Nangona kubonakala ngathi uhamba nobunzima xa kuvela ekulahlekelweni komsebenzi wakho, umzali makakhumbule ukuba yimeko echaphazela intsapho yonke. Ngoko ke, yonke intsapho kufuneka ibandakanyeke ekuxhaseni-kwaye ukwenza oko kufuneka uxoxe nabantwana malunga nokulahleka komsebenzi.
Nangona ulingela ukugcina iindaba eziphantsi kweengxaki zokulondoloza abantwana bakho bakhathazeke kwaye bacinezeleke , abantwana banokuqonda xa kukho into engalunganga.
Baya kukhwankqiswa xa befumanisa ukuba abazali babo abathembekileyo baye bagcina imfihlo kubo, kwaye abantwana bakho bangaphupha ngeemeko ezimbi xa ungathethi malunga nento eyenzekayo.
Ngoko bathabathe umoya kwaye ubize intlanganiso yentsapho ukuxoxa ngokulahlekelwa komsebenzi kunye noko kuthetha ntoni kwindlu. Nangona unesaba, ugxininisekile, kwaye udidekile, khumbula ukuba akudingeki ukuba ube nazo zonke iimpendulo ngaphambi kokuba uxoxe nezingane zakho. Kunoko, unokwenza uchaze oko uwaziyo ngoku.
Zilungiselele kule ngxoxo. Hlalani nikulungele ukuthobisa iingxaki zabantwana bakho ngenkqu ninceda ukuba baqonde indlela isigxina esicinezela ngayo ubomi , njengokulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi, kunokuchaphazela intsapho yonke.
Indlela ukungasebenzi kuchaphazela abantwana
Ukuba phakathi kwemisebenzi kwiiveki ezimbalwa kunokunyamezela abantwana bakho. Kodwa, xa uphinde ungene emsebenzini, izinto ziyakwazi ukubuyela kwindawo eqhelekileyo kwaye abantwana bakho banokubuyiselwa emva koxinzelelo.
Ukuba ungekho emsebenzini ixesha elide, ukungaqeshwa kwakho kungathatha inkokhelo kubomi bonke bomntwana wakho. Izifundo zibonisa ukungaqeshwa kwabantwana kunokunciphisa injabulo yabantwana. Kwaye abaphandi baye bafumana amabakala ekuhla kwezingane xa abazali babo bengasebenzi.
Izifundo zibonisa ukuba kukho iindlela ezininzi zokungaqeshwa komzali kuthatha umthwalo kubantwana:
- Uxinzelelo lwabazali luchithelwa kubantwana. Xa abazali begxininiswe malunga nokulahleka kwengeniso okanye ubunzima bokufumana umsebenzi, abantwana baya kuziva bexinezelekile.
- Ingeniso eyancitshiswayo ithintela ubomi bemihla ngemihla yabantwana. Imilinganiselo yokuphila yentsapho ingahla, enokuthintela umntwana ukuba angonwabele imisebenzi kunye namalungelo afanayo njengoko ngaphambili.
- Ukulahlekelwa kwintsebenzo kubangela ezinye iimeko ezixinzelelekileyo. Xa iintsapho kufuneka zithuthele kwisixeko esitsha okanye ziyeke ukuthumela abantwana kwimisebenzi yeekharityhulam ezongezelelweyo, ubomi bomntwana bemihla ngemihla bunokuchaphazeleka ngeendlela ezimbi.
- Abantwana bakhathazekile ngekamva. Abantwana abakhulileyo abaziqonda kakuhle ngemali kunye neebhilikhwe banokukhula bexhalabile ukuba intsapho yabo iya kuhlala ebumpofu okanye ingahlali.
- Abantwana bangaba yiithagethi zokuxhatshazwa xa umzali engasebenzi. Ukungabikho kwemisebenzi kunokukhokelela ekuhlekeleni nasekuxhatshazweni kwabanye abantwana.
Xa uqonda ukuba ukungabikho kwemisebenzi kuthintela njani abantwana, unokukwazi ukunciphisa umlinganiselo owenzayo kubomi babo. Ukuthetha nezingane malunga nokulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi kunye nokufumana iindlela zokubanceda ukujamelana nazo kunokubanceda ekujonganeni noxinzelelo ngendlela ephilileyo.
Yabelana ngeSicwangciso sakho
Ngaphambi kokuba uhlale phantsi nabantwana, khuluma nabanye bakho abalulekileyo (ukuba kukho omnye emfanekisweni) kwaye uza kunye nesicwangciso.
Abantwana bakho baya kuncitshiswa ngakumbi kukuba uyazi ukuba isinyathelo esilandelayo sithini.
Ngoko ukuba uceba ukwenza utyeshelo kwithuba elithile, khangela umsebenzi omtsha, ubuyele kwikholeji, okanye uqalise ishishini elitsha, xelela umntwana wakho oko ucinga ukuba kwenzeke ngokuzayo. Nangona ekugqibeleni ungagqiba ukulandela isicwangciso, qiniseka ukuba umntwana wakho uyazi ukuba unemibono kwimisebenzi.
Iingxoxo ezifanelekileyo zexesha elide
Umntwana wakho udlala indima enkulu kwindlela ojongene ngayo nesihloko sokulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi-emva koko, abantwana abancinci abayi kuqonda ukuba uqala ukuthetha ngokuchithwa, ukunciphisa okanye uqoqosho. Kwabancinci, gcina okulula ngokuthi umama / dade uya kuhlala ekhaya ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngenxa yokuba umsebenzi wakhe awusayi kumfuna ukuba afike imihla ngemihla.
Umntwana osemdala-uthi, umfundi weziko lesibini-angakwazi ukuphatha ezinye iinkcukacha ezimbalwa; umzekelo, cacisa ukuba inkampani ivaliwe okanye ihambele kwenye indawo.
Abaselula, ngokwemvelo, baya kulindela inkcazelo engakumbi, kodwa iingcinga zabo ziya kuhamba ngokukhawuleza ngemali-yenza konke okusemandleni akho ukuqinisekisa ukuba intsapho iya kulungile kwaye unesicwangciso sokufikelela kwiintsuku ezizayo, iiveki kunye iinyanga.
Nyaniseka
Isiqalo sakho sokuqala sinokuba ushukela iimeko ukuze kungabonakali kakubi kakhulu, kodwa ukunciphisa ubunzima beemeko kakhulu kunempazamo. Nangona kunjalo, awufuni ukuhamba nge-dramatics, ngoko ufumane umgangatho ophakathi phakathi nokuba nethemba malunga nokulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi kwintsapho yakho.
Nantsi imimiselo yento onokuthi:
- Ndiza kuchitha umsebenzi wam ngeveki ezayo. Kuze ndifumane enye, siya kufuneka sinciphise imali yethu. Oko kuthetha ukuba akukho kutya kwaye akukho ukuthenga izinto ezintsha ngaphandle kokuba sizifuna ngokwenene.
- Ndilahlekelwe ngumsebenzi namhlanje. Ndiya kusebenza nzima ukufumana omnye umsebenzi kungekudala. Kodwa andinako ukufumana enye kwisixeko esifanayo. Singadinga ukuhambisa.
- Umsebenzi wam wawungafanelekanga kum ngoko andiyi kusebenza apho. Ndiya kusebenza kanzima ndizama ukufumana umsebenzi omtsha. Kodwa de ndiza kuqashwa kwenye indawo, asiyi kuba nemali eninzi yokuchitha.
Xoxa malunga nendlela olahlekileyo ngayo uYobhi uza kuthinta njani umntwana wakho
Ingumntu wengqondo ukuba uqale ucinge malunga noko kuthetha ntoni kubo, ngoko ungamangalisi ukuba impendulo yokuqala ukubuza into ethi, "Ngaba oko kuthetha ukuba asikwazi ukuhamba eholide kweli hlobo?" Okanye "Ngaba ndiya Unako ukuya ekampini yehlobo? "
Akusiyo loo mbuzo onzima kakhulu engqondweni yakho, kodwa kubalulekile kumntwana. Musa ukukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza ukuthoba iingxaki zakhe ukuba awukwazi ukuba yintoni isicwangciso. Endaweni yoko, phendula impendulo engqiqweni: "Ewe, sisazicwangcisa ngekhefu / ukuya ekampini. Ukuba oko kutshintsha, siya kuxoxa ngesicwangciso sethu. "
Ukuba ufuna ukukhawuleza kwimisebenzi yecandelo elithile, cacisa ukuba-nakuba unokuba nobushushu okanye iinyembezi, ngoko ulungiselele. Ukuba uceba ukunciphisa ukunakekelwa kwondlo ngokuthumela abantwana kubantininkulu kunye nendlu kazukulu emini, bathethe ngokunjalo.
