Ukuba usanda kuphazamiseka okanye ufumene ukuba uya kuphelelwa yiphutha, uya kuba namaqanaba amahlanu entlungu. Imvakalelo enokubakho ingaba yinto ephazamisekayo okanye umsindo ngenxa yokudakumba okanye ukuphazamiseka. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba uziva njani ulungile. Wonke umntu uphatha ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo ekulahlekeni kokukhulelwa, kwaye kuninzi nayiphi na impendulo.
Usizi olunzima kakhulu
Emva kwangoko emva kwakho, iimvakalelo zakho ziya kuba ziqine kakhulu.
Ama-hormone awela emzimbeni wakho anganokwandisa ukudabuka kwakho kwinqanaba lokuba liziva likhulu, kodwa oku kufuneka kulunge emva kokuba ubuya kwimizuzu yakho ubuya kwaye umzimba wakho uphinde uhlawule .
Abantu bavame ukuxubusha intlungu ngokwemigangatho emihlanu, inkolelo eyayivela kwisifo sengqondo sika-Elisabeth Kübler-Ross sika-1969 ethi "Ekufeni nasekufeni." Abasetyhini abaninzi bafumana intlungu emva kokuphuphuma kwesisu kulandela iphethane efanayo.
Abanye abafazi baya kuhamba kwezi zigaba; abanye baya kudlula kuphela abanye babo okanye baya kubafumana ngendlela eyahlukileyo.
Ukulahlwa kunye nokuCandwa
Abasetyhini abaninzi banethemba elincinci lokuba ugqirha wayengafanelekanga kwaye ukuba, awenene, ehamba nekhefu. Unokuzifumana uzenza iiyure zophando kwi-intanethi ufuna enye inkcazo malunga neempawu zakho zokuphuphuma komzimba .
Mhlawumbi awufuni ukubona nabani na - kungekhona neqabane lakho okanye iqabane lakho. Unokugqala umntu othetha nawe.
Unokufuna ukugxotha ekhaya kwaye ungathathi iifowuni okanye uye emsebenzini. Intsebenziswano yentlalontle inokuziva ixhala, kwaye usenokufuna ukuba yedwa.
Intukuthelo
Unokukhangela umntu ukuba abekwe ityala lokukhulelwa komzimba. Abasetyhini abaninzi basola oogqirha babo ngokuba bengayiboni imiqondiso ngaphambili kwaye bengenako ukukhusela ukulahlekelwa.
Unokumangalela umlingane wakho okanye ufumane isizathu sokuba uzigwebe. (Zama ukukhumbula ukuba ukungahambi kakuhle akufaneki ukuba umntu uphoso kwaye kaninzi akakwazi ukuthintelwa.)
Unokuziva unomsindo kwiklinikhi yezokwelapha oya kuyo ukuba ukukhulelwa kwayo kwenkxaso yokulahleka kokukhulelwa kwakungenako. Abahlobo kunye nezihlobo zakho ziyakucasula ngeengcamango ezingenangqondo nangenjongo. (Zama ukuthobeka nabantu ebomini bakho kwaye ukhumbule ukuba baqhambela ukuba bangakulimazi - bahlala bezama ukunceda.)
Ukuxoxisana
Ukuba unqulo, unokuba uzama ukufumana ubungqina obuphezulu kunye nezithembiso ezithile ezilungileyo xa uthe wakhulelwa ngokukhawuleza kwaye ungabikho ngokuphindaphinda. Okanye, unokuqhuba iiyure zophando malunga nokuthintela ukuthathwa kwamathambo kunye nokukhangela nayiphi na into ongayenza ukuze unciphise umngcipheko wokulahlekelwa kwesinye, njengokukhokelela impilo yokuphila okanye ukuzama iindlela zonyango.
Ukuba unalo mkhwa, khumbula kwakhona ukuba mhlawumbi akenzanga nantoni na ukuba kubangele ukungahambi kakuhle kwezinto kunye nokuba uninzi lwezinto eziphambanisayo zibangelwa phantsi. Ukusebenza ngokubhekiselele kwindlela yokuphila enempilweni kukusoloko kuluvo oluhle kunoma yimuphi umntu, kodwa qaphela ukudala izinto ezilindelekileyo kwaye uzikholelwe ukuba kukho into "yokuphilisa."
Ukuxinezeleka
Unokuzibuza ukuba ngaba uya kuba neliphi na umntwana. Unokuziqinisekisa ukuba awufunelanga ukuba ngumama, okanye ukuba ujeziswa ngesizathu esithile. Ukuba uzama ukukhulelwa kwakhona, kwaye ungazikhulelwa ngokukhawuleza njengoko ungathanda, unokuphelelwa lithemba ukuba akuyi kwenzeka. Ukuba uphinde ukhulelwe kwakhona, unokuziva uxhalabele kwaye unokholo lokuba uya kuphinda ulahleke.
Imifanekiso yabantwana okanye ukukhulelwa kuluntu kunye nakumajelo angakukhathaza, kukukhokelela ukuba uphambuke xa ubona iintsapho ezinabantwana abancinci okanye amabhinqa anomzimba okhulayo. Akunakukwazi ukujongana nabantwana bokusebenza kunye neentsapho 'zamanzi ezintsana okanye ukutyelela iintsana ezisandul' ukuzalwa.
Unokugqiba ukutshintshela iseshini xa kuthengiswa iirhweba ezibonisa iimvavanyo zokukhulelwa .
Ukwamkela
Nangona intlungu yokutshatyalaliswa kwakho kusenokuhlala ihamba nawe, kuya kuba lula ukujongana nayo. Uyakwazi ukukhangela emva kwaye ubuhlungu kukuba ukuphuphuma kwesisu kwenzeka, kodwa ukuvakalelwa kwakho akuyi kuva ngathi kunzima njengoko bekunjalo ekuqaleni. Abasetyhini abaninzi abayi kufikelela kweli nqanaba de emva kokubeletha omnye umntwana.
Nantoni na ovakalelwa ngayo, nceda ukhumbule ukuba kuyinto evamile kwaye ayiyi kuhlala ivakalelwa njengento enzima njengoko iqala ekuqaleni. Uya kufumanisa ukuba unamandla kunokuba ucinge kwaye ukuba, ngokukhawuleza kwexesha, ukuhlangabezana nokukhulelwa komzimba kuya kuba lula.
Umthombo:
Isibhedlele seSikhumbuzo, "Iingqinamba zosizi." 2006. Memorial Hospital, Inc.