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Iingcamango ezikhokelela kwiNgxaki xa UkhulileZingaphi izihlandlo oye wazama ukuyeka umkhwa omubi okanye ulahlekelwe isisindo , waza wafumanisa ngokukhawuleza kwiindlela zakho zakudala? Kusenokwenzeka ukuba uzama ukwenza le nguqulelo ukuze uphucule ukuzala kwakho .
Okanye mhlawumbi uzama ukugxininisa ngakumbi kwimpilo yakho engabonakaliyo . Mhlawumbi uzama ukuhamba ngaphaya kobunzima bakho.
Ufuna ukuphila ubomi obunempilo, obonwabileyo, ngoko ucinga ukuba uya kukhuthazwa ukuba uthathe isenzo. Nangona kunjalo, awuyi kutshintsha utshilo ofuna ukuyenza. Okanye ukwenza, uze ushiye ngokukhawuleza.
Amazwi ethu angaphakathi - kunye ne-excuse-making making i-egos - zinama-101 anesizathu sokuba singakwazi ukunamathela kwisabelomali , kutheni singenakufumana inkxaso kunye noxhumano nabanye, kutheni sifanele sibe nale pieyilethi.
Nazi iingcamango ezi-5 ezigcina ukukhusela abantu ukuba baphumelele, benze ukhetho oluvulekileyo.
Ukuqaphela ezi ngcamango akuyi kubangela ukuba iingxaki zenze amazwi aphele ngokupheleleyo - kodwa iya kunceda.
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"Ayikho into endiyenzayo, ayifuniyo iya kundinceda ukuba ndikhulelwe ..."Ingxaki yayicinga ukuba: "Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ndiyenza ntoni, akunjalo kuya kunceda ndikhulelwe ..."
Ukuba ufuna ukwenza utshintsho lobomi, uncedo olusishukumisayo luncedo. Ngoko ucinga ukuba ukuba ufuna ukulahlekelwa isisindo okanye ube nempilo, ukuphumelela kokukhulelwa njengenxalenye yesishukumiso sakho sizathu esihle.
Ayiyo. Ingcinga engalunganga.
Xa amandla akho axhukumisayo enendlela yokukhumbuza "ukuhluleka" rhoqo - oko kukuthi, xa ufumana ithuba lakho - kufana nokusekwa ukuyeka zonke iintsuku ezingama-30. Ixesha lakho, kunye neminqweno yalo ye-hormone, lijika libe luvavanyo oluthile lwamandla.
Uyazi ukuba ezi zinto zithatha ixesha, kwaye uyazi ukuba akunangqiqo ukulindela ukukhulelwa kwinyanga leyo uqala ukulahlekelwa isisindo. Nangona kunjalo, ukufumana ixesha lakho kukukhumbuza ukuba UNGAKHUMBULA, kwaye bam, kuphuma uBen noJerry.
Kwakhona, kwiimeko ezininzi, ukulahlekelwa isisindo akunakukunceda ukuba uqikelele ngqo.
Ukulahlekelwa isisindo kwabasetyhini abagqithiseleyo baye bafunyanwa ukuba baqalise ukuvusa nokunyusa iingxaki zokukhulelwa , ingakumbi kubasetyhini abajongene nokugqithiswa ngokungavumelekanga . Kodwa asikho isiqinisekiso. Kwaye akuyi kusebenza ngenxa yezizathu zonke zokungabikho.
Ngokomzekelo, ukuba ujongene nezigulane ezivaliweyo , ukulahlekelwa isisindo kunokuphucula imiphumo yakho ye- IVF yimpumelelo , kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo ayiyi kukhulelwa ngokwakho.
Oko ukucinga endaweni yoko: "Ndiyenza le nguqulelo ibe namandla."
Yenyuka kunye nomnye amandla okhuthaza, mhlawumbi into ehambelana ngqo nomgomo wakho. Ingubo ofuna ukuyifumana. Isiganeko ofuna ukubukeka sikulungele. Unqwenela ukuziva unamandla kwaye unempilo.
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"Yiyiphi Ingongoma Yokulahlekelwa Isisindo Ukuba Ndiya Kuzuza Ngayo Yonke?"Ingxaki yayicinga ukuba: "Kutheni ulahlekelwa isisindo ngoku xa ndiza kuzuza konke xa ndikhulelwe?"
Akumangalisi ukuba ungacinga njani ukuba ukulahlekelwa isisindo akunakukunceda ukhulelwe nanini kwaye, ngomzuzwana olandelayo, cinga ukuba akukho nto ucinga ukuba uya kuzuza ubunzima emva ... xa ukhulelwa.
Nantsi into. Ewe, uya kuba nobunzima xa ukhulelwa. Kodwa gcinani engqondweni:
- Naluphi na ubunzima obuyifumana ngexesha lokukhulelwa kuya kuba phezulu kwento osuyicingayo. Oku kuthetha ukuba awuyi kukhulula ubunzima ngoku, emva kokuba unesana, uya kuba nesisindo sokukhulelwa ukulahlekelwa ... kunye nesisindo osiphetheyo ngoku. I-Double whammy.
