha okanye ugqirha ukuba aphathe iimpawu zokuxhaphazwa, fumana iirekhodi zale tyelelo ukubonisa ijaji.
Ukuba umntwana wakho uyaqhubeka ebonisa iimpawu zokuxhaphazwa okanye ukuxhatshazwa, kufuneka uthabathe umntwana wakho kumgqirha okanye kwizengcali zempilo yengqondo ukuze uhlalutye. Umgqirha uya kuhlaziya ityala lomntwana kwaye angakhombisa uluvo lweengcali ukuxhasa ibango lakho.
Kwiimeko eziphikisanayo phambi kwejaji, ijaji inokuyalela omnye ugqirha ukuba ahlolisise umntwana wakho ukuba afumane umbono wesibini. Ngelishwa, oku kuthetha ukuba umntwana wakho unako ukuvavanywa ezininzi kunye nodliwano-ndlebe ukuze aqinisekise ukusetyenziswa kakubi okanye ukulimala.
Indlela yokukhusela abantwana bakho
Ukuba ukwesaba ukhuseleko lwabantwana bakho okanye uxhalabele ngomnye umzali okwazi ukunyamekela abantwana bakho ekungabikho kwakho, kufuneka ukhawulezise ngokukhawuleza le nkxalabo kumgwebi. Ukuba awusayi kufaka i-custody, unako ukufakela inkundla enkundleni, uchaze ukwesaba kwakho, uze unike ityala ngokugcinwa komzimba kunye nokuvakashelwa ngokukhawuleza. Nangona kunjalo, uzakufuna ukubonelela ubungqina bokuxhasa amabango akho, njengemiyalezo yombhalo, i-imeyile yezwi, kunye neengxelo zengqina.
Ukuba wakho umonakalo okanye usongela ukulimaza wena okanye abantwana bakho, unokucela umyalelo wokukhusela, ngezinye izikhathi ubizwa ngokuba ngumyalelo wokumisela. Unako ukufakela umyalelo wokukhusela kwi-khotho yokuphatha ityala lakho (okanye inkundla yasekhaya esondeleyo). Ngokuqhelekileyo, umyalelo wexeshana uza kukhutshwa xa umntu ephathwa kakubi okanye esongelwayo, kwaye umyalelo wokugqibela uza kukhutshwa emva kokuvalelwa ngokusemthethweni ngomhla ozayo. Ngaphandle kwenkqubo ekhuselekileyo, i-ex yakho ingaqhubeka iphula umthetho kwaye iza kuwe okanye abantwana bakho.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba lakho ex liphule umyalelo, ubhekana nemiphumo emibi, kuquka nexesha lejele.