Xa ubuza abazali ukuba yiyiphi inzima kakhulu xa bekhulisa abantwana babo, ngokuqhelekileyo naluphi na ixesha ubudala abantwana babo abakhona ngoku.
Nangona oko kubonakala ngathi kuyindlela elula yokujonga iimfuno zokuba ngumzali, xa ukhangela umzali ngokwengqiqo, ngokuqhelekileyo ufumana ukuba iminyaka yobudala inemiqobo.
Uninzi lwezihlandlo ezinzima zijikeleza ngokutshintsha, njengokuba usana lwakho lusana lusuka kwibele, lusuka kwisibhedlele ukuya kwibhedeni, lunikeza i-naps, kwaye luqala inzala, njl njl.
Ukufunda ngokumalunga nokuguqulwa kwamathuba omntwana kunokwenza lula ukuba ngumzali.
Iifake
Utshintsho lokuhamba ukusuka kwi-naps ezimbini ukuya kwelinye kwaye ekugqibeleni ukuyeka i-nap ngokupheleleyo kunokuba nzima kakhulu. Kwiiveki ezimbalwa okanye iinyanga, kude kube ziqhelaniswe neshedyuli esitsha sokulala, abantwana banokudinwa kakhulu, bevelele kwaye banomsindo, ngokukodwa emva kwemini nangomso kusihlwa.
Qinisekisa ukuba abantwana bakho balala ngokwaneleyo, kuquka ubuthongo bemini ebusweni babo, kwaye ungayeki i-naps ngaphambi kokuba bafanele. Gcina ukhumbule ukuba abaninzi abaneminyaka emi-2 nabangama-3 abayi kukhanda xa ubapha ukhetho.
Ukuba umntwana wakho osemdala uyeke ukuba athabathe, kodwa ngokukhawuleza alele ehleli esihlalweni sakhe semoto okanye aphelelwe emini emini, mhlawumbi uya kumyeka ukuba alahleke ngokukhawuleza. Unokufuneka utshintshe ixesha lokube uhlalisa i-nap, yenzeke ngakumbi kwimini yakho yemihla ngemihla, okanye ube nexesha elithile lokuphumla xa usenako ukufumana umntwana wakho okanye umntwana ongasese esikolweni ukuba athathe i-nap kwaye ucinga ukuba ufuna enye.
Indlela zokutya
Abazali abaninzi nabo bajamelana neengxaki xa ukutya komntwana kwabo kusuka kwintsana ukuya komntwana kwaye emva kokutya okufana nentsapho yonke, enethemba lokutya okunempilo.
Ukuphonononga amaxesha 'avamile' ukuba iintsana ziqalise ukutya kwasebantwaneni, ukutya kwesinwe kunye nokutya kwetafile kungenza ukondla umntwana wakho ngakumbi, ngakumbi kubazali abatsha.
Kungaba kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uqonde ukuba abatsha abancinci banokuphungula okukhulu ekudleni kwabo, njengokuzondla ngokwabo, kwaye banokuzikhethela kakhulu.
Uguqulelo lwabantwana oluqhelekileyo
Olunye utshintsho lwabantwana oluqhelekileyo ukuba abazali bafanele, okanye ekugqibeleni, baqhelane nabo ba ndakanya:
- ukuhambisa umntwana wakho kwisibhedlele esivela kwi-bassinet (malunga neenyanga ezi-3 ubudala)
- ukuzithoba nokufumana inyo yokuzalwa yokuqala (phakathi kweenyanga ezi-3 ukuya kwezi-15)
- ukulala ubusuku (malunga neenyanga ezi-4 ukuya kwezi-5)
- ukuqala ukutya kokusana (malunga neenyanga ezi-4 ukuya kwezi-6)
- Ukuqala kokutya komunwe kunye nokutya kwetafile (malunga neenyanga ezi-8 ukuya kwezi-9)
- ukucwina kusuka kwintsana yobisi ukuya kubisi lonke (iinyanga ezili-12)
- Ukutshintsha kwibhotile ukuya kwikombe ye- sippy (malunga neenyanga ezili-12 ukuya kwezi-15)
- Ukuhamba ukusuka kwi- naps ezimbini (ekuseni nakusasa emini) ukuya kwenye intambama ye-nap (iinyanga ezili-12 ukuya kwezi-18)
- ukuncwina usana lwakho okanye umntwana osuka kubisi lwebele ukuya kufomfesane lomntwana okanye ubisi lonke, kuxhomekeke kwiminyaka yakhe
- ukuvutha komsindo kunye neendlela ezimbi
- ukuqala ukuqeqeshwa kwamanzi (iminyaka eyi-18 ukuya kwiminyaka emithathu)
- ukuhambisa umntwana wakho kwibhedi encinane (iminyaka emi-2 ukuya kweyesi-3, xa umntwana wakho ekhuphuka esicaleni sakhe, okanye enama-intshi ama-36 ubude)
- ukugqiba ukuqeqeshwa kwamanzi (ubudala 2 1/2 ukuya ku-3 1/2 iminyaka)
- ukuyeka umva wamasemini (uneminyaka engama-3 ukuya kwe-5 ubudala, kodwa ngokusondeleyo xa beqala ukuzala)
- usuku lokuqala lwesikolo
- Ukuhlala ubomileyo ebusuku (iminyaka engama-4 ukuya kwe-5 okanye okanye kamva kubantwana abathile kwaye ngokukhawuleza kamva xa beqeqeshiwe ngamanzi)
- ukulahlekelwa izinyo zokuqala zentsana (iminyaka engama-6 ukuya kwimi-7)
- ukuqalisa ubuntwaba - amantombazana (iminyaka eyi-8 ukuya kwe-13)
- ukuqala ubusana - abafana (abaneminyaka engama-9 ukuya kwe-14)
- ukufunda ukuqhuba
- ukuphumelela esikolweni esiphakeme
- ukuphuma ngaphandle kwendlu
- ukuya kwikholeji
- fumana umsebenzi
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ezo zimbalwa zokugqibela ziyakwenzeka ngendlela eyahlukileyo.
IMithetho yoTshintsho
Akukho mithetho ekhuni kunye ekhawulezayo xa ubhekene nokuguqulwa komntwana, ngaphandle kokuba mhlawumbi kufuneka unqabise ukuba kukho into engalunganga ukuba umntwana wakho uhamba ngaphandle kwebala eliqhelekileyo xa kwenzeka into ethile.
Ngokomzekelo, ukuba uneminyaka engama-18 ubudala sele sele ulahlekile okanye uneminyaka engama-8 ubudala usadinga ukunqumla emini, oko kungabonisa ingxaki yonyango.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukwazi ukuba ininzi abantwana abaqala ukuhlala bomekile de kube yiminyaka emi-5 ukuya kwe-8 ubudala baya kukunceda ukwazi ukuba uneminyaka engama-3 okanye-4 ubudala ukuba uyaqhelisa umbhede, nangemva kokuba liqeqeshiwe.
Olunye ulawulo 'oluthile' malunga nokuguqulwa komntwana kukuba abantwana abaneempawu ezahlukeneyo abaphatha ngokuhlukileyo. Nangona umntwana ohambayo lula ukuba akwazi ukutshintshela ubisi olupheleleyo kunye nenkombe ye-sippy ngexesha elifanayo, omnye umntwana onokumelana nokutshintsha kakhulu unokutshintshwa ngokukhawuleza ukuze ubisi luphele aze aphinde aguquke kwi-cup kwiinyanga ezimbalwa kamva.