Yenza ububele umkhwa endlwini yakho.
Kulula ukufumana ukufundiswa komntwana wakho ukuba ufumanise njani iileta zakhe nendlela yokunquma ukutya kwakhe ngekhanga olibala ukugxila ekufundiseni umntwana wakho ukuba abe nomusa. Kwaye abanye abazali banenkxalabo yokufundisa ububele kunokubangela ukuba umntwana alahlekelwe yimpumelelo kweli hlabathi likhuphisana namhlanje.
Kodwa ukufundisa ububele kubaluleke gqitha. Uphando uthi ukufundisa ububele kunempembelelo entle kwizinto ezahlukeneyo zemfundo, zempilo kunye nezentlalo.
Uphando lubonisa ukuba abantwana ababandakanyeka kwizenzo ezingenangxaki zenceba banokuthi bamkelwe nguontanga babo. Izenzo zabo ezilungileyo ziphucula impilo yabo kwaye zibanceda bahlakulele imbono efanelekileyo yehlabathi labo. Xa ububele bufundiswa esikolweni, abantwana bafumana ukuzithemba, ukukhuthazwa okwandisiweyo ukufunda, ukuphucula ukuhamba, nokunciphisa uxhaphazo nobudlova.
Kodwa, uphando lubonisa ukuba abantwana banamhlanje banomdla kwaye abanesihawu kunokuba babeshumi elidlulileyo. Ngoko ungalindelanga ukuba umntwana wakho afunde ububele ngokujonga abaontanga bakhe. Ziqhelanisa izenzo zenceba kunye nomntwana wakho njengendlela yokwenza umzekelo wokuba nesisa, inceba kunye nokunika.
Ewe, izenzo zomntwana wakho zenceba azinakukwazi ukuba zonke 'ezenzakale' kuba uya kufuna uncedo oluvela kuwe. Kodwa, ukumfundisa ukwenza izinto ezintle kwabanye abantu ngoku kungayibalulekileyo ekumncedeni ukuba aqonde amathuba okubonisa ububele kamva.
Ukunikezela Izinto kuBantu Abadinga
Kuyinto enhle ukufumana abantwana ababandakanyekayo ekuxhaseni imali, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha abaqondi ngokupheleleyo ingcamango yokuba ngubani na ophakamisa imali okanye ukuba imali isetyenziswa njani. Kungcono ukuba bafumaneke ngokuthe ngqo ekunikeni izinto. Nazi iindlela ezimbalwa ongakhuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba anike zona izinto kubantu abanesidingo:
- Ukutyala umyezo wemifuno kwaye unike umsebenzi wakho rhoqo kumntwana wakho, njengokunisela izityalo, ukudonsa ukhula kunye nokuvuna imifuno. Emva koko, unike imifuno kwabanye abantu.
- Ukubutha ngokuzenzekelayo amathoyizi kwaye ubanikele kwiinkedama, indawo yokuhlala yokuhlala, okanye ukhuselo lwasekhaya. Xoxa nomntwana wakho malunga nokuba ziphi na amathoyizi kwaye makamkhethe ukuba amaphi amathoyizi azimisele ukunikela ngawo.
- Ncedisa umntwana wakho ukuba achaze iimpahla anokunika zona abanye abantwana. Mnike into ethile malunga nezinto afuna ukuzinikela ngazo.
- Yenza ukutya uze uyithumele kummelwane osekhulile, isihlobo okanye umhlobo.
- Nikela ngeencwadi ezisebenzisayo ngethala leencwadi.
Bhala Uyabonga Amanqaku
Ndiyabonga amanqaku akufuneki ukuba yiloo nto ibhaliweyo yokubhala amanqaku abantwana emva kokuvula izipho. Kunoko, fundisa umntwana wakho kukho rhoqo abantu onokubulela.
Cinga ngokubonga abantu abakhonza wena okanye uluntu lwakho. Phakamisa bonke abantu abasebenza emva kwezigcawu ukwenza ubomi bube bhetele. Nazi iindlela ezimbalwa zokubonga abantu:
- Ncedisa umntwana wakho ukubhala amanqaku okubulela kubantu abakuxabayo. Unako ukudweba imifanekiso ka-Grandma okanye unike ikhadi elikhethekileyo kumboneleli wesikhokelo, utitshala weSikolo seCawa, okanye umhlobo wentsapho.
- Yenza amanqaku akhethekileyo kwabanye abantu abancedisayo intsapho-njengomthumeli weposi, umntu osika iinwele zomntwana wakho, okanye ugqirha.
Yenza imisebenzi yomntu
Ukubonelela ngemisebenzi yenkonzo kubantu abanokufuna uncedo. Xa ukwenza umkhuba oqhelekileyo ukwenza njalo, umntwana wakho uya kufunda ukuqonda abantu abaneemfuno kunye namathuba xa engena khona. Nazi ezinye iindlela ongenza ngayo imisebenzi yabanye nomntwana wakho:
- Ukuchonga ummelwane onokusebenzisa uncedo ngeedidi. Njengeentsapho, khawula amaqabunga, uthande ingca, okanye ukhula kumyezo.
- Nika rhoqo ixesha lokunceda uNkulukazi kunye noTogo omkhulu endlwini.
- Khuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba amangalise umntakwabo ngokwenza enye imisebenzi yakhe.
Ukunyamekela Izilwanyana
Abantwana bavame ukuthanda ukwenza izenzo zenceba ezibandakanya izilwanyana . Nazi iindlela ezimbalwa onokuzinakekela ngayo izilwanyana:
- Cela ukuzithandela kwindawo yokuhlala kwilwanyana. Ezinye iindawo zokuhlala zingavumela abantwana ukuba bancedise ngemisebenzi elula, njengokushiya iminikelo okanye ukulungela ukutya izilwanyana.
- Ezinye izithenjwa zezilwanyana zivumela abantwana ukuba bafunde kwizinja. Cela malunga nethuba lomntwana wakho ukwabelana ngamabali okanye ukufunda iincwadi kwizilwanyana ezinokuzizwa zilololiwe kwindawo yokukhusela.
- Ivolontiya ukuhamba inja yomntu okanye ukunyamekela isilwanyana esiza kuba ngumnini wayo ngaphandle kwedolophu.
- Nceda umntwana wakho athathe uphathwe olukhethekileyo kwilwanyana lakho.
Yenza Umntu Omnye Isipho
Khuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba enze izipho ezincinci angabanika abanye. Izipho zingaba yile mveliso elula eyenzayo okanye imifanekiso ayifakayo. Ukuba ufumana isibonelelo , unokumkhuthaza ukuba achithe imali yakhe ukuthenga izinto zakhe zobugcisa kunye naye. Nazi iindlela ezimbalwa umntwana wakho angenza izipho komnye umntu:
- Nika umntwana wakho ngezinto zobugcisa ukuze akwazi ukudala izipho. Ikhadi elizenzekelayo, i-bird feeder elula, okanye umzobo unokuqhayisa umhla womntu.
- Esikhundleni sokumkhuthaza ukuba abhale uluhlu olude lweenqweliso zeeholide, ncedisa umntwana wakho ukuba enze uluhlu lwezenzo zomusa kunye nezipho azenzileyo angaziyeka.
- Bhala phantsi amagama angamaqela amalungu, amalungu omndeni, kunye nabamelwane kwiimfumba zephepha. Beka amaphepha kwi-jar. Kanye ngeveki, gwala igama uze usebenze nomntwana wakho ukufumanisa isipho ongayenza loo mntu.
Nika izibongozo
Izenzo ezingenangqumbo zomnatha zinokuba lula njengoko zithetha into enhle kumntu. Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba enze umkhwa wokubonga kwaye udumise ezinye iinzame zabantu. Nazi iindlela ezimbalwa zokufumana umntwana wakho abandakanyekayo ekunconyeni:
- Beka iinjongo ekuqaleni kwemini ukunika amagama amnandi kunye nokuncoma. Ingaba umntwana wakho uthi, "Ndiyathanda izitebe zakho," komnye umntwana ebaleni lokudlala, okanye uthi, "Izinwele zakho zibukeka zilungile namhlanje," kudadewabo, thetha ngokubonga abantu.
- Hamba malunga namakhadi enqaku elinemibala. Kwaye umntwana wakho makabhale amanconywa amancinci kubo ukuba ashiye abanye abantu. Shiya enye emva kwetafile kwivenkile yokuthambisa ukuze uyancoma umncedisi wakho okanye ushiye ikhadi kwikampani elinakekele yakho yard ukuze uyancoma emsebenzini abawenzayo.
Ukusabalalisa I-Cheer
Izenzo ezingenangqumbo zomnatha zinokubandakanya nayiphi na isenzo esilula esenza umhla womnye umntu ukhanyise. Ukuba uzimisele ngokusasaza rhoqo, ububele buya kufana nomntwana wesibini. Nazi iindlela ezimbalwa ezilula zokufumana umntwana wakho abandakanyeke ekuboniseni ububele kwabanye:
- Sika iintyatyambo kwigadi yakho (okanye uthenge iintyatyambo kwivenkile) kwaye unike umntu.
- Ukutyelela umntu ongasebenzisa inkampani ethile, njengomakhelwane osekhulile okanye umntu ongeke aphume endlwini.
- Ivolontiya kwikhaya lononophala. Amanye amakhaya angabongikazi angamkela abantwana abavakatye nabahlali. Okanye unokukwazi ukuhambisa izinto ezizenzela abahlali, njengemifanekiso eyenziwa ngumntwana wakho.
- Phatha iziphuzo ezongezelelweyo kunye nokutya xa usaya kwindawo yokudlala kwaye uzinikele ukwabelana nabanye abantwana.
- Khetha umntu ohlukeneyo ukuba anike iindleko ezikhethekileyo kwinyanga nganye. Emva koko, sebenzisana nomntwana wakho ukufumanisa izenzo zothando ongazenzayo kumntu lowo. Bona ukuba ungayigcina ixesha elide kangakanani.
- Qala ukuma kwe-lemonade uze unike i-lemonade mahhala.
- Yithi, "Masibone ukuba sinokubaluleka njani abanye abantu ukunceda namhlanje." Emva koko uhambe ngemini yakho ukhangele amathuba okubamba umntu ngomnyango okanye ukuvumela umntu ukuba ahambe phambi kwakho kumgca kwisitoreji.
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