- Ubunzima bunjani obufunekayo ukuze ufumane ngexesha lokukhulelwa ngokuxhomekeke ekubeni unjani ukulinganisela ngoku ... ngoko uza kuba neepounds ezimbalwa ukufumana (ukuzonwabisa mncinane ukuba unayo?) Ukuba uqala ukugqithisa okanye ukugqithisa.
Kwakhona kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba abafazi abagqithiseleyo xa bekhulelwe banomngcipheko ophezulu wokunciphisa ukukhulelwa nokukhulelwa komzimba . Ukuba ukhuluphele, kulungele wena kunye nosana lwakho oluzayo xa ulahlekelwa ubunzima ngoku.
Oko ukucinga endaweni yoko: "Ukuqala ukukhulelwa kwisisindo esipheleleyo kuya kunceda ndibe nokukhulelwa okunempilo. Yaye ubunzima obuba ndiba nayo ngexesha lokukhulelwa buza kubakho umntwana okanye umntwana! "
Ngokwe-American Pregnancy Association, iipounds ezi-7 kuphela zokufumana ukunyameka kokunyameka kokunyuka kwezilwanyana zokubeleka.
Umntwana uthatha ama-7 ukuya kuma-8 iipounds, i-placenta enye enye okanye ezimbini, i-amniotic fluids 2 pounds, kunye ne-uterus ewandisiweyo enye iipounds ezimbini. Kukho iipilisi ezi-2 ezongezelelweyo zezicubu zengxube ezongezelelweyo, ii-pounds ezongezelelweyo zevolumu yegazi, kunye neepounds ezingama-4 zokugcinwa kwamanzi.
Uninzi lwento oyifumanayo aluhlambulukanga - lusana nolutsha olwenza izixhobo!
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"Asinakuyithatha Iphulo. Kuthiwani Ukuba Siphumelele?"Inkxalabo icinga ukuba: "Asikwazi ukuphumula ngoku. Kuthekani ukuba siyakhulelwa ngenyanga ezayo? "
Xa uqala ukucinga ngokuthatha ikhefu ekuzameni ukukhulelwa , unokukhawuleza ukuqala ukubona inyanga yokuphumula njengeNyanga yeMangaliso.
Ngamanye amazwi, ngaloo nyanga - ngenxa yokuba unqume ukungazami - uvakalelwa ngathi unayo inokwenzeka kakhulu yokuphumelela ukukhulelwa . (Kakade, oku akuyinyaniso ... leyo nyanga ayikho ilungu kunezinye.)
Yenza ingqiqo. Ingqondo yakho iyakuthanda ukuxelela ukuba unokufezekisa into ethile, ukuba uvele uzame ... ngakumbi xa ungeke uzame.
Oku akukwenzeka nje ekuveleni, kwenzeka nakwezinye iimeko.
"Ndiya kukhwela iNtaba i-Everest. Xa ndibe nemali eyaneleyo yokwenza uhambo ... "
"Ngolunye usuku, ndiza kubhala incwadi ehamba phambili. Xa ndixakekile ... "
Ngethuba ongenakwenza, unokukholelwa ukuba oko kwenzeka. Le nkqubo yokucinga ingakunceda uzive ungcono malunga nezo zinto zohlu lwamabhakethi oqhubeka uzibeka.
Kodwa inokukunceda ukuba ungathathi ixesha elifutshane xa uzama ukukhulelwa.
Oko ukucinga endaweni yoko: "Iingxaki zam zokukhulelwa zifana nenyanga nganye. Sifuna ukuphuka ngoku. Siza kuphinda sizame kwakhona [kwinyanga ezayo apha]. "
Ukuba nomhla ozayo ungathuthuzela, njengoko kunokukukhumbuza ukuba ukuphuka kungokwesikhashana, kwaye uza kuba nelinye ithuba lokukhulelwa xa loo mhla ufika.
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"I-Clomid / i-Lupron / Okunye-Utywala-Iidakamizwa Ndenza Ndadla Oku."Ingxaki yayicinga ukuba: "I-Clomid ingenza ndiyidle le kharoni yonke ye-ayisikrimu. Akuyonto yam! "
Ukusetyenziswa kweziyobisi kakubi nje ukufunwa ngokutya. Baphinde bagxeke ngokugqithiseleyo, ukuziphatha okubi, kunye nezinye izinto ezingalunganga.
Unokufuna ukumemeza kumntu osebenza naye. Nangona kunjalo, unelungelo lokukhetha ukwenza loo miba. Awukwazi ukubeka ityala kwiComidid okanye iLupron . (Nangona ndiyazi ukuba uyalinga!)
Ukufumana inzuzo kuhambelana nokunyanga, kodwa isizathu esicacileyo. Unokukwazi ukugcina amanzi xa uthatha iziyobisi, kodwa oko kufuneka kuhambe xa unyango luphelile.
Kunokwenzeka ukuba uxinzelelo lwezonyango lukhokelela kwimikhwa yokuziphatha engafanelekanga - njengokutya ngokomzimba . Ukutya okwemvakalelo kukukhokelela ekuzuzeni ubunzima.
Naliphi na ukubeka ityala lokuziphatha kakubi kwiziyobisi zokuzala, uqobo uzinike imvume yokukwenza nantoni na oyifunayo. Akusiyo iphoso lakho! Awunakunceda! Ziyobisi!
Kodwa unako ukulawula izenzo zakho. Ngaba unako.
Oko ukucinga endaweni yoko: "Ezi ziyobisi zingenza kube nzima ukuba ndizinamathele kwiinjongo zam , kodwa ndiyakwazi ukwenza oko. Akunamsebenzi wam. "
Yiba nesicwangciso malunga nendlela oza kuthuthuzela ngayo xa izifiso zithatha. Yenza uludwe lwezinye iindlela ukuze uzive ungcono, ukhetho oluphilileyo.
Ezinye iingcamango: fumana i-massage, kwiqabane lakho okanye ehleliweyo kwi-spa. Thatha uhambo olujikeleze ibhloko. Yenza enye yoga. Jonga ibhayisikobho okanye ukubuyela kwintandokazi. Mamela uluhlu lwadlalwayo lomculo olwandisa indlela ovakalelwa ngayo. Shayela umhlobo. Phuma ukudansa, okanye isithsaba, okanye ukukhwela. Noba yintoni!
Ukwenza uluhlu lokutya okutyayo kunokunceda, nawe. Gcina uluhlu kwifriji yakho, kuba xa isilingo sihlasela.
Kuhle ukufumana uluhlu olududuzayo malunga nokuba ungeyena umzabalazo wokufumana ubunzima kunye nokutya ngokomzwelo. Ukunyanga ukunyanga kubangela uxinzelelo! Ungasebenzisa yonke inkxaso onokuyifumana.
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"Kutheni Uzama Ukubiza Umhlobo? Abayiqondi."Ingxaki yayicinga ukuba: "Kutheni ndize ndizame ukuchaza indlela ndivakalelwa ngayo kumhlobo? Akwazi ukuqonda. "
Xa unesifo, ungase uzive uwedwa. I nyaniso yokuba i-1 kwi-8 yezibini ezithandana nokungabikho kokusweleka akuncedi xa iziqabane zakho ezi-7 zizo zonke iinzala kunye nookumkani.
Oku kunokukhokelela ukuba ungafinyeleli uncedo. Unokuthintela njani umntu okhulelwe ngokukhawuleza nomzabalazo wakho?
Okanye unokuba nabahlobo abangenasifo, kodwa mhlawumbi banemibango eyahlukileyo kunoko. Bazama ukukhuseleka kokuqala, ngelixa unenkathazo yokusweleka kwesibini . Okanye ngenye indlela.
Okanye mhlawumbi isizathu sakho sokungabikho kwengqondo kunzima kakhulu. Mhlawumbi ukhetho lwakho lwezonyango lungaphelelanga okanye lubiza kakhulu. Okanye mhlawumbi awunakho ukhetho ngaphandle kokuqhubela phambili ngobomi obungabantwana.
Nantsi into: umhlobo akadingeki ukuba abe namava afanayo njengoko unika inkxaso okanye uvelwano.
Ukuba oko kwakuyinyaniso, akukho mntu unokukwazi ukunika omnye umntu inkxaso. Ngenxa yokuba sonke sinemingeni ekhethekileyo, imvelaphi ekhethekileyo kunye nezixhobo ezizimeleyo.
Oko ukucinga endaweni yoko: "Umhlobo wam akasenakufumana iimfazwe zam eziyingqayizivele, kodwa baye bajamelana neengxaki zohlobo oluthile. Bafuna ukunceda ... ndiya kubafundisa indlela. "
Ewe, fundisa abahlobo bakho ukuba bakuxhase njani. Batshele into oyifunayo okanye ayifuniyo. Thetha xa bengaxelelanga ngento ethile eyingozi .
Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu, yeka ukugcina ukukhulelwa kwakho kungumfihlo. Ukuba awuyi kuphuma kwikhamera kwi-infertility yakho , ngaba bakho abahlobo banokukuxhasa njani?
Khumbula ukuba inkxaso ayikukunceda nje ukuhlangabezana nokubhekisana nokuxinezeleka kobubele , kodwa kuya kukunceda uphile ubomi obuphilileyo. Ewe, ngokwenene! Kunzima ukuzinyameka xa uziva uwedwa.
AWUKHO wedwa. Fikelele. Fumana inkxaso.
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