Uninzi lwabazali bayazi ukuba ukuvalelwa kweemvakalelo ezihambelanayo nombandela wangempela wokuchitha ixesha elifanelekileyo kunye nomntwana wabo. Zingaphi izihlandlo esinqwenela ukuba sibe nabantwana bethu xa kufuneka sisebenze okanye sizalise ezinye iimbopheleleko ezisisusa kuzo? Zingaphi kangangoko sifuna 'ixesha elincinane' xa sinezinto ezaneleyo zemihla ngemihla yokujonga umsebenzi wesikolo kunye nemisebenzi; ukutyisa abantwana; kunye nokuya esikolweni kunye nemisebenzi yangaphandle ?
Iimbono kunye neenkolelo malunga nobungakanani kunye nexesha eliphezulu kunye nezingane zibukhali kwaye zibonisa umzabalazo wethu ukufumana ukulinganisela ebomini bentsapho. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba sisebenza ngaphandle kwekhaya okanye kungenjalo, ubomi bentsapho kunye nabantwana abaneminyaka esikolweni banomdla. Kulula ukufumana ishedyuli esityebileyo esisivumela ukuba sizive sisinqanyuliwe kubantwana bethu.
Xa iishedyuli zethu kunye neembopheleleko zithatha, iimvakalelo zethu zingasikhokela ukuba sicwangcise umsebenzi weentsapho ezikhethekileyo kunye. Xa sivakalelwa ngathi silahlekile kwilizwe elincinci, iimvakalelo zethu zingasikhokela ukuba sixoxe kwakhona kunye neqabane lethu okanye sikhulise umnqweno wethu wokuzikhangela okanye ukuzikhangela. Xa iimvakalelo ezinzima zikhokelela ekubeni senze utshintsho kwimilinganiselo ebomini bethu kunye nobungakanani kunye nomgangatho wexesha lethu nomntwana wethu, amanyathelo ambalwa alula aya kusibuyisela ngokulinganisela.
Vumela ukuba uzonwabe njengomntwana.
Ukuba ukhohliwe njani, unomfundisi opheleleyo kumntwana wakho. Vumela umntwana wakho akukhokele kwilizwe lakhe elihle.
Into ayithandayo iya kutshabalalisa loo mntwana kuwe; kwaye ke, hamba kunye nayo.
Cwangcisa ixesha lokuzonwabisa kunye.
Yibeke kwishedyuli kwaye ujabulele ukucwangciswa nokulindela umsebenzi owenzela umdlalo wosapho . Xa ixesha lifika, faka yonke imbopheleleko yakho engqondweni yakho, phumula, kwaye ube nexesha elihle. Unceda ukuba ndibhale phantsi uludwe lwam lwam emva koko ukuze ndicime ingqondo yam.
Thatha ixesha emini.
Ukuba umsebenzi wakho uvumela, thabatha isidlo sasemini kanye ngenyanga kwaye uphathe umntwana wakho kunye nawe ngokusemini kunye kunye. Ukuba ungenalo hlobo lokuguquguquka, fumana iindlela zokuvumela umntwana wakho ukuba uyazi malunga naye emini. Unokwenza ibhoksi yekhefu okanye ukhangele ngefowuni ngosuku.
Isibalulekileyo kukufumana iindlela zokuchitha ixesha lokuzonwabisa kunye, ukuhleka nokudlala nokuxhuma kunye nomntwana wakho. Esinye sezicwangciso ezizithandayo ngexesha loxakeke ngakumbi emsebenzini, ukulungiselela ishedyuli kwinkqubo yesikolo yasekhaya emva kwesikolweni. Xa sonke sifika ekhaya, sinokuchitha ixesha lokuphumla ndawonye kunokujongana nomsebenzi wesikolo. Fumana iimbono zobusuku obumnandi bomndeni onokuyilungisa. Kodwa, ininzi yazo zonke, thola iindlela zokuphumla kwaye ujonge ukuchitha ixesha kunye nomntwana wakho rhoqo. Uyakufumana loo mvakalelo yobomi bentsapho yakho kwaye ujabule ngexesha elifanayo.