Kukholelwa ukuba abazali balwela ukugcinwa kwabantwana bahlala bephikisana ngokugcinwa komzimba. Nangona kunjalo, kukho olunye uhlobo lokugcinwa kwabantwana okufuneka abazali baqwalasele, kwaye oko kukugcinwa komthetho. Umzali onokugcinwa kuphela komthetho ngumntu kuphela onalo igunya lomthetho lokwenza izigqibo ezinkulu egameni lomntwana wakhe. Ezi ntlobo zezigqibo ziquka imfundo, inkolo, kunye nonyango.
Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba ukugcinwa kwezomthetho kwahluke kwiindawo zokugcina umzimba. Ngamanye amazwi, kunokwenzeka-kwaye kuyaqhelekileyo-kubazali-co-parents ukwabelana ngokugcinwa komthetho kodwa bengabelani ngokugcinwa komzimba.
Iinkonzo
- Ngokuqhelekileyo kulula ukwenza izigqibo ezinkulu xa kukho umzali omnye kuphela onoxanduva lokuzikhethela ngokusemthethweni.
- Oku kunokwenzeka, kwezinye iimeko, kubangela ukuhambelana okukhulu komntwana.
- Kwiintsapho apho umzali omnye engekho ngokupheleleyo, kuyimfuneko ukuba umzali oseleyo akwazi ukwenza izigqibo ezibalulekileyo ngaphandle kokuthetha nomzali ozenzayo ngokwakhe.
Umxhasi
- Kungaba nzima ukubonisana nomnye umzali ngaphambi kokuba wenze isigqibo esinqununu, ngakumbi xa kuziwa kwindlela yokuziphatha yonyango okanye unyango lwezonyango.
- Xa ukungavumelani kuvela malunga nezigqibo ezahlukileyo, kudla ngokucacileyo ukuba ngabaphi umzali okufanele abe ngumntu ochasayo okanye adibanise kwiimfundiso zakhe.
- Ngamanye amaxesha kungabonakala ngokucacileyo ukuba zeziphi izigqibo zokubeletha ezibhekwa njengezigqibo "ezinkulu". Ngokomzekelo, ngaba isigqibo sokwenza iingcebiso kumntwana sidinga ukuba umzali ngamnye avumelane phambili kwinkqubo yokonyango?
Iseluleko kubazali abafuna ukunyanzelwa komthetho
Abazali abafuna ukugcinwa kuphela kwezomthetho banqwenela ukuphepha ukuphazamiseka nokudideka okuza kuvela nalo lungiselelo.
Nangona kunjalo, ngaphambi kokuba unqume ukulandela ukugcinwa komthetho wodwa kwinkundla, qwalasela oku kulandelayo:
- Ingaba abazali bobabini bafikeleleka kwisigqibo esenziwe ngokubambisana; ukuba ngaba bobabini bafumanekayo, kungenakufuneka ukuba umzali omnye abe nokugcinwa komthetho kuphela.
- Ingaba kunokwenzeka ukuba bobabini abazali ukuba bathathe inxaxheba kwisenzo sokwenza izigqibo (umzekelo, ukwabelana ngokugcinwa ngokubambisana kwiindawo ezihlukeneyo zexesha kunokuba ngumceli mngeni)
- Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ukwabelana ngokusemthethweni ngumngcipheko owanceda abantwana kunye / okanye ityala lakho lokugcinwa kuphela (ukuba oko kuyinjongo yakho)
- Ingaba kukho nayiphi na ingozi kubantwana bakho ngokukwabelana ngokugcinwa komthetho ngokusemthethweni (umzekelo, ukuba lakho ex liye labonisa ukuziphatha okuphezulu kwingozi esikhathini esidlulileyo esenokuphazamisa ukwenza izigqibo)
- Ingaba umzali ufuna ukugcinwa komthetho kuphela nje ukuphepha ukuphazamiseka kokuthintana nomnye umzali
Xa Umthetho Wemithetho Yomthetho Eyona Msebenzi Ilungelelanisa Nokuba Akunjalo
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukugcinwa kuphela komthetho kulungile kwiimeko apho omnye umzali engekho ukubonisana malunga nezigqibo ezibalulekileyo ezibandakanya impilo yempilo, imfundo kunye nokukhuliselwa kwezenkolo. Akuthathwa njengona khetho olukhethekileyo xa omnye umzali efuna ukugcinwa kuphela komthetho ukugwema ukubonisana nomnye.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, xa umzali eshukunyiswa ngumnqweno wokuphepha ingxabano okanye ukunxibelelana nomnye umzali, kodwa abazali bobabini bafumanekile kwaye banokulinganayo, iinkundla ziya kukwenqaba isicelo sokugcinwa komthetho kuphela kwaye zifune ukuba abazali bafunde ukuba basebenzisane njani ngenxa yabantwana.