Injongo yobomi ibalulekile kule ntsha
Abantwana abanikiweyo bavame ukuba neengxaki kwaye ngenxa yoko, bahlala bexinezeleka . Funda kabanzi malunga nale hlobo lokudakumba kunye nendlela ebonakalisa ngayo abantwana abanezipho kunye nabanye ngoku kuhlaziywa.
Yintoni Eyona Nkxwaleko?
Ukudandatheka okukhoyo kwenzeka xa umntu ehlangene nemiba yobomi, ukufa, izifo, inkululeko nokucinezelwa.
Umntu ojongene nokudandatheka okukhoyo kubomi ubomi kwaye kaninzi uvakalelwa kukuba awunanto. Nangona abanye abantu banokufumana olu hlobo lokudakumba emva kwesiganeko esibuhlungu, njengokufa komntu othandekayo, abantu abanesiphiwo sinokuthi bahlupheke ngokukhawuleza; oko kukuthi, akukho senzakalo esichukumisayo esichukumisayo.
Kutheni abantwana abanezipho eziphathekayo bekhokelwa ukuxinezeleka kwangoku
Abantwana abanikiweyo banokujamelana noxinzelelo olukhoyo njengalutsha oluneminyaka emihlanu. Ngeli xesha, abantwana bangaqala ukuqala ukufunda ukuba abafi. Ukufa kwesilwanyana, ilungu lentsapho okanye isiganeko esibuhlungu esichazwe kwincwadi okanye kwiindaba ezinokubangela ukuba unomdla onobuchule malunga nokufa. Ngenxa yoko, umntwana onobuchule unokuqala ukuxhalabisa ngokufa kwaye uphinde umbuze intsingiselo yobomi. Kodwa, njengoko kukhankanywe ngasentla, akukho mcimbi onokubangela inkathazo ebantwini abanesakhono.
Abantu abanamabala abo bonke ubudala banempawu eziyingqayizivele ezingabangela ukuba babe besengozini yokudakumba.
Ngokomzekelo, abaqapheli kuphela imvelo kwaye babone indlela abantu kunye neendawo ezidibene ngayo kwihlabathi, baphinde bakhuphe ukungabi nabulungisa, ukuphathwa kakubi kwabanye kunye nokusetyenziswa kakubi kwamandla. Ngenxa yokuba abantu abanesiphiwo esinomdla banomdla malunga nemiba enjalo, banokuziva bengenathemba xa abanye bebonakala bengakhathazeki ngokucinezelwa, imfazwe, intlupheko kunye nokungenamakhaya.
Ukubonakala ukungabandakanyeki kwabanye kwiimeko zehlabathi kunokubangela abantwana abanomdla kunye nabantu abadala ukuba babuze umxholo wobomi. Ngaphezu koko, into yokuba abantu abakwihlabathi abaphuhlisayo bazalwa kwiziganeko ezithatyathwa ngabantu abaninzi kwihlabathi leNtshona kunokubangela ukuba abantwana banelungelo lokubuza ukulungeleka kwendalo yonke.
Indlela Abazali Basinceda ngayo
Azikho iimpendulo ezilula kwiimpendulo ezininzi zeempendulo ezingabantwana abanalo malunga nehlabathi, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba abazali abanabantwana abanezipho kufuneka baxinezele iingxaki zabo. Abazali banokunceda abantwana abanesiphiwo sokuqala, ngokubaluleka phambili, ngokuqinisekisa iimvakalelo zabantwana babo kwaye bangabagxeki ngenxa yokuba "bengenangqondo."
Baya kunceda abantwana bafumane inkxaso yokuxhasa okanye bafumane ukuba bahlanganyele emsebenzini wokuzithandela kwikhitshi yesobho okanye kwindawo yokuhlala. Ukubuyisa ngale ndlela kunokunceda abantwana abanomdla bazive ngathi bayingxenye yesisombululo kunokuba yingxenye yenkinga.
Xa kuPhezulu kokuPhelelwa kweNdalo
Ukuba umntwana wakho onomsebenzi ubonakala engahlaziyi emva kokucamngca intsingiselo yobomi, ulahlekelwa ngumdla kwiindlela zakhe eziqhelekileyo okanye uqale ukuhoxisa kwiintsapho kunye nabahlobo, kubalulekile ukufumana uncedo. Qaphela umntwana wakho ukuba abone ukutshintsha kwintlanzi okanye ukulala, ukhale ngokulula okanye uhlala exhala.
Ulutsha olucinga ukuzibulala lufuna ukungenelela kwangangoko. Yiphathe lo mqondiso wokudandatheka njengengxamiseko yonyango.
Nangona umntwana wakho eneempawu ezinzima zokudandatheka, ingcali yezempilo yengqondo inokuba yinkonzo. U-psychotherapist unokunceda umntwana ahambe ngeemvakalelo zakhe zokuxinezeleka kunye nokuxhalabisa ngokuphathelele ubomi kunye nehlabathi.