Ukulahleka kokukhulelwa kungaxinzelela okanye kuqinise ubudlelwane
Emva kokutshatyalaliswa okanye ukubeleka, intlungu yakho inokuba nzima kakhulu ukuba uzibuze ukuba uya kuphinda ujabule kwakhona. Akunakuze 'uphumelele' ukulahlekelwa kwakho, kodwa uyazi ukuba intlungu yakho iya kuba yindlela ephathekayo xa ihamba ngokukodwa xa ubona ukuba iimvakalelo zakho ziyimfuneko kwaye uyamkela ukuba unokufuna ixesha lokuba usebenze kuzo.
Umva wokukhawuleza
Amanqanaba e-hormone ewela emzimbeni wakho emva kokuphuphuma kwesisu angakuphakamisa iimvakalelo zakho ezibuhlungu ekudakaleni okukhulu, kodwa le mphumela ifanele iphele kwiiveki ezimbalwa.
Iimvakalelo zakho zinokubangelwa kukudakumba komsindo ukuxinezeleka. Unokuvakalelwa ngathi umzimba wakho awuphumelelanga, ngakumbi ukuba wawufuna ixesha elide umntwana. Unokuba uzive unetyala, uzibuza ukuba into oyenzayo yabangela ukukhulelwa komzimba.
Unokuziva unesilingo sokuhlaziya yonke imbali yakho yezokwelapha nayo yonke into oyenzayo ngexesha lokukhulelwa ukuze ufumane isizathu sokuba kwenzeke ntoni, kodwa uzame ukumelana nesilingo. Ukutshatyalaliswa kwabantu kubangele ukuba nantoni na into enokwenzayo.
Ukujongana Nobomi Bemihla ngemihla Emva kokutshatyalaliswa
Unokuvakalelwa ngathi ubona iintsana kunye nokukhulelwa kuyo yonke indawo ojongayo ngayo ilahleko. Iimveliso zethelevishini, iimemo zokuhambisa iimfesane, kunye nokuhamba ngaphaya kwe-diaper isithuba kwivenkile kunokuqala ukukukhathaza. Unokuziva unomona ngabasetyhini abakhulelweyo kunye nonina bamantsha, ngakumbi abo babonakala bekhulelwe lula. Ukuba kunjalo, iimvakalelo zakho ziqhelekileyo kwaye ziyasebenza, kodwa ukwazi ukuba akunakukwenza uzive ungcono.
Zinike indawo yokulila. Lindela ukuba uhlangabezane nezigaba ezihlanu zentlungu :
- ukukhanyela
- umsindo
- zokuxoxisana
- ukuxinezeleka
- kwamkelwa
Abahlobo kunye nosapho banokunika uncedo, uxinzelelo olongezelelweyo, okanye zombini. Basenokungakwazi ukunxulumana neemvakalelo zakho kwaye bathi izinto ezilimazayo ngawe, nokuba zizama ukunceda.
Ukuba inethiwekhi yakho yokuncedisa ayincedi, cinga ukufumana iqela lokuxhasa.
Ulwalamano kunye nokuHlala ngaphandle
Ukulahleka kokukhulelwa kungabangela ukuba intsebenziswano ihlangane kunye, okanye ingaphonsa ingxaki ebudlelwaneni.
Amadoda nabasetyhini basabela ngokungafaniyo nokulahlekelwa. Nangona abantu baqala ukubika intlungu efanayo ekuqaleni, banokuthi bathethe ngeemvakalelo zabo ngaphantsi baze bathuthuke inxalenye yengqondo yokulahleka ngokukhawuleza kunabesifazane. Abasetyhini banokuyichaza oku njengokuba amadoda angakhathaleli ukuphuphuma kwesisu , kwaye ngamanye amaxesha abantu basabela ngokukholelwa ukuba abafazi bahlala kakhulu kakhulu ekulahlekeni kokukhulelwa.
Ababini kufuneka baxelele iimvakalelo zabo baze bathembele kwabanye ngamava. Amadoda kufuneka akhumbule ukuba abasetyhini banokuziva belahlekelwa kakhulu kwaye banokufuna ixesha elide nangaphezulu bethetha ukugqithisa intlungu. Abasetyhini bafanele baqonde ukuba nangona amadoda engadabuki ngexesha elide okanye efuna ukuthetha kangangoko, amadoda ayenyamekele kwaye awenze intlungu.
Iingcebiso ezicacileyo zokujamelana nemibandela
Ezi ngcebiso zinokukunceda ekujonganeni nentlungu yakho:
- Hlonipha umntwana wakho ngomfanekiso wesithunywa, isantya (abathengisi abaninzi abathengisa i-intanethi bathengisa iingubo zokugubungela isisu ), umthi okanye intsimi ekhethekileyo
- Gcina incwadi
- Fumana iqela lokuxhasa
- Thatha ixesha
> Umthombo:
> Ukutshatyalaliswa komtshato kunye nokulahlekelwa. Umbutho wezeMpilo waseMelika. 2012. http://www.apa.org/monitor/2012/06/ ukutshatyalaliswa kwempahla.aspx.