Yintoni enokuyilindela kunye nokukhathazeka okuqhelekileyo
Ukunyuka kwamazinga okukhula kukuyingxenye ebalulekileyo yokukhula komntwana wakho, kwaye ziyizinto eziphambili zentuthuko. Kwakhona kuthiwa "iintsuku zeentsuku," ukukhula kuqhubela kuyo yonke into. Sekunjalo, ukuncelisa iimama zihlala zixhalabisa ukuba zinobisi oluncinci lwengqondo ngexesha le maxesha. Kudideka kakhulu xa umntwana ebelethwe aze alale kakuhle ngokukhawuleza aze ahlasele aze aqalise ukuncelisa intsuku yonke imihla.
Kodwa, ungayichazela njani umahluko phakathi kokukhula kokukhula kunye nokunciphisa ubisi lwakho lobisi ? Ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukukhathazeka, kubalulekile ukuba ufunde oko kuqhelekileyo kwinqanaba lobomi bomntwana wakho.
Yintoni enokuyilindela ngexesha loPhulo loKhula
Ngethuba lokukhula, umntwana wakho uya kubeleka ngokukhawuleza kaninzi , mhlawumbi ngamaxesha angaphezulu kwexesha . Kwaye, unokuba lukhulu kakhulu. Iipateni zakhe zokulala nazo zingaqhelekanga kwaye zihambelani. Mhlawumbi ulala ngakumbi okanye angalali nhlobo.
Ukukhula okukhulu kunokwenzeka malunga neyesibini, ezintathu, neiveki ezintandathu, emva kweenyanga ezintathu nantandathu. Ewe, kuya kubakho amanye amaxesha apho unokwazi ukubona iintsuku eziqhelekileyo njengoko umntwana wakho ekhula. Kuya kuqhubela phambili kwiminyaka yeshumi elivisayo.
Ngaba Ngokwenene Ukukhula Kokukhula?
Oomama abaninzi bayabuza ukuba abantwana babo bancelisa ngakumbi ngenxa yokuba banesifo okanye ngenxa yokuba bayakukhuthazela ukuba bancelise .
Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba umntwana wakho osandul 'ukuzalwa usinomsoco ophezulu (unokuva ukutshiza, isifuba sakho sithe xaxa emva kokuqala ngesifuba esipheleleyo, kwaye umntwana wakho ubonakala ekhululekile), nantsi into enokuyenza:
- Mbuyise ebele. Zama ukuncelisa kwakhona ngokukhethekileyo ukusuka kwicala elifanayo unombele nje. Wayenokuba waqhawula phambi kokuba agqiba unesi. (Ngamanye amaxesha kuthatha enye imizuzu emihlanu yokuncelisa umntwana ukuba aneliseke ngokupheleleyo.)
- Thatha u kuhamba. Ukuba unesiqinisekiso sokuthi ukutyisa kwakuhle, zama ukuhamba ngeenxa zonke kwibloko. Ngamanye amaxesha iintsana zinzima ukuhlala kwaye xa ziqala ukuhlambalaza, uninzi unina bacinga ukuba balambile. Uvavanyo olona lukhulu kukubona oko kwenzekayo xa umbeka kwisitrato okanye kwisifestile kwaye uphume ngaphandle. Ukuba ulala ngokukhawuleza (ininzi iintsana ziyenzeka xa ziphuma emoyeni omtsha), akabi ngokwenene. Ukuba uyakhwela ngeenxa zonke kwibloko, usenokuba naye.
Iingxaki eziqhelekileyo zoMama
Ngokuqhelekileyo, omama bazive becinezelekile ukuba iintsana zabo zixhamla kwaye zibele. Bacinga ukuba banesisombululo esincinci sobisi lwebele. Uyakwazi ukuchazela umahluko phakathi kokukhula okwenene kunye nombono ngobisi lwakho lobisi olusenziwa ngalo ixesha elide. Ukukhula kwezityalo kungezangexeshana, ngokukhawuleza kuphela ngokukhawuleza njengoko baqala. Nangona kunjalo, ukunikezela ngobisi lwebele oluphantsi kuya kubambelela uze uthabathe amanyathelo okwandisa .
