Ngamanye amaxesha, abaninzi abatsha bajamelene nesimemo sokungena endlwini kunye nabahlobo babo. Kodwa akukho nto iyenzekayo xa iqela labaselula lihlangana emva kobusuku.
Njengomzali, ngumsebenzi wakho ukukhusela umntwana wakho kwizinto ezinobungozi ezinokuthi zenzeke xa ephuma ngaphandle kwendlu. Kodwa awukwazi ukulukhusela rhoqo.
Ukuba ubamba umntwana wakho ekubhinqeni (okanye ukuphinda angene ngaphakathi) axhomekeke kwimiphumo eya kumnqanda ukuba angaphinda ayenze kwakhona.
Ukukhusela I-Teen Yakho ekukhuphekeni
Kukho izinto ezininzi ongayenza ukuze unciphise amathuba okuba umntwana wakho ukhuphuke ewindow yakhe (okanye ahambe emnyango wangaphambili) phakathi kobusuku.
Enye yezindlela ezilula kodwa ezintle kakhulu ezinokukwenza oko kukuthetha nentombazana yakho malunga neengozi ngaphambi kwexesha. Yenza kucacise ukuba umntwana wakho ukuba ahambe emkhatsini wobusuku akuyona nje ingozi engenakuyingozi-ingakhokelela kwingxaki enkulu. Chaza i miphumo oya kuyisebenzisa xa wakho umntwana ekhupha.
Yamkela isilingo, nangona kunjalo. Yithi into enjengaleyo, "Abahlobo bakho banokumema ukuba uhlangane phakathi kobusuku kwaye ndiyazi ukuba kuzandile kumnandi.
Nazi iindlela ezincinci zokunciphisa amathuba okuba umntwana wakho uyakunqumla:
- Thetha ngoxinzelelo lwabaontanga. Enoba ngabahlobo bakhe bafuna ukuba aye emcimbini, okanye bafuna nje ukuba 'baxhomeke' ngentsasa, nikele umntwana wakho izixhobo azifunayo ukunqanda uxinzelelo lwabaontanga.
- Xoxa ngomngcipheko ochaphazelekayo wokukrazula. Iintsholongwane zijwayele ukucinga ukuba zikhuselekile kwizinto ezimbi ezenzeka kubo. Bhala izinto ezithile zokukhusela kwindawo yakho. Yabelana ngamanani olwaphulo-mthetho kwaye uthethe ngezinto ezimbi ezinokuthi zenzeke phakathi kobusuku.
- Gxi ninisa ukuba inxaxheba yakho kukugcina umntwana wakho ukhusele . Ulawulo olusebenzayo kwingqondo yomntu, olulawula amandla ethu okwenza izigqibo ezintle, aluqulunqwa ngokuzeleyo ukuya kwi-20s. Yenza kucace kwintsapho yakho ukuba imithetho yakho ithetha ukumnceda enze izigqibo ezintle okwangoku.
- Musa ukuvumela umntwana wakho ukuba alale nge-electronics kwigumbi lakhe lokulala. Thatha i-smartphone yakho yeselula , i-laptop kunye nezinye i-electronics ngaphambi kokuba ulale kwaye uzigcine kwindawo ekhuselekileyo. Ukuba umntwana wakho akakwazi ukufumana umyalezo evela kubahlobo bakhe phakathi kobusuku, uya kuba nzima kakhulu ukuba angene.
Iziphumo zokukrazula
Ukuba ubamba intombazana yakho ukukhawula ngokukhawuleza, landela ngemiphumo eya kwenza ukuba acinge kabini ngokukrazula kwakhona. Imiphumo emibi ingenzeka:
- Ukugxotha umntwana wakho kwimisebenzi yentlalo ngexesha elithile.
- Ukuthintela amalungelo akho kwintsana , njengokuthatha i-electronics.
- Ukongeza uxanduva olongezelelweyo, njengemisebenzi eyongezelelweyo ekwenzeni ulutsha lwakho.
Qinisekisa ukuba i-time frame yeempembelelo zicacile. Ngokomzekelo, thabatha amalungelo kwiiveki ezimbini okanye ude umntwana wakho egqibezele uxanduva lwakhe olongezelelweyo. Gwema iintsuku ezigqityiweyo zokugqibela, "de ndize ndikuthembele kwakhona."
Yenza kucace ukuba ukuxoka nokukrazula kuphelisa ukukholelwa kwakho. Kwaye uya kuba mncinane ukumnika imvume yokwenza imisebenzi kwixesha elizayo ukuba awukwazi ukuthembela ukuba uya kuthetha inyaniso kwaye uya kuthi uphi.
Yakha iKontrakthi
Inkontileka yokuziphatha ecacileyo inokunciphisa isilingo sakho somntwana ukuba siphume.
Bandakanya intsha yakho ekumiseni imimiselo yesivumelwano. Faka le nkcazelo elandelayo:
- Iiyure ozilindele ukuba umntwana wakho ahlale ekhaya . Ukuseka ixesha lokufika kwikota yesikolo kunye neentsuku ezingezizo zesikolo.
- Imiphumo emibi yokuphula isivumelwano . Ukuba umntwana wakho ulahleka ikhefu okanye ahlawule phakathi kobusuku, khankanya imiphumo engayilindela.
- Imiphumo emihle yokulandela isivumelwano. Ukuba ubambe iqabane lakho elibhinqa ngokukhawuleza, kuqiqa ukudala i-curfew yangaphambili kwithuba elithile. Ukuba umntwana wakho uyakwazi ukuthobela isivumelwano kunye nexesha elichanekileyo-mhlawumbi inyanga enye-iyavuma ukwenza ixesha lokugqibela emva kwemizuzu engama-30 kamva.
Zikulungele ukuphulaphula imbono yengane yakho malunga nesivumelwano. Thetha ngeengxaki zakhe kwaye mnike ithuba lokubuza imibuzo. Fumana isayinwe yakho yesibhambathiso kwisivumelwano sokuqinisekisa ukuba uyayiqonda iiparitha.
Ukukhusela, izithintelo kunye neAlarms
Ukuba umntwana wakho okhulayo uya kuphuma ngaphandle kwendlu emva kokuba usungile isivumelwano, thabatha amanyathelo amanyathelo okugcina ukhusele.
- Fumana i-alamu ekamelweni lakho lentsha. Ungathenga i-alamu eya kuphuma xa wakho umntwana ephuma egumbini lakhe lokulala ebusuku.
- Hlola iingqungqelo emnyango . Ukuba unobuthongo obunzima, enye indlela eya kwi-alamu kukuxhoma insimbi entangweni engenakususwa kalula.
- Khusela iifestile. Ukuba umntwana wakho okhulayo uphuma ngefestile, fumana i-alamu kwifestile. Nangona kunokuzama ukubetha ngefestile, ukukwenza oko kunokuthintela umntwana wakho ukuba aphunyuke ukuba kukho umlilo.
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