Qala ngokuphinda Uhlolisise Iinjongo Zakho kunye Nezilindele
Abazali baya kudla ukufumana iingcebiso ngeengcali xa ukuzama ukuqeqesha umntwana kubonakala kungasebenzi. Kukho iingxaki esikolweni, ukungahloneli ekhaya, okanye ukuziphatha okuphazamisayo okwenza ubomi bube buhlungu kuwe okanye kwabanye abakufutshane nawe.
Xa ujongene nale miqobo, umcebisi uya kuzama ukuqonda ukutshintsha kweentsapho ukuba uphendule bhetele oko kwenzeka ngokwenene.
Ngokusebenzisana kunye nokubuza imibuzo efanelekileyo, abazali bangaqala ukuchonga apho bangaphumelela khona bahlole iindlela ezintsha zokukhuthaza ukuqeqeshwa ekhaya.
Nazi izinto eziyisixhenxe ezilula ezinokukunceda:
1. Ngaba ndikulindelekile ukuba ndilindelwe?
Abantwana baya kuvavanya imida nangona ubaqeqeshela ngokufanelekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ukulindela kwakho akufanelekanga, kunokunyanzelisa igunya lakho kwaye kukhuthaze ukuziphatha okuzama ukutshintsha.
Qala ngokuzifundisa malunga nokuphuhliswa komntwana ngokuqhelekileyo ukuqinisekisa ukuba ulindelekile. Umntwana oneminyaka emibili, umzekelo, kuthethwa ukuba athukuthele , ngoxa kusemgangathweni ukuba intsha ivuke ngokukhawuleza njengoko ifuna ukuzimela.
Ukufunda malunga nophuhliso lwabantwana kunokukunceda uqaphele izicwangciso ezingenalo kuphela ubudala kodwa ziqaphele iintswelo zokutshintsha komntwana wakho.
Akukho ndawo, ngokomzekelo, ekunikezeni ixesha elide ukuya kumntwana oneminyaka eli-12 ubudala. Yenza indlu ilandele iimeko ezifanelekileyo kwiqela elidala kwaye imise imiphumo eyenziwa ngumntwana wakho.
2. Ingqeqesho yam iyaqhubeka?
Uqeqesho luya kusebenza kuphela ukuba luyaqhubeka. Ukuba ulandela kuphela ngemiphumo emibili kwimizuzu emithathu, umntwana wakho unobungozi bokufumana isigwebo ukuba kukho ikhefu elingama-33 ukuba uya kuphuma ngaphandle kwesikolo.
Ngaphezu koko, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba kuthatha ixesha kwiinkqubo ezithile ukuguqula indlela yokuziphatha komntwana. Ukuba uthumela umntwana wakho ekamelweni lakhe emva kokuphazamiseka, ungalindelanga ukuba oko kulungiswe. Ukufunda izakhono ezintsha kuthatha ixesha kunye nokusebenza.
Njengomzali, umsebenzi wakho umane uhlale uguquke, unomonde, kwaye unokwenene kwizinto onokuzifikelela kuyo kwindawo ethile.
3. Ngaba ndiyenza nantoni na ukuqinisa ukuziphatha okubi?
Ngamanye amaxesha abazali baya kukhuthaza ukuziphatha kakubi kubantwana babo. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umntwana wakho ulahlekelwa ngenye indlela ibhasi kwaye umqhubela esikolweni, uye wabonisa ukuba umphumo wokuziphatha okubi kukuhamba ngokukhululeka.
Ukunyamekela kungabomelezwa kakhulu kubantwana, nangona kungakhathali. Ukuze ugweme iingxaki zamandla kunye nokuziphatha okufunayo, zama ukungaziboni ukuziphatha kunokuphendula. Ngokwenza njalo, umntwana wakho ekugqibeleni uya kutshaya kwaye afune ezintsha (kunye nethemba elithembayo) ukufumana ingqwalasela yakho.
4. Ingaba kukho indlela yokukhuthaza ukuziphatha okuhle?
Kanye njengoko abaninzi abantu abadala bengayi kusebenza ngaphandle kokufumana ukuhlawula imali, abaninzi abantwana abayi kufumana utshintsho ngaphandle kohlobo oluthile lokukhuthaza.
Esikhundleni sokuba unike umntwana wakho umphumo ongalunganga wokuziphatha kakubi, unikele ngesiphumo esihle sokuziphatha kakuhle.
Isatidi esitila sisebenza kakuhle kubantwana abancinci, ngelixa abantwana abadala bezuza kwiinkqubo zoqoqosho lweempawu usebenzisa iipennies, i-poker chips, okanye iiblue.
Nangona ulutsha olufana nokuvuma ukuziphatha kakuhle okanye ukhetho oluphilileyo. Musa ukuzibamba udumo ngenxa yokuba umntwana ukhula.
5. Ngaba zikhona iindlela zokufundisa izakhono zokuziphatha ezintsha?
Ezinye iingxaki zendlela yokuziphatha zivela kwiintsilelo zezakhono. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umntwana wakho uziphatha kakubi komnye, uxele umntwana wakho ukuba ayeke angabi nako. Esikhundleni saloo nto, kuya kuba ngcono ukuba ufumane ingxoxo malunga neemvakalelo kunye nendlela umntwana wakho abavakalelwa ngayo ukuba isanti ikhona kwenye inyawo.
Nangona abantwana abancinci banako ukuza kwizigqibo ezicacileyo ukuba banikwe ithuba lokusebenzisana ngokukhululekile. Kwiimeko ezinjengale, ukudlala indima kungaba yinto efanelekileyo yokuzama "ukuziphatha okutsha. Qiniseka ukuba unikezele udumo oluhle kunye nempendulo emihle xa umntwana wakho enza ukhetho olufanelekileyo.
6. Ngaba abanye bangandichitha?
Ukuba abanye abantu babeka imithetho kunye nemingcele yomntwana wakho ophikisana nawe, kufuneka uhambe ngokukhawuleza. Ukuba ngaba ngababoneleli bamasondlo, ootatomkhulu, okanye abazali-nyathelo, kufuneka ukhumbuze ukuba imilayezo ephikisanayo idibanisa umntwana kwaye ivumela umntwana ukuba aphendule okanye aphikise igunya.
Esikhundleni sokubamba iintloko, zama ukufumana umntu omdala ukuba athathe inxaxheba kumzamo odibeneyo. Mcebisa omdala malunga nemithetho yendlu yakho, kodwa ungazibeka kwindawo yokuxoxisana. Hlala uhambelana nemigaqo kunye nezicwangciso zakho. Ukuba awukwazi ukuza kwesivumelwano, unokunyanzeliswa ukuba utshintshe, umkhawuleze, okanye uqaphele ukusebenzisana nomntu omdala okhubekayo.
7. Kubaluleke kangakanani ukuba ukuziphatha komntwana wam utshintsho?
Kulula ukuba ulungiswe ngokuguqula indlela yokuziphatha komntwana olahlekelwa ngumkhondo weso sizathu sokwenza kwakho.
Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umntwana wenqaba ukuya esikolweni, le ngxaki. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umntwana ofanayo wenqabe ukujoyina i-Little League, loo nto inokuba yinto eninzi ingxaki njengoko kukhetha. Nangona ukholelwa ukuba umntwana uya kuzuza ngokubanzi ekuthatheni inxaxheba, mhlawumbi unokungahambelani neminqweno yomntwana kunye nomoya.
Ukwenza okuthile "okulungileyo komntwana wakho" ngokuqhelekileyo kuthetha ukuthatha into echasene noko umntwana wakho akufunayo. Oko oku kungakhokelela ekungquzululeni into enokwenza okanye engenzi nto nayiphi na ulwahlulo ekuhambeni kwexesha.
Ukuba ungathandabuzeki, phindela emuva uze uzame ukufumana umbono omncinane. Ukuba ukhetho aluchaphazeli kakubi ubomi bomntwana wakho, musa ukuhlwaya umntwana ngokufuna into eyahlukileyo. Kunoko, khuthaza umdla wabantwana kwaye uthathe inxaxheba ngokupheleleyo ukuba uza kuwenza nawuphi na umsebenzi.