Xa abantwana bebeka abanye engozini, ukunyuka ngoMeyi kuyimfuneko
Ngaba kulungile ukuqeqesha umntwana womnye umntu? Ezinye iimeko, ingakumbi xa abantwana bebeka okanye bangabungozi, bafune umntu omdala ukuba angenelele.
Abazali abaninzi baye bahlangana nomntwana ongaphumelelanga kwiqela okanye iqela lokudlala elichitha umhlaba wonke umntu. Abantwana abanjalo banokukhaba okanye ukubetha abanye abantwana, bakhwaza phezulu emiphakeni yabo okanye baqhekeza indawo ngaphandle.
Kodwa umntu kufuneka aqhube njani ukuba umzali womntwana engaboni, ekukhanyeleni, okanye ngokugqithiseleyo, engekho kwisenzo? Ngeengcebiso ezilandelayo, funda xa kufanelekile ukungena.
Oko Ukwenza Xa Uhlala Kwakho
Ukumangalela omnye umntwana womntwana kunokukwenza nokuba ngumzali onobuchule obuninzi kwaye abuyele. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, abazali bezingane eziselula kunye nabantwana basesikolweni bahlala bexakekile ukuqinisekisa ukuba abantwana babo benza ngokufanelekileyo ukuphatha umntwana womnye umntu. Kodwa ukuba ubamba iqela lokuzalwa okanye iseshoni yeqela lokudlala, ulawula yonke imiba yomcimbi, kubandakanywa nokuziphatha kwabantwana . Njengaye okanye kungenjalo, ukuba izenzo zakho zonakalisa usuku okanye zibeka abanye engozini kwaye umzali womntwana wenqabe ukunyuka, kufuneka uthathe inyathelo.
Kudala ixesha elingakanani ngaphambi kokungenelela
Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantu abadala balinde ade umntwana engakwazi ukulawula ngokupheleleyo ukuba aqeqeshe. Bathemba ukuba umntwana uhlala phantsi okanye umzali ungenelela.
Kodwa ukulinda ixesha elide ukuba ungene ngaphakathi kunokwenene ukuvumela ukuziphatha okubi kukubi kakhulu. Kunoko, yenza oko kuninzi ootitshala bokuqala bancomele baze bathathe isinyathelo ngokukhawuleza xa ingxaki ikhula.
Ukuba ngaba abazali bomntwana bakhona, bacele ukuba bathathe isenzo. Ukuba bayanqikaza okanye umntwana uqala kwakhona, zilungele ukungena.
Cinga ngokususa umntwana kwimeko kwaye umbonise ngqo kumzali. Musa ukumangaliswa xa iinyembezi okanye ukulandela umsindo. Nangona oko kunokuphazamisa, umsebenzi wakho njengomninindlu ufuna ukuba uqwalasele ukhuseleko kunye nenhlalakahle yabantwana abakhoyo.
Yintoni Okufuneka Yenze Xa Abazali Bezingekho
Ukuba umzali akakho, imeko iya kuba nzima. Ubuhlobo buye bonakaliswa kwaye amaqela okudlala aphuhliswa ngenxa yeemvakalelo ezibuhlungu kunye nokungavumelani okuqinileyo malunga nokuphathwa kweengxaki zokuziphatha. Iintsapho zinokulindela izinto ezahlukeneyo kunye nemithetho malunga nokuziphatha okwamkelekileyo, kwaye xa umntu ovela ngaphandle eqeqesha umntwana, intsapho inokuthatha isenzo ngokwaso okanye ukugxekwa kwamakhono abo okuzala abantwana. Ukungathathi nyathelo, nangona kunjalo, unokuhlawula umphathi weqela lokudlala ngamanzi ashushu kunye nabanye abazali.
Ngaloo ndlela, indlela elula (kunye nekhuselekileyo) yokuqeqesha abanye abantwana babantu ngokubandakanyeka kwimisebenzi eyahlukeneyo okanye ngokubakhupha ngokusemthethweni kwimeko kwaye ubatshele isizathu sokuba bangakwazi ukuqhubeka behlupha. Indlela oqhuba ngayo iya kuxhomekeka kwizenzo kunye nobudala bomntwana.
Gwema ukunika ukungenelela kwileyibhile yoluleko, njengokuthi "ukuhamba." Oku kunciphisa ithuba lokuba umzali womntwana uya kukhubeka.
Kunoko, tshela into efana nale, "Jensen, ndifuna ukuba uhlale apha apha ngomzuzu." Emva kokuba usususe umntwana kwimeko, unokumnceda azinze kwaye achaze indlela onokuthanda ngayo ukuba aziphathe ngayo yonke into.
Ukuziphatha Ukuqinisekisa Ukungenelela Ngokukhawuleza
Ezinye iziphathamandla zibiza abantu abadala ukuba bathathe inyathelo ngokukhawuleza xa umntwana omnye umntu ephuma. Ukuba umntwana usebenza kulo naluphi lwezi ziphatha ezilandelayo, unganqikazi ukungena:
- Ukuziphatha okubuhlungu okwenza ubuhlungu (okanye inokulimaza) omnye umntwana, njengokubetha, ukubetha, ukubetha , ukukhaba okanye ukusebenzisa ithoyizi njengesixhobo esinjengobhe okanye nayiphi na into enzima
- Ukuphazamiseka komhlaba okanye ukukrazula okanye ukumemeza ngokukhawuleza kuphazamisa wonke umntu kwigumbi (ingakumbi kwiindawo zoluntu)
- Ukuziphatha okutshabalalayo njengokungcola izinto, ukubetha izinto okanye ukuchitha into ethile
- Ukuziphatha okuphazamisayo njengokwenzakalisa isilwanyana sentsapho okanye ukutshatisa umntwana osecaleni
- Ukuba ungumququzeleli wesiganeko, kufuneka uyeke nayiphi na indlela ongayi kuvumela ukuba abantwana bakho benze.
Thintelo
Abantu abadala bangathatha amanyathelo ngaphambi kwesiganeko ukukhusela abantwana ukuba bangaziphathe kakubi. Bangakwazi ukuthatha amanyathelo okuthintela njengokusebenzisa ulwimi olufanelekileyo ukubeka imithetho elula kunye nabantwana. Abanikezeli bokunakekelwa kwabantwana kunye nootitshala bokuqala bathi ukuqala isiganeko "ngexesha lesangqa" apho umkhosi exoxa ngokulindela ukuziphatha kwenza abancinane umzekelo wokulandela. Ukuba kunokwenzeka, cela uncedo lwabazali abathile ukuncedisa, ukuva nokugcina ukuze nabo bazi izinto ozilindeleyo.
Imikhosi yemicimbi inokuxelela abantwana ukuba imisebenzi ezayo ifuna ukuba bazigcinele izandla kwaye bahlale phantsi. Bayakwazi ukwazisa iindwendwe ukuba abantwana abangayithobeli le mithetho baya kususwa. Ukuba umsebenzi ngumdlalo wokudlala , abazali kufuneka babeke imithetho kwaye bavumelane nezenzo ezifanelekileyo ukuba umntwana uphuma ngaphandle kokulawula. Abazali bafanele bahlole umntwana wabo okanye babe nefowuni baze bafumane ukufumana umntwana wabo xa ivela iingxaki.
I-host hosts, ke, kufuneka ikhuthaze abazali ukuba bahlale. Ukuba abazali baceba ukuhamba, qiniseka ukuba bafumana iinombolo zabo zefowuni ngaphambi kokuba bahambe kuphela xa umntwana wabo engenzi kakuhle. Ukuba unabantwana abaninzi kakhulu ukuba bajonge ngokwaneleyo kwaye baphathe ngaphandle koloncedo oluninzi, mhlawumbi uye wamema abantwana abaninzi kakhulu kwiqela leminyaka. Khumbula ukuba iqela elincinci luza kuba lula ukulijonga, ungakhankanyi ngokumnandi.
Ngaphantsi
Bonke abantwana bahlukumezeka ngezikhathi ezithile. Ukuba umntwana uphatha kwisiganeko osibamba okanye esibhekisele kuyo, qiniseka ukuba uhlale upholile. Emva kwakho konke, umntwana wakho unokuba ngumntwana olandelayo ukuba asebenze. Ngokuthatha ukuziphatha kakubi komntwana ngokukhawuleza, unokuqinisekisa ukuba imisebenzi iya kuhlala iyonwabile kubo bonke.