Izizathu Ezi-5 Ongazivakala Ngayo Xa Umntwana Wakho Uyeka Ukubeleka
Ukucocwa ngethuba lokutshintsha. Kungaba ngumthombo wabasetyhini abathile, kodwa kwabanye, unokuziva ngathi ulahlekelwe kakhulu. Nangona ubukade ubala phantsi iintsuku de ukuba umntwana wakho ekugqibeleni uyeke ukuncelisa, usenokumangaliswa ukufumanisa ukuba kusekuncinane. Kungaba nzima kunokuba ukulindele ukuba uthengise ixesha elikhethekileyo nomntwana wakho.
Kwaye, ngoxa ukucoca kunokuba yingxenye yendalo yophuhliso lwakho olubonakalisa ukukhula nokuzimela, ngokuqinisekileyo kube yinto yokudakumba nokudandatheka kwakho. Ezi mvakalelo ziqhelekileyo kwaye ziqhelekile kunokuba ungacinga. Nazi izizathu ezinhlanu oziva uzixhalabile okanye uxinezelekileyo ngexesha lokucoca.
Izizathu Ongezive Uxinezelekile Ngethuba Ngemva Kokucoca
1. Ukuqhawula kwangaphambili: Ukuba kufuneka utyane umntwana wakho kungekudala kunokuba ucebise, unokuvakalelwa kwaye udidekile ukuba kufuneka unqabe ukuncelisa. Usenokuvakalelwa okanye unetyala lokuba umntwana wakho akayi kukwazi ukufumana zonke iinzuzo zokuncelisa kunye nobisi lwakho lwebele ngenxa nje ngokuba wawufuna.
Xa kungalindelekanga kwaye akusikho into oyifunayo, ukudabuka nokuxinezeleka kuyaqondakala. Kulungile ukuzilahla, kodwa ungabi nzima ngokwakho. Yazi ukuba wenza okusemandleni akho nakumntwana wakho.
Kwaye, ukuba awukwazi ukubonelela ubisi lwakho lwebele kumntwana wakho, khumbula ukuba ifomula lomntwana yindlela ekhuselekileyo. Ngoko ke, ukuba kufuneka unike umgaqo wakho womntwana, akudingeki uzive unetyala.
Ukulahlekelwa kobudlelwane bokubeleka: Kukho uxanduva olukhethekileyo oluphakathi komama nomntwana wakhe ngexesha lolwalamano oluxelisayo.
Xa umntwana wakho eyeka ukuncelisa, kunokuba nomvakalelo ongenalucalulo njengoko ulila ukulahlekelwa kobuhlobo obusondeleyo. Zama ukukhumbuza ukuba kukho ezinye izinto ngaphandle kokuncelisa ukuba wena kunye nomntanakho unokwenza kunye ukuze kugcinwe uxhamlo olusondeleyo. Sebenzisa ixesha nomntwana wakho ngezinye iindlela. Ngokomzekelo, usenokuthi uhlabe kwaye ukhuphuke kwiqhekeza ngelixa uthetha, uhleka, uhlabe ingoma, okanye ufunde ibali kunye.
3. Umntwana Wakho Ukhula: Umntwana wakho ukhula kwaye uhlala emele. Unokuvakalelwa ngathi umntwana wakho akakusidingi. Nangona kunjalo, nangona engasadingeki ukuba uzalise iimfuno zakhe zondlo, ufuna ukuba umthuthuzele kwaye umbonelele ngezinye iindlela ezininzi. Zama ukugxila kuwo onke amava amnandi kunye namava amnandi oza kufumana ukwabelana ngawo nomntwana wakho njengoko eqhubeka ekhula kwaye ehlala emele. Ukususela kwisikolo ukujoyina iqela lezemidlalo, kunye nokunye, kukho izinto ezininzi zokujonga phambili.
4. Ingumntwana Wakho Wokugqibela: Kungaba lula ukutsala umntwana wakho xa uceba ukuba nomnye umntwana . Kodwa, ukuba uyayazi ukuba lo ngumntwana wakho wokugqibela, ukuxhalaba kunokuvelisa iimvakalelo ezininzi. Kungaba nzima ukuvuma ukuba esi sahluko sobomi bakho siya kufikelela ekupheleni.
Nangona kunjalo, ngazo zonke iziphelo, kukho isiqalo esitsha, kwaye kunokuba lunomdla ukulungiselela isahluko esilandelayo ebomini bakho.
5. Umzimba wakho uyatshintsha: Xa ukhula umntanakho kwibele , ama-hormone emzimbeni wakho atshintshe. IiHormone ezifana neprolactin , estrogen, kunye neprogesterone, qalisa ukubuyela kumanqanaba awakhona ngaphambi kokuba ukhulelwe uze uqalise ukuncelisa. Xa ukhula umntwana wakho ngokukhawuleza, olu tshintsho luyakuchaphazela iimvakalelo zakho ngaphezu kokuba uncikize umntwana wakho kancane. Ukuba kunokwenzeka, ukhula kancane kancane. Ukunciphisa okuncinci kunika umzimba wakho ixesha elide ukulungelelanisa nokutshintsha kwe-hormone.
Akuthethi ukuba awuyi kuba lusizi, kodwa ukudabuka akunakube kunzima xa ama-hormone akho ehla kwizinga elithe gqolo.
Nini Ukufuna Uncedo Lokudakumba okanye Ukudandatheka
Kukho inani elincinci lokudabuka elihamba kunye nokuphela kokuncelisa. Unokukhala, kwaye kulungile. Kunempilo ukuthetha ngendlela ozivakalelwa ngayo kwaye usebenze ngeemvakalelo zakho. Unokwazi ukubheka kwiqabane lakho, intsapho, abahlobo kunye nabanye abafazi abaye bancila abantwana babo inkxaso. Iqela lokuncelisa ilanga linokunika iingcebiso kunye neengcebiso zokukunceda usebenze ngeemvakalelo ezinxulumene nokuluma.
Nangona kunjalo, ngamanye amaxesha ukudabuka kunye neenguqu ze-hormone kwisimo sakho kungakhokelela ekudakaleni okukhulu. Ukuba ulila lonke ixesha, kwaye ukudabuka kwakho kukuphazamisayo kwaye kukuphazamisa ebomini bakho, lixesha lokufuna uncedo kumgqirha wakho okanye kwizengcali zempilo yengqondo.
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