Ngelixa umntwana wakho ehamba ngokukhula, landela ukukhokela kwakhe, hamba kunye neengongoma zakhe. Ukuxiliswa rhoqo, kwaye unakekele, nawe . Zama ukuphumla , udle kunye nokukwazi , uphuze amanzi amaninzi . Ukuba amabele akho aziva elula kwaye engagqibekanga njengoko enza njalo, oku kuqhelekileyo.
Amabele asezantsi asho ukuthi ulahlekelwe ubisi lwakho lwebele . Ukuba umntwana wakho usoloko encelisa, utsho nje umzimba wakho ukuba wenze ubisi obanzi. Umzimba wakho uya kuphendula ngokufanelekileyo. Kodwa, ukuba ukubonelela kwakho kuhlala kusezantsi kwaye kungabonakali ukunyuka kwiintsuku ezimbalwa, kufuneka uthathe amanyathelo okunyusa ngokukhawuleza .
Iingxaki eziqhelekileyo kwiintsana
Ukuxubha ingxaki ebonakalayo kubantwana ngexesha lokukhula. Xa usana luba lukhuni, impendulo yomama isisu ukunyamezela ngenxa yokuba uyazi ukuba iya kuba neyona nto iyancipha. Ukuba umntwana udla ngokutya ngeli xesha, ubunzima buya kuncipha.
Kwakhona, ukuba kukho ukuphazanyiswa kwipatheni yokulala, umntwana usenokugqithisa, kwaye kunokuba nzima ukuba ahlale phantsi. Kungabonakala njengomjikelezo ongapheli kwinqanaba elithile, kodwa hlala uzinzile kwaye ugxile ekunikeni umntwana wakho oko akufunayo.
Ukuba umntwana wakho ulele
Umntwana wakho angalala kakhulu ngexesha lokukhula, kwaye oku kuqhelekileyo. Ukukhusela umntwana olele ukuba ancelise ngeli xesha alicebisi. Umzimba wakhe omncinci usebenza nzima - ukuba ulele, ungamvumela ukuba alale ixesha elithile. Kodwa, gcinani engqondweni ukuba iintsana kunye neentsana ezincinci kufuneka zancincile ubuncinane zonke iiyure ezingama-3. Umdala wakho umntwana, ixesha elide ungamvumela ukuba alale phakathi kokutya kokutya njengoko nje ekhula kakuhle kwaye akaqhelekanga nongxaki yokunakekelwa.
Nini ukubiza uDokotela weNtsana yakho
Ukukhula kweemveliso kunokuxhalabisa kwaye kukuxhalabisa, kodwa khumbula ukuba zisesigxina kwaye zibalulekile ekukhuliseni impilo kunye nophuhliso lomntwana wakho . Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umntwana wakho akahle abuyele kwixesha eliqhelekileyo lokuncelisa ukubelesa iintsuku ezimbalwa, kunokuthi ibe yinto engaphezu kokukhula kokukhula. Kungcono ukubiza ugqirha uze uhlolisise umntwana wakho ukuba afune ukuba kwenzekani ngakumbi xa umntwana wakho ebonakala elambile kwaye ecasulwa emva kokutya, okanye kubonakala ngathi akafumani ngokwaneleyo ubisi lwebele.
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I-American Academy ye-Pediatrics Icandelo lokuNxiliswa. Izinyathelo ezili-10 zokuxhasa abazali ukukhetha ukubethelela umntwana wabo. 1999.
Lawrence, uRuth A., MD, Lawrence, uRobert M., MD. Ukusondeza isiKhokelo seNgcaciso yezoPhicongo. Elsevier Health Sciences. 2015.
Ehlelwe nguDonna Murray