Uxinzelelo lwabaontanga akusoloko lubi. Abahlobo bakho abancinci bangasebenzisa uxinzelelo lwabaontanga ukuba bamthinte ngendlela efanelekileyo ngamanye amaxesha.
Indlela umntwana wakho asabela ngayo kwingcinezelo yontanga ichaza ukuba ngubani umntu. Ingaba ungumkhokeli okanye umlandeli?
Umehluko phakathi kokunyanzeliswa koontanga kunye nokuhle
Njengoko umntwana wakho ekhula, oontanga bakhe baya kudlala indima enkulu ebomini bakhe.
Abahlobo bakhe banokuchaphazela yonke into ekugqithweni kwayo.
Ukuba umntwana wakho wenza intetho enempilo kubahlobo abakhethayo, abo ontanga bangamkhuthaza ukuba azame izinto ezintsha okanye bangamkhuthaza ukuba enze okusemandleni akhe. Kodwa, ukuba umntwana wakho uqala ukuxhoma kunye nesihlwele esingalunganga , njengontanga abasaqhekeza isikolo, benze iziyobisi, baze baphule umthetho, banokuchaphazela ukuziphatha kwakhe ngendlela engafanelekanga.
Kodwa khumbula ukuba ngenxa yokuba umntwana wakho wenza izinto ezintle akuthethi ukuba unengcinezelo yontanga enhle. Ukuba ngabahlobo bakhe bamnyanzela ukuba adlale ibhola yebhola ngenxa yokuba "yinto epholileyo ukuyenza," unokungenela iqela. Kodwa ukuba akafuni ukudlala, ukuba kwiqela lingenomphumo omubi kuye.
Enyanisweni, ubuninzi beengcinezelo zontanga zibandakanya iingxaki ezinzulu, njengokunyanzela umntwana osemtsha ukuba atshise iiguba okanye asebenzise iziyobisi. Kucacile ukuba olu hlobo loxinzelelo lontanga lunokuba nemiphumo emibi kakhulu.
Ukwahlukana konke malunga nesiphumo. Ukuba umntwana wakho okhulayo uyaqiniseka ukuba wenza into kwaye iya kuba yempilweni kuye, ukunyanzelwa koontanga kuye kwaba kuhle. Ukuba kunjalo, unyanzelekile ukuba enze ukhetho olungenampilo, uxinzelelo lwabaontanga alubi.
Imizekelo yoxinzelelo oluthile olubi kunye neNtsholongwane
Uninzi ulutsha luloyiko lokuba luthathwe okanye luhlekise.
Ngenxa yoko, bahlala benqwenela ukwenza izinto zabo ontanga abaxelela ukuba benze.
Nazi izibonelo ezimbalwa zengcinezelo yontanga enhle:
- Abahlobo bakho bentsha bathi kuye kufuneka afunde kanzima ukuze athole amabakala angcono. Uthatha isigqibo sokuba uphole ukufumana amabakala amahle ekuvavanyeni kwakhe.
- Iqela labahlobo lifumana yonke imisebenzi emva kwesikolo kwaye baqinisekise ukuba umntwana wakho kufuneka afumane umsebenzi kwaye kuba kumnandi ukuchitha imali. Inika umntwana wakho ukuzