Ukuqonda iingozi zokuqabane kwangaphambili
Uneminyaka emingakanani xa uqala ukutshata ? Shumi elinesthandathu? Shumi elinane? Mhlawumbi uhlehlise ukuthandana de kubekho kwiminyaka emininzi yeshumi okanye iikholeji. Kodwa akuyona indlela izinto ezisebenza ngayo. Namhlanje, abantwana baqala ukutshatyalaliswa kwiminyaka emncinane, kodwa kukho iingozi ezibandakanyekayo. Ukuba i-kati yakho ifuna ukutshatana, nantsi into omele uyazi malunga nokuthandana kunye phakathi kweengcinga malunga nobuhlobo.
Ziziphi iTweens ezicingayo malunga nokuthandana
Yintoni abantu abaye bacinga ngokutshatana nokukhula? Kukho iintsuku apho phakathi kobuthandana kwakuthetha ukubamba izandla, ukudibanisa kunye nokuqhekeka i-ice cream sundaes kwivenkile yendawo yesoda. Amanqaku angama-10 athatyelwe kwinani leemifanekiso zesenzo sezocansi ngethelevishini, iifilimu, imidlalo yevidiyo kunye ne-Intanethi. Yaye loo mifanekiso ifuthe kumgangatho phakathi kokuziphatha.
Ngokomsebenzi wophando olusandul 'utsha, olwenziwa nguLiz Claiborne kunye neNational Teen Dating Abuse Helpline, phakathi kweemvakalelo malunga nokuthandana akusobala njengokuba unokucinga. Enyanisweni, bayothuka. Uphando luye lwabonisa ukuba phantse omnye kweyesithathu kuthiwa bebudlelane bomfana / intombi. Ngokudabukisayo, ngaphezu kwesinye kwisine kwalaba bantu beshumi bathi ukulala ngesondo kuyingxenye yobudlelwane bokuthandana. Kodwa akumele uhlale kwaye uvumele uluntu ukuba luchaze ukuba yintoni phakathi kwakho kufuneka ucinge ngokuthandana kunye nokukhuselwa kokuthandana.
Usengumzali, kwaye unokubeka imida, imigaqo kwaye wenze imiphumo kumntwana wakho kufuneka imigaqo yakho ingayinakunyulwa. Iingcebiso ezingezantsi kufuneka zincede.
Oko Abazali Bangakwenza
Akumangalisi ukuba abazali be-tween bakhathazeke ngeengozi zobudlelwane bokuthandana. Kodwa kukho iindlela zokunceda umntwana wakho aqonde imida yokuthandana kunye nokuziphatha okufanelekileyo.
- Thetha. Ingxoxo enye ayiyi kukwanela ukunceda phakathi kwakho ukuqonda iimpawu zeentsapho zakho kunye nokulindela kwakho. Ukuthatha nayiphi na umzuzu wakho ophakathi kwakho unikeza kuwe, uphendule imibuzo angaba nayo. Kwakhona, yenza iimbono zakho zicaca kwizinto zezingane, ukutshata kunye nokuziphatha okufanelekileyo. Umzekelo, unokuthi, "Kuhle ukubamba izandla, kodwa uncinane kakhulu ukuba uwanga." Kwakhona, gxi ninisa imithetho yakho yasekhaya, njengokuba umhlobo womntwana wakho okanye umyeni wakho avunyelwe kwigumbi lakhe lokulala okanye yedwa endlwini. Yiba yinto ecacileyo, ngaphandle koko, i-tween iya kwenza imithetho yawo njengoko ihamba ngayo.
- Lumka. Hlala uqhagamshelana nabanye abazali, ngoko uyazi ukuba kwenzekani. Ukuba uva malunga nomsebenzi ongafanelekanga, xubusha umba kunye wakho kwaye ubuze into acinga ngayo ngokuziphatha. Ukugcina uxhulumano nabanye abazali kungaba yindlela enhle kakhulu yokukwazi oko kwenzekayo phakathi kwakho kunye nombuthano wezentlalo.
- Misela imida. Ukuba ugqiba ukuvumela ukuba phakathi kwakho kube yimini, qwa lasela ngeemeko zakho. Ngaba i-twewe iya kuhlala ilawulwa ngabantu abadala? Ziziphi i-tweens ezivunyelwe ukuba zihambe?
- Musa ukucinga. Uninzi lwabanamhlanje namhlanje kunye nentsha inxaxheba ekuthandweni kweqela, kodwa ukubandakanya iqela akusoloko kukhuseleko lomnatha. Ekugqibeleni, usenomthwalo wokulawula umntwana wakho.
- Hamba ngomhla. Thatha i-kati yakho ngosuku lokuqala ukubonisa indlela yokuziphatha kakuhle. Chaza umehluko phakathi kobudlelwane obuphilileyo kunye nobutyebi. Yenza umntwana wakho azi ukuba usoloko ukhona ukuze uxoxe ngezinto ezibalulekileyo kuye, kwaye ulindela ukwaziswa ngobomi bentlalo yabantwana bakho. Ukuba ugcina iingcango zokunxibelelana zivulekile, unokufakwa kwiingxoxo ezibalulekileyo kunye neziganeko zobomi bomntwana wakho.