Iintsapho ezixhasayo zingadlulisa ezinye iintsebenziswano
Imikhwa yeminye intsapho inokuba yinto enqwenelekayo, kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo kuthetha, nantoni na eyenzela intsapho ethile. Akunandaba nokuba ezinye ihlabathi zicinga ntoni. Ngamanye amaxesha, ngokwenene, imikhwa yentsapho ibangela ukungasebenzi. Iintsapho ezidibeneyo zibuhlungu ngokwenene. Kodwa iintsapho ezixhasayo kwenye indawo ekupheleni kweembonakalo zibonisa ukuba iintsapho ngokwenene zingasondelana kakhulu.
Iinzuzo Zokusondela
Izifundo ezininzi ziye zabonisa ukuba ukudibanisa kweentsapho kunciphisa uxinzelelo oluvela kwimithombo yangaphandle. Kuye kwabonakaliswa ukukhawulezisa ukuphilisa kwiimpawu zokungabikho komzimba. Ngokomzekelo, iintsapho zaseSpaniki zivaliwe ngokuqhelekileyo, kwaye ukusondelana kunokubangela ukuba kubekho ubomi obude bokuba amaSpeyin aseMelika.
Kodwa uninzi lwethu lunemihluko emikhulu kwiintsapho zethu, kwaye iingxaki zingaphaya xa iintsapho zingazazi loo malungu afuna ukususwa kancinci kwizenzo zentsapho. Amalungu entsapho amaninzi-entlalontle axhomekeke ekudibaniselweni rhoqo, xa befowunelwa xa bengenakufowunelwa kwaye bazifake kwizihlandlo ngaphandle kokumema-konke ukuphazamiseka kwamalungu entsapho abucala.
Kwiintlobo ezininzi zeentsapho, umnqweno wokuba unxibelelwano ngaphandle kokuba ufune okanye ufune. Ukunxibelelana ngekhompyutheni kwenze ukuba kube lula ukufikelela kule njongo. Ootatomkhulu bangathumela umntwana umyalezo obhaliweyo, gcina umzukulu kwisikhundla se-Facebook okanye kwi-tweet, okanye ufumane ukuba umzukulu usithumele nayiphi na into kwi-Instagram, bonke ngaphandle kokufuna ingqalelo.
Kakade, ukuxilana ngekhompyutheni ayikho indawo yokuqhagamshelana ubuso nobuso kunye nexesha lefowuni. Kukho amaxesha apho ufuna nje ukuva ilizwi lelungu lentsapho kwaye kufuneka ulandele ifowuni kuphela. Okanye i-Skype okanye i-FaceTime kwaye unokubona ubuso babathandekayo nabo.
Imindeni enamandla engasebenzi
Ukuba kukho into enje into yokuba isondele kakhulu, yenzeke kwiindawo ezithile zeengqondo ezibizwa ngokuba yi "entsapho".
Kwizo ntsapho, ubudlelwane beentsapho baye bahamba kunye nabanye ubudlelwane obuqhelekileyo. Abo bahlala kwiintsapho ezixhasayo kulindeleke ukuba bajonge ngaphakathi kwintsapho ukuze baneliseke kunye nenkxaso kunokuba baphenduke kwihlabathi elikhulu. Lo mkhwa unokunyanzela ukukhula kwabo njengabantu ngabanye.
Kwintsapho ekhutshiwe, umzekelo, isigqibo selungu lentsapho lokuthatha umsebenzi kwisixeko esikude singabangela ukugqithiswa okukhulu. Ingqiqo kukuba intsapho iyathengiswa kwaye ishiyiwe. Kwintsapho enempilo, esi sigqibo singabangela intlungu, kodwa ayibonakali njengokungcatsha kwintsapho.
Kwintsapho ekhutshiwe, amalungu athathwa ukuba anetyala xa bengakhange ahambele ngokwaneleyo, okanye abize ngokwaneleyo, okanye ukuba balahlekelwa imicimbi yeentsapho. Kwintsapho enempilo, loo malungu unokufumana izikhalazo ezithile okanye ukuklolokra, kodwa azenziwanga unetyala.
Ngaba wabuva umntu ekhononda nge "drama" kwintsapho yakhe? Amathuba kukuba intsapho ifumana iphrofayili yentsapho ekhutshiwe, apho ilungu ngalinye lentsapho liziva libophekile ukuba liphendule nantoni na eyenzekayo ebomini kwamanye amalungu omndeni, ngokuphindaphinda ngokuphumelelayo ukuxhatshazwa.
Olunye uhlobo lwesimo esingasebenziyo esibonakalayo kwiintsapho ezikhuphayo kukuba iintlangano phakathi kwentsapho zihlala zenziwa, zaphulwa kwaye zenziwa kwakhona, ngenxa yokuba amalungu omndeni kulindeleke ukuba akhethe macala kuwo wonke umbandela.
Ukuhlala kunye nobani ogxininci lwakhe obangela uxinzelelo olukhulu kwintsapho.
Eminye Imindeni Evulekileyo
Nazi ezinye zeempawu zokuziphatha ezenzeka kwiintsapho ezixhasayo.
- U-Anne wabuyela ekhaya ekuqaleni kwekhefu laseCaribbean ukuya emngcwabeni womkhulukazi. Intsapho yakhe inkulu, kwaye wayengasondelanga kakhulu lo mntakwabo, kodwa bekube kuphulaphulwa komhlobo wezentlalo ukungabi khona.
