Abazali abanamalungiselelo okugcina abantwana abangasasebenzisanga nabo kufuneka bacele ukuguqulwa kwengane kwinkundla. Emva kwemizamo yokuthetha nomzali, kukho izizathu ezininzi zokuba kutheni umnye umzali angafuna ukuguqula isivumelwano sokugcina umntwana. Nantsi ingcaciso engakumbi malunga nezizathu zokuba umzali aqwalasele ukuguqulwa kwengcinezelo yomntwana:
Xa Ukulungiswa Kwempahla Yomntwana Kukho Intshisekelo Yomntwana Wakho
Ngokuqhelekileyo, inkundla ayiyi kuqwalasela ukutshintsha ilungiselelo lokugcinwa kwabantwana elibonakala lisebenza kuzo zonke iinkampani ezibandakanyekayo. Okokuqala, inkxalabo yenkundla yinto enomdla kumntwana, oko kuthetha ukuba inkundla ayiyi kufuna ukuphazamisa indlela yokuphila yomntwana kunye nenhlalakahle yezizathu ezinobungqina. INkundla iza kuhlola izizathu zokuba umzali angacinga ukutshintsha ilungiselelo lokugcina umntwana ngaphambi kokuyalela utshintsho kwi-oda yokugcina.
Xa Ukholelwa Ukuba Umntwana Wakho Useengozini
Esinye sezizathu ezibalulekileyo ukuba kutheni inkundla iza kuqwalasela ukuguqulwa kwengane xa umntwana esengozini esheshayo kwindlu yangoku. Ekuhloleni ingozi kumntwana, inkundla iya kuqwalasela oku kulandelayo:
- Ubundlobongela basekhaya ngaphakathi kwikhaya lomzali
- Ingaba umngcipheko kumntwana ukhawuleza
- Ingaba umntwana ubonise ukungathandi ukuhlala ekhaya lomzali, apho ingozi ikhona khona
Ukulandela Ukunyuswa Kwamanye Nabazali
Inkundla iya kuqwalasela ukuguqulwa komntwana xa omnye wabazali bomntwana ecinga ukufudukela kwindawo ekude. Ngaphambi kokuguqula umntwana, inkundla iya kuqwalasela oku kulandelayo:
- Isizathu somzali othuthela kuyo
- Ingaba ukufuduka kwenza ukuba ixesha lokutyelela alinakwenzeka okanye lingenakwenzeka
- Ingaba abazali baxelele indlela yokuvuselela ixesha lokutyelela
- Ingaba ubomi bomntwana buya kuphazamiseka (emva kokufunda esikolweni okanye kwimidlalo, ubuhlobo, ukukhuliswa kwenkolo) ngokuguqulwa komntwana
Xa Ukuphinda Kwakho Kuphindaphindiwe Kuhlaziya iShedyuli yokuTyelela esivumelekileyo
Ukuba omnye wabazali asebenzisani neshedyuli yokutyelela yangoku, inkundla inokuqwalasela utshintsho kwilungiselelo lokugcinwa kwabantwana. Inkundla iya kuqwalasela le miba elandelayo ngaphambi kokuyalela ukuguqulwa kwengane xa umzali engasebenzisani neshedyuli yokutyelela:
- Isivumelwano esenziwe ngabazali kwisicwangciso somzali
- Izizathu apho ishedyuli yokutyelela yangoku ingazange ilandelwe
- Uqhagamshelwano phakathi kwabazali
Ukulandela Ukufa komzali
Ukuba umzali okhuselekileyo uyafa, ukulungiswa komntwana kuyimfuneko njengoko inkundla iya kuyidinga ukuba umzali ongekho phantsi uya kuthatha uxanduva olupheleleyo lomntwana okanye ukuba umntu wesithathu uya kuthatha ukugcinwa komntwana. Ngokuqhelekileyo, inkundla inokukhetha ukuba umntwana ahlale nomzali ongekho phantsi, njengoko kuya kubangela ubunzima obungaphantsi kobomi bomntwana. Nangona kunjalo, inkundla iya kuqwalasela amalungiselelo athile, ukuba umntwana akakwazi ukuhlala kunye nomzali ongekho phantsi kwesinye sezizathu zilandelayo:
- Umgama ukusuka kwikhaya okanye kwintsapho
- Ingqesho yomzali engekho-cwangciso yenza ukuba kube nzima ukuba athathe uxanduva olupheleleyo kumntwana
- Umntwana ubonisa umnqweno wokuhlala kunye nomntu wesithathu
Iingcebiso ezongezelelweyo
Ngaphambi kokuba kuqaliswe ukugcinwa kwabantwana abatsha, abazali kufuneka bazame ukunxibelelana kuqala kunye nokusebenza kwesivumelwano esivumelanayo. Ukongezelela, ngaphambi kokuqwalasela inkundla yokugcinwa kwengane kwinkantolo, abazali banokuzuza kwi-mediation okanye arbitration, okuyiyo ingxaki emncinci kwaye idla ixesha kunomgangatho oqhelekileyo.
Ukufumana ulwazi oluthe xaxa malunga nokuguqulwa kwamalungelo omntwana, bhekisa kwiikhompyutheni ezithile zokugcinwa komntwana kwimeko yakho okanye uthethe kummeli oqeqeshiweyo kwimeko yakho.
Ulungiswe nguJennifer Wolf.