Xoxa Ngoobani abanako ukwabelana nabo ngolwazi
Kubantwana abakhulileyo, qinisekisa ukuba bayazi ukuba ngubani na onokubelana ngalo ngcaciso (kodwa musa ukubenza bazive benjengento ehlazo okanye ukuba bahlale beqinile-baqeshwe ngonaphakade). Ukuba ukhetha umntwana wakho ukuba angayibhengezeli kwimidiya yoluntu okanye angabelani ngokulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi kunye nabahlobo bakhe okwamanje, yenza ukuba kucace.
Cacisa ukuba ibucala, kodwa ayikho imfihlelo, kwaye okwangoku, uceba ukugcina ulwazi lentsapho.
Lawula Imizwa Yakho
Abantwana baya kuthatha isicatshulwa kuwe malunga nendlela yokusabela ngayo kwiindaba zokuthi ulahlekelwe ngumsebenzi wakho. Ukuba awunakufumanisa iimvakalelo zakho, jonga usuku okanye ezimbini ukuthetha nezingane zakho. Ngokukhawuleza phambi kwengxoxo yakho, thatha amanyathelo okuzinqabisa phantsi. Ingaba kuthatha ibhola lokubhukuda okanye ukuya kwi-jog, qiniseka ukuba uziva uzinzo njengoko kunokwenzeka ngaphambi kokutshabalalisa incoko.
Nangona kulungile ukuvuma ukuba unesiva okanye ungaziqinisekanga, ukukhala okanye ukuvakala okwethutyana kwintlanganiso yentsapho kunokubangela ukuba abantwana bakho banxungupheke ngokweqile, kwaye akuyi kuba luncedo kunoma ubani.
Ukubonelela ngokuqinisekileyo
Xa uthe wagqiba ukuthetha nabantwana bakho malunga nokulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi, baqinisekise ukuba uya kwenza konke okusemandleni akho ukuba unamathele kwimisebenzi yabo yemihla ngemihla-uze ulandele.
Kunzima abantwana ukuba bazi ukuba ibhonacon yabo yokuzinza-abazali babo-bahamba ngexesha elingalindelekanga. Oko kuthetha ukugcina iziganeko ezikhethekileyo "ezingaphandle komsebenzi", njenge-midweek ehamba epakini, ukuya kumncinci.
Nangona imisebenzi eyongezelelweyo ngokuqinisekileyo i-perk yokuba ekhaya kakhulu kunye nezingane, zinyame ngamaxesha avuselelayo, amaxesha okudla, kunye namaxesha e-nap xa kunokwenzeka. Ukunamathela kwishedyuli eqhubekayo kuya kunceda umntwana wakho azive ekhuselekile kwaye ekhuselekile, nokuba phakathi kokungaqiniseki.
Yintoni ongayithethi
Nangona kubalulekile ukuthetha nabantwana malunga nokulahleka komsebenzi, kukho ezinye izinto omele uzigcine kwiingxoxo zakho. Nantsi into ekumele uyiphephe ukuthetha kumntwana wakho:
- Gwema ukubeka ityala. Nangona ukulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi kubangelwa ngumqeshi ongenangqiqo okanye uqoqosho olubi, ungavumeli umntwana wakho acinge ukuba uxhoba lweemeko ezimbi kunye nokuphathwa kakubi. Ukuhlala kakhulu kwiingcambu zeengxaki kuza kuphakamisa uxhalabo lwakhe ngekamva.
- Yeka izibikezelo eziyingozi. Nangona ucinga ukuba awuyi kuphinda ufumane omnye umsebenzi ohlawula kakuhle, ungamcebisi umntwana wakho kwiingxelo zakho ezimbi. Kunoko, gcina ugxininisa kwinto oyenzayo ukujongana nokungasebenzi kwakho.
- Musa ukubandakanya umntwana wakho kuzo zonke iingxoxo. Ukufundisa umntwana wakho malunga nezinto ezisisiseko kwimeko yakho akuthethi ukuba umele amenzele ingqalelo kuzo zonke iingxoxo zabantu abadala. Akudingeki ukuba azi malunga noxinzelelo olujongene nalo okanye indlela oxhalabile ngayo ngemali yokuthenga. Bamba iingxoxo ezindala kude nomntwana wakho.
Yiba Nomnqweno Wokuvuma Unayo Zonke Iimpendulo
Ingaba umntwana wakho ufuna ukwazi ukuba uza kuthatha ixesha elingakanani ukuba ufumane omnye umsebenzi, nokuba unokuhlala kwindawo efanayo yomsebenzi, qaphela ukungaqiniseki xa ungenayo iimpendulo. Yithi into enjengale, "Andiyazi impendulo yaloo nto ngoku, kodwa ndivuyayo ucele. Umbuzo omhle. "
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