- UGeorge udibana nomfazi osemncinci wokholo oluhlukile aze acinge ukuguqula. Abazali bakhe bayothuswa ngcamango yokuba uya kunika inkolo yentsapho yakhe.
- Xa abantwana bakhe abadala beya kuba sekhaya, uMarie uhlola iimeko kunye neemeko zendlela kwaye ubabiza ukuba banike iingcebiso malunga nezindlela kunye nokuhlaziya rhoqo.
- UJohn ukhangele imoto efanelekileyo. Kulindeleke ukuba ayithenge kwiqashiso lomyeni wakhe, nangona engathembeli ubuchule bomyeni wakhe.
- UMelissa unomntwana omtsha. Unina unqama yonke imihla, kuthiwa ubole isandla, kodwa uchitha ixesha elide ethetha kwaye edlala nomntwana.
- UJoan usekhaya lomama wakhe. Uqaphele ukuba umama wakhe unemigangatho eyongezelelweyo kwi-pantry yakhe, ngoko uyazinceda.
- U-Ralph unethuba lokuphucula umsebenzi, kodwa kuya kuthetha ukunyuka kweentlanganiso zeentsapho kunye nokulahleka. Uyesaba ukuxubusha umxholo nabazali bakhe kuba uyazi ukuba uya kumenza abe neentyala.
Ezi ziganeko azixhomekanga ngokukhawuleza ekuziphatheni okuqhelekileyo. Yintoni eyenza ukuba ingaqhelekanga yintliziyo yomsindo xa ulindelwe intsapho kunye nokungaqhelekanga imida.
Kuthetha ukuthini oku kuTatatomkhulu?
Ootatomkhulu banomdla onomdla wokugcina iintsapho zivale kuba zifuna ukubona abazukulu babo. Kwaye ngoxa abazukulu bezisa uvuyo olukhulu kubazali nootatomkhulu, oogogo nomkhulu bazisa iincwadana ezithile nakwizizukulwana zabo. Kuphumelele.
Ukongezelela, ootatomkhulu ngokubanzi bayabeka ithoni ngolwalamano lwentsapho, kwaye baninzi abakwenzayo ukukhuthaza ukusondelana ngelixa besagwema ukunyuka. Banokusingatha iintlanganiso zeentsapho, kuba ngumzila wokunxibelelana nosapho kunye nokudala izithethe zentsapho. Ukongezelela, kufuneka benze konke okwenziwa yintsapho elungileyo, oko kukuthi:
- Yiba neengxaki kwiintlobo zamalungu entsapho kodwa ugcine inqanaba elifanelekileyo lokudibana nabo.
- Xhalela ngeengxaki ngaphakathi kwintsapho kodwa ungaziva unyanzelekile ukuba ulinganise kubo bonke.
- Ncedisa imisebenzi kunye nezinye izigqibo zabantwana bakho, nangona kuthetha ukuba uya kuba ngumkhulu ohlala kude.
Kodwa oogogo nomkhulu banenkathazo ethile, nangona kunjalo. Umnqweno wabo wokuhlala esondele kumalungu entsapho unokubakhokelela ekungeneni kwabo kwimida. Oogogo nomkhulu ngabazali, kodwa thina asikho abazali babazukulu bethu. Abanye bethu banenkathazo yokwenza umehluko.
Xa abantwana bakho bengabazali abatsha, umzekelo, musa ukucinga ukuba kukho umgaqo womnyango ovulekile. Enyanisweni, ootatomkhulu kufuneka baphephe ukutyelelwa okungabonakaliyo ngezizathu ezininzi.
Ubunokwenzeka bokungquzulwano aluhambi xa abazukulwana bekhula. Xa kuziwa kwizikolo kunye neziganeko zekharityhulam ezongezelelweyo, oogogo nomkhulu banomgca omhle wokuhamba. Bamele bamkeleke kwimidlalo kunye nemisebenzi yomphakathi, kodwa akufanele bacinge ukuba bayamkeleka kwizenzo, ukuhlaziya, ubusuku bobazali, okanye iinkomfa zothisha.
Ootatomkhulu kumele baqaphele ukuba bangazitholi iikhalenda zentlalo yabantwana abadala, abafuna ixesha lokukhulula, ixesha lokuchitha kunye nabalingane kunye nexesha lokunxulumana noontanga. Bayafuna kwakhona iiveki ezingapheliyo kwimisebenzi yokuzikhethela.
Ngaphezu kwakho konke, ungahlali kuyo nayiphi na ingxabano yomtshato enokuthi abantwana bakho babe nayo. Musa ukucima, kwaye unikele ngcebiso kuphela xa ubuzwa. Ukukhuphela kuphela xa ukhuseleko lomalungu osapho lusongelwa.
Ngaphantsi
Ngokuqhelekileyo ingcinga embi ukugweba intsapho yakho ngokuyithelekisela kwezinye iintsapho. Uninzi lweentsapho lubonakala luvuyo kwaye luvumelana kodwa lufihlile imiba. Gweba intsapho yakho kuphela ngendlela esebenza ngayo wena nakwamanye amalungu entsapho. Ukuba udla uziva uthanda kwaye uxhaswa, vumela ukunyaniseka okufutshane. Ukuthanda nokuxhasa amalungu omndeni wakho, kodwa zama ukukhawulelana nokukhetha kwabo.