Wonke umzali wenza iimpazamo. Bathi into engalunganga, benza ukhetho olungalunganga, ba bonise ngexesha elingafanelekanga. Umntwana wakho uya kukukhwaza, uya kukuhleka, uya kuphazamiseka nawe. Kungenxa yekhosi xa kuvela kubazali.
Kodwa iinjongo zakho akufanele zizame ukuba ngumzali ophelileyo-akuphelelanga. Xa uzinika imvume yokuba 'ulungile ngokwaneleyo,' uya kuba ngumzali osebenza kakuhle.
Injongo yakho kukuphakamisa umntwana okhuselekileyo, onoxanduva oya kuxhotyiswa kwizinto eziyimpilo yobuntu abadala. Uneminyaka eyi-18 kuphela ukulungiselela umntwana wakho kwilizwe langempela, ngoko kubalulekile ukusebenzisa ixesha lakho ngokuhlakanipha.
Nazi iindlela ezilishumi ezithintekayo abazali basebenzise ukwenza loo njongo inyaniso.
Ukunyanzelisa iMigaqo
Imithetho nemimiselo yeNdlu yenza okungaphezu kokugcina uhamba; bancedisa umntwana okhulayo ukuba azizwe ezinzile kwaye ekhuselekile. Umzali ophumelelayo uyacaca malunga nokuba umntwana unjani kwaye akavumelekanga ukuba enze, imisebenzi ekulindeleke ukuba izalise kunye nendlela abafanele baphathe ngayo abanye abantu ( kunye nezilwanyana ) ekhaya.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ngamnye umntwana uhamba apha apha naphandle. Emva kokuba unikeze imiyalelo yengane yakho, sebenzisa ukuba ... ke isilumkiso . Yithi, "Ukuba awuyikubeka iifayili zakho ngoku, awuyi kuvunyelwa ukuba uye epakini." Oku kubonisa umntwana wakho ukuba ngelixa avunyelwe ukwenza iphutha, nguye ojongene nezenzo zawo eziqhubekayo.
Ukuba uyaphula umthetho omkhulu-njengokukushaya-landela ngokukhawuleza . Mbonise ukuba umsebenzi wakho ukumnceda afunde ukulandela imithetho, kwaye iziphumo zenzelwe ukumnceda ukuba afunde kwiimpazamo zakhe.
Kodwa Zihlala Zihlala Zixhambile
Kukho ukunyanzelisa imigaqo, kwaye ke kukho ukunyanzelisa ngokungqongqo .
Kufuneka uhlale ulungelelaniso oluncinane kwiimeko ezithile. Uphando oluqhutywe yiYunivesithi yaseNew Hampshire luphelile ukuba abazali abaqinileyo banokukhulisa abantwana abanokukwazi ukuphula imithetho.
Ukongezelela, uphando lubonisa ukuba abantwana abanomzali onzima kakhulu bahlala benesidima esincinane kwaye banciphise umgangatho wokuzixabisa kunabo bazali abanokuzikhulula rhoqo emva kwexesha.
Umntwana wakho kufuneka ngokubanzi azi imiphumo yokuphula imithetho ethile, kodwa ukuqeqeshwa ngokufanelekileyo akuyona into ebomnyama neyemhlophe. Lungisa imigaqo kunye nesiphumo njengoko usapho lwakho lukhula, abantwana abadala kunye nezimo zitshintsha.
Bathetha Abantwana Babo
Ukuqalisa umzali kuqala ngokuqhagamshelana ngempumelelo. Nangona abantwana befunda nje indlela yokubamba, bazuza kwiintetho nabazali babo.
I-Chit-qhaqha malunga nantoni na, ukususela kwimihla yakhe yokufunda esikolweni kwindlela aziva ngayo ngexesha elizayo lebhola yebhola kwizinto azifunayo ngokuzalwa kwakhe kulonyaka. Akukho sihloko esifanele sibe yimida.
Ngokude incoko, ininzi inzuzo kubonelela abantwana bakho. Ubafundisa ngolwimi, izakhono zentlalo kunye nokucinga okucingayo.
