Funda ukuba kutheni abantwana abajoliswe ngabakhohlisi bahlala bezolile
Ukuxhatshazwa ngabaxhatshazo kunokuba nemiphumo emibi ekushiyeleni amaxhoba evakalelwa yedwa, ekhulile kwaye ehlazekile. Nangona kunjalo iithagethi ezininzi azixeleli omnye umntu ukuba kwenzekani kubo.
Izizathu zihlukeneyo kwaye ziyahluka kumntu kumntu. Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuxhatshazwa kwesoyika kwaye kudideka xa kwenzeka okokuqala. Le nyaniso ishiya abaninzi abantu kunye nentsha engaqinisekanga indlela yokusingatha imeko.
Ngenxa yoko, bahlala bethule xa bezama ukuyiqonda. Nazi ezinye izizathu ezimbalwa ezenza ukuba banganqikazi ukuvuma abaxhatshazwayo bajolise kubo.
Uhlazo kunye neentloni.
Ukuxhatshazwa kukumalunga nokulawula. Ngenxa yoko, kubangela ukuba amaxhoba azizwe engenamandla okanye athathaka. Kwiintsana ezininzi, oku kudala iintloni kunye neentloni. Ngokufanayo, ukuba amaxhoba ayaxhatshazwa ngenxa yento into yokuba abaxhatshazwayo bayabonakele ngabo, baya kuba neentloni ukuthetha ngazo. Ukuthetha malunga nabo kuya kufuna ukuba bagxininise "i-defect" yabo. Kwabanye abantwana, ingcamango yokuzisa "i-defect" yayo ekukhanyeni iyingozi ngaphezu kokuxhaphaza.
Usoyika ukuba umxhaphazi uya kubuyisela.
Izingane ezininzi zivakalelwa ngathi ukuxela umxhaphazi akuyi kwenza nantoni na. Kunoko, banenkxalabo yokuba umxhaphazi uya kwenza ubomi babo bube bubi nakakhulu. Baya kuthanda ukuzama ukubethelela isiqhwithi sodwa kunomngcipheko okwandisa ingxaki.
Ngamanye amaxesha bayakholelwa ukuba xa bethula ukuba ukuxhatshazwa kuza kugqiba ekupheleni.
Zivavanyelwe ukuba zithule.
Amaxesha amaninzi, abantwana bavakalelwa kukuba kufuneka bavume ukuxhatshazwa ngamanye amaxesha ukuze bafumane. Ngenxa yoko, baya kutshutshiswa koontanga baze bamkele ukuxhatshazwa njengendlela yokugcina ukuhlala kwabo.
Lo mxube wexinzelelo kunye noxhatshazo luhlala lukho kwiinkcazo . Amaxhoba ahlala efuna ukuwamkelwa kubantu abaxhatshazwayo.
Ukukhathazeka akukho mntu uya kubakholelwa.
Amaxesha amaninzi, abaxhatshazwayo bajolise kwizingane ezizimeleyo, zifuna iimfuno ezizodwa, zilungele ukuthetha ngamabali okanye mhlawumbi sele zineengxaki zoluleko. Ngenxa yoko, ixhoba liyazi kakuhle ukuba ngamanye amaxesha inengxaki kwaye xa kuvela ukuxhatshazwa kwaboyika ukuba abanye baya kuthatha ukuba bangathembeki. Ngenxa yoko, bayathula kuba banomuvo wokuthi ukuvula akuyi kwenza nantoni na.
Ukukhathazeka ngokubhaliwe nge-snitch.
Xa kuziwa kukuxhatshazwa, kudla rhoqo le khowudi engafihliweyo yokufihlakeleyo. Amaxhoba okuxhatshazwa kaninzi ayesaba ukubizwa ngokuba yi-tattletale, usana, i-rat okanye i-snitch yokubika ukuxhatshazwa kunokuba ixhomekeke ekuxhatshazweni kakubi.
Ndiziva ngathi bafanelwe.
Abantwana bahlala beqaphela iziphene zabo. Ngenxa yoko, ukuba umntu uhlaselwa kwenye yezo mpazamo aze aqale ukusebenzisa oko ukugculela nokuzihlazisa, bacinga ngokuzenzekelayo ukuba bafanelwe unyango. Amaninzi amaninzi, abantwana banokubaluleka ngaphakathi kwaye banakho ukuzithemba ukuba zizinto ezithile ngokuvumelana nonyango abayifumanayo.
Ungaziqapheli iindlela ezizifihlakeleyo zokuxhatshazwa.
Amaxesha amaninzi, abantwana baxela kuphela ukuxhaphaza ngokwenyama kuba kulula ukuyiqonda. Ngaloo ndlela, abahluleka ukuvakalisa iifom ezithembekileyo zokuxhatshazwa njengobundlobongela . Abaqapheli ukuba ukusabalalisa amahemuhemu, ukugxotha abanye kunye nokuxhatshazwa kobudlelwane nabo kubangela ukuxhatshazwa.
Kucinga ukuba abantu abadala balindele ukuba bajongane nayo.
Nangona zonke iinkqubela phambili zokuthintela ukuxhatshazwa, kusekho umyalezo osisiseko sokuba abantwana kufuneka babe nzima ngexesha leemeko. Batsho ukuba abantu abadala ebomini babo baya kubacinga kakubi okanye bathuka ngenxa yokuxhaphazwa kwabo.
Ukongezelela, izikolo ezininzi zihluleka ukwahlula umahluko phakathi kokuxubusha nokunika ingxelo. Kunoko, kuba baxakeke bezama ukuhlangabezana neenjongo zemfundo, bangathanda ukungaxhatshazwa ngokuxhatshazwa kwaye bakhuthaze abantwana ukuba baphathe zonke iingxaki zabo. Oku kunokuba nzima kakhulu xa abantwana bezama ukujongana neemeko ezinobundlobongela ngokwabo.
Ukoyika abantu abadala kuya kunqanda ukufikelela kwedijithali.
Xa kuziwa kwi- cyberbullying , abaninzi abantwana abayi kuvuma ukuba bajoliswe kuko besaba abazali babo okanye ootitshala abayi kubavumela ukuba basebenzise amadivayisi abo. Ukuba abantu abadala bayasusa ukufikelela kwabo kwiikhomputha okanye iifowuni kuba baxhatshazwa, oku kuthumela imiyalezo emibini. Okokuqala, akufanelekile ukuxelela umntu omdala. Kwaye okwesibini, ixhoba libeka ityala ngenxa yokuba nguye ohlwaya. Endaweni yoko, ukujongana ne-cyberbullying kufuneka kubandakanye ukugcina iikopi zeenkcukacha, ukukhusela umoni, ukuguqula amaphasiwedi okanye iinombolo zefoni kunye nokunika ingxelo nge-cyberbully.
Igama elivela kwi-Verywell
Ngenxa yokuba abantwana abanqabile ukutshela umntu omdala into abajongene nayo, qi niqiniseke ukuba uyazi iimpawu zokulumkisa . Ngokomzekelo, abantwana banokuxela ukuxhatshazwa ngokuthi kukho imidrama eninzi esikolweni, abantwana baxhatshaza nabo okanye ukuba abanalo abahlobo. Leyo yonke impawu yokuba bafumana enye yeendlela ezintandathu zokuxhatshazwa.
Ukuba umntwana wakho uyavuma ukuba ujolise kuyo, xelela ukuba uyaziqhayisa ngaye ngokuba nesibindi sokuthetha ngawo. Oku kuyomeleza ukuba uxabisa ukuba nencoko evulekile malunga nemiba ebomini bakhe. Kwakhona kubalulekile ukuba ukholwe oko umntwana wakho akuxelelayo kwaye uyazibophezela ekusebenzeni naye ukufumana izicombululo.
Kwakhona, gcina iimvakalelo zakho. Ukucaphukisa, ukuthukuthela okanye ukukhathazeka kuya kuphazamisa umntwana wakho kuphela. Kunoko, hlalani kwaye nizisebenze kunye ukwenza isicwangciso. Xa abantwana bevakalelwa kukuba banokukhetha, baya kuba banokungqubuzana nemvakalelo neempembelelo ezibi. Ncedisa umntwana wakho ukuba afumane iindlela zokuphendula kwaye anqobe uxhatshazo .