Indlela Intlungu Emva Kokutshatyalaliswa Ngaphandle Kokuya Kuguquka Kuxinzelelo Lwezonyango
Abasetyhini abaninzi bafumanisa ukuba ukukhulelwa kwesisu nakweyiphi na inqanaba lokukhulelwa kunokukhokelela kwiimvakalelo ezininzi. Kodwa ngaba unokufumana uxinzelelo lwentlungu emva kokusweleka kwesisu?
Usizi emva kokutshatyalaliswa
Kuqhelekile ukuba uzive usizi, nokuba usizi olunzulu, emva kokuphuphuma kwesisu- kungakhathaliseki ukuba kukuqala kangakanani ukukhulelwa kwakho.
Emva kokuba ufumanisa ukuba ukhulelwe, ihlabathi lakho lonke liya kutshintsha.
Ngokwenyama, unako ukufumana ukukhulelwa kwangaphambili kwimpawu ezinjengesisongeleko, isifuba samathambo, ukukhathala kunye nokunyuka kwamanzi. Kwaye ngokwemvakalelo, mhlawumbi uqala ukucinga-kwaye uvuyiswe-indlela ebomangalisayo ngayo ubomi bakho malunga nokuba nomntwana omtsha, omomothekayo, othokozayo.
Mhlawumbi uphupha malunga nokuba umntwana uya kuba yinkwenkwe okanye intombazana, ngubani na oya kubonakala ngathi, nokuba ngubani oza kubakho. Mhlawumbi ucinga ukuba uhamba kwindawo yokuhlala kunye nokuthenga ikhaya okanye utshintshe ubomi bakho bobugcisa ukuze uhlalise umntwana omtsha.
Ngoko ukuba ngokukhawuleza ulahlekelwe ukukhulelwa, awuyi kulahlekelwa nje umntwana kuphela-ulahlekelwa yiyo ikamva elipheleleyo oye wayilungiselela entlokweni yakho iintsuku, iiveki, okanye iinyanga. Kuyaqondakala ukuba uvakalelwa kwaye ugxininiswe xa kwenzeka into enjalo.
Ukutshatyalaliswa kunye nokunyanzeliswa kwezonyango
Ngokubhekisele ukuba ukusalelwa kwesisu kungaba yintlungu yokudakumba, kuyacaca ukuba unokudandatheka ekliniki ngenxa yokuphuphuma komzimba.
Umgca phakathi kosizi kunye nokudandatheka okufuna unyango kunokuba nzima ukuhlukanisa ngamanye amaxesha, ekubeni ezi zimbini ziphantse zifana neempawu, kodwa nantsi isitshixo: Ukuba iimvakalelo zakho ziphazamisa ukwazi kwakho ukuhamba ngeendlela zakho zemihla ngemihla emva kweeveki ezimbalwa emva ukukhulelwa komzimba, kuyilungileyo ukuthetha nogqirha wakho ukuba ubone ukuba unokufumana uncedo kwonyango yokudandatheka.
Nangona ucinga nje ukuba ungadinga uncedo, vumela ugqirha wakho wazi ukuze uxoxe ngawo.
- Usizi noxinzelelo - ukufana kunye nokungafani
Unokwazi Njani Ukuba Kuxineke?
Njengoko kuphawuliwe kwangaphambili, kunokuba nzima kakhulu ukwahlula phakathi kwentlungu eqhelekileyo ngenxa yokulahlekelwa ngumntwana kunye nayo yonke loo nto intsana ibhekise ebomini bakho, kunye nokuxinezeleka kwengqondo. Izifundo zidibeneyo, zibonisa iintlawulo "zokunciphisa" ezincinci ukusuka kwii-5 ukuya kuma-50 ekhulwini kwabasetyhini abaye bafumana ukulahleka kokukhulelwa kwangaphambili. Yintoni ebaluleke kakhulu kukuba ufuna uncedo xa uvakalelwa phantsi. Uphando lubonisa ukuba xa uxinzelelo lwenzeka emva kokuphuma kwesisu, kunokuhlala iinyanga ezili-6 ukuya kwezi-12, okanye ngaphezulu.
Unokuba unqwenela ukuthatha imibuzo yethu yokuxinezeleka, kodwa ungaxhomeki kwimimbuzo ethile okanye imigaqo ethile yokucela uncedo.
Ukunyanga Ukuxinezeleka Kwakho
Wena kunye nogqirha wakho unako ukugqiba kunye nokuba ingenelelo engcono yoxinzelelo lwakho lugqirha (njengezidakamizwa ezichasayo), unyango lwezengqondo (ukuthetha unyango), okanye ukudibanisa ezimbini. Impendulo echanekileyo iya kuxhomekeke kwiimpawu ezinokuthi, zibuhlungu kangakanani kwaye zihlala zihlala phi, kangakanani na ukuba uye waziva ngale ndlela, ukuba iimpawu zakho zichaphazela njani ubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla, kwaye yintoni enye imichiza onokuyithatha.
Ukuthetha Nentsapho Nabangane Emva kokutshatyalaliswa
Kungaba nzima ukuthetha namalungu entsapho kunye nabahlobo emva kokuphuphuma kwesisu xa bengenakufumana isisu. Uyakwazi ukufumana izilwanyana ngokukhulelwa komzimba , njengokuthi "ubuncinci usemncinci kwaye ungaphinda ukhulelwe," okanye ngakumbi nakakhulu, "ubuncinane awuzange ukwazi ukuba umntwana." Kunokuba luncedo njengoko ezi zihlandlo zifunwa rhoqo, zinokulimaza, zikushiye zodwa zodwa ngeemvakalelo zakho. Abasetyhini abaninzi bakuthola kuncedo ukufuna abanye kwintsapho yabo okanye iqela labangane, okanye nakubantu be-intanethi abaye bafumana ukukhulelwa kwesisu.
Nangona kungekho nantoni na ongayithethayo, kunokukwenza uzive ude wedwa ukwazi ukuba omnye umntu uye wafumana ubuncinci iimvakalelo ozijongene nazo ngoku.
Ezinye iimvakalelo ezinxulumene noThatshulwa
Qaphela ukuba unokuziva unomxube weemvakalelo ezingaphezu kokudandatheka, kuquka ukugada, ukungakholelwa, intukuthelo kunye necala. Ezi zibonakaliso ziyakwazi ukuzibonakalisa ngokwasemzimbeni, ngokutsho kweMelika yaseMelika yokukhulelwa, ukuze ufumane ukukhathala, ukulila, ukukhathazeka ukulala, ukulahlekelwa yindlala, nobunzima bokugxila.
Kwimeko nayiphi na into, ungesabi ukufuna uncedo ekujonganeni nokulahlekelwa kwakho-kwaye ungacingi ukuba akukho nto iphosakeleyo kuwe xa ufuna uncedo ekujonganeni nokuphuphuma komzimba.
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