Ingxoxo rhoqo iyakunceda ukuba umntwana wakho azive ekhuselekile kwaye eyanconywa kuba ibonisa ukuba unomdla malunga noko bacinga.
Ngoko uthetha nomntwana wakho xa eselula kwaye uya kuba nako ukuthetha nawe xa eselula.
Bafunda Kubantwana Babo
Oku kuyahamba kunye nokuthetha nomntwana wakho rhoqo. Ukufunda ngokuvakalayo kuchaza umntwana wakho kwisigama esitsha, ufundise iingcamango ezintsha kwaye umvumela ukuba azicwilise kwihlabathi elitsha.
Umntwana ofundelwa rhoqo uya kuba nolwazi olubanzi lwezakhiwo zegrama kunye nengqiqo enamandla-engakhankanyi ukufumana ubutyebi bezinto ezinokwenene xa bekhetha iincwadi ezingabonakaliyo!
Nenjongo yokufunda kumntwana ngamnye ngamnye ubuncinane imizuzu engama-20 ngosuku; isifundo esenziwe yiNhlangano yoQhagamshelwano kunye noPhuhliso lwezoQoqosho kufumanise ukuba abazali abafunda ngokuvakalayo kunye nabantwana babo beselula baneminyaka engama-1 phambi koontanga babo bezemfundo abaneminyaka eli-15.
Bachitha ixesha ndawonye
Kuyo yonke imihla yobomi bakho, uchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nomntwana wakho, kunjalo? Emva kwakho konke, uhamba ngeendlela zokusa, uhamba ukuya esikolweni kwaye usebenze kunye, udla isidlo sakusihlwa, uhamba nabo ebusuku.
Nangona kunjalo, akukho nanye yale nto yexesha elifanelekileyo lomgangatho, umntwana afuna umzali ukuze aphumelele. Nenjongo yokubeka eceleni imizuzu eyi-10 ukuya kwemihla ngemihla ukuze unike umntwana wakho ingqalelo engacatshangwanga ukwenza umsebenzi owukhethile.
Dlala umdlalo, ukudlala ugqoke, okanye ugijime ngaphandle. Ukunika umntwana ixesha elininzi-kuyo kuya kuncitshiswa inani eliza kuchitha ixesha lokuphuma .
Bavumela abantwana ukuba bahlangabezane neengxaki
Iingxaki zakha umlingiswa, kodwa oko akuthethi kulula ukubukela umzabalazo wakho womntwana. Kuza kuhlala kusekho imeko apho umntwana wakho adinga uncedo lwakho-okanye nokuba uyaphumelela-kodwa xa ekhula, thabatha isinyathelo sokubuya ukuba ubone indlela anqoba ngayo imingeni ebhekene nayo.
Ukuba, umzekelo, umntwana wakho usebenza kanzima ukubizwa ngokuba yi-pitcher kwikomiti yeLittle League kwaye umqeqeshi ukhetha omnye umntu ukuba abe ngumsila wokuqala, ungangenisi izikhalazo kunye nezicelo zeenkokheli zolawulo ukulungisa imeko .
Cacisa umntwana wakho ukuba ngamanye amaxesha, nangona usebenza nzima, izinto azihambi ngendlela ocebe ngayo. Mkhuthaze ukuba aqhubeke nokuzimela izakhono zakhe aze azame kwakhona ngonyaka ozayo.
Esi sicwangciso asifundisi abantwana kuphela ukuba abazali babo abayi kuhlala bekulungisa iingxaki zabo, kodwa nokuba ngamanye amaxesha izinto aziyi kuhamba-kwaye asikho isizathu sokuyeka. Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba angakwazi ukujamelana neemvakalelo ezingenakukhathazeka , njengokungaphumeleli kunye nokuchaswa, ngendlela ephilileyo.
Bahlonipha Umntwana Wabo Ufuna Ukuzimela
Njengeminyaka engama-2 ubudala ubudala, umntwana ufunda ukwenza ukhetho lwakhe (kwaye uya kudla ngokuthetha nabo!) Njengoko ekhula, ezo zigqibo ziya kuba nempembelelo eninzi.
Ngelixa uhlala ungavumelani nolu khetho, ufanele ubahlonele (ngokungakhathaliseki ukuba kungangomngciphekisi umntwana wakho okanye omnye umntu ngendlela ebalulekileyo, ngokusemthethweni-sebenzisa isigwebo sakho kuloo nto). Qaphela ukuba ngenxa yokuba engenzi izinto ngendlela ongayenza ngayo, akuthethi ukuba yinto engalunganga.
Ukuba ukhetho alusebenzi, ke umntwana wakho ufunda ukuba izigqibo azenzayo ziza kuba nemiphumo. Ukuba iya kuhambelana naye, uya kufunda impembelelo enokuthi ukwenza izigqibo ezilungileyo zingabakho ebomini bakhe.
Ngoko, vumela umntwana wakho abhekane nemiphumo yemvelo kanye ngexesha elide. Ukuba unyanzelekile ukuya ngaphandle ngaphandle kwengubo, kwaye akasengozini yokuqhwala, makenze oko. Ukuba ushushu, uya kuba yindoda yokugqoka iackyacket ngokuzayo.
Bachitha ixesha lokushiya abantwana babo
Unokuvakalelwa kukuba abantwana bakho bubomi bakho kunye nehlabathi lonke-kungokwemvelo. Kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba kufuneka ube nabo iiyure ezingama-24 ngosuku, iintsuku ezingama-365 ngonyaka.
Abazali badinga ukuphuka ngamanye amaxesha. Hlela ixesha elide kubantwana bakho ukuze unakekele okanye uvuselele ubuhlobo bakho.
Wena (kunye neqabane lakho) ufanele wenze isigqibo malunga nokuba ufuna ixesha elingakanani kwaye xa uza kuyidinga; ungavumeli abanye bakuxelele okufanelekileyo nokuba yintoni engavumelekanga. Kungenzeka ukuba iqabane lakho lithatha abantwana ngaphandle kwindlu ngeCawa kusasa ukuze ulale, uphuze ikhofi yakho ngoxolo uze uphewule kwi-intanethi ukuzonwabisa kwakho.
Okanye mhlawumbi ucwangcisa ubusuku bobusuku kunye nomntwana onyakeni kanye ngenyanga, ngoko ke bobabini unokwazi ukuxhamla ngokutya komntu omdala. Musa ukulibala ukuba ubusuku bonke rhoqo ngexesha elide, kwakhona, ngokucela umkhulu-ntombi, umntakwabo okanye umhlobo othembekileyo ukuba athabathe abantwana bakho ubusuku bonke.
Kuphilile ukubonisa umntwana ukuba unomdla, izinto ezithandwayo kunye nemisebenzi ngaphandle kwendlu. Uze uhambe unye ngexesha elithile uya kumfundisa ukuba unokulungele ngaphandle kwakho.
Bathanda Abantwana Babo Abangenakuqondakala
Uthando lwakho ngomntwana wakho alufanele lube nemida okanye imida, kwaye umntwana wakho makangathi afune ukuba asebenzele uthando lwakho. Abazali abaphumelelayo benza ukuba kucace ukuba, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ziphi iimpazamo ezenziwa ngumntwana, ziya kuhlala zilapho.
Banikela ngenkxaso, isikhokelo nothando njengoko umntwana wabo ekhula. Kwaye bajonge ukuba umntwana ube ngumntu omdala onomdla, onoxanduva-kwaye yinjongo epheleleyo yobazali.
Musa ukugcina indumiso ngamaxesha akho umntwana uphelele. Kunoko, dumisani ukuzimisela kwakhe ukuzama kanzima okanye umnqweno wokuzama kwakhona emva kokuba ehluleka. Qiniseka ukuba umntwana wakho uyazi ukuba uthando lwakho ngaye aluxhomekeke kwimpumelelo yakhe okanye impumelelo. Kunoko, mbonise ukuba uyamthanda nantoni na.
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Umbutho woQhagamshelwano noPhuhliso lwezoQoqosho ngo-2013, i- PISA 2012 ibangela ukugxila kulo: ngaba abaneminyaka engama-15 ubudala bayayazi noko banokukwenza noko baziyo , iNkqubo yoHlolo lwaBafundi bamazwe ngamazwe, i-OECD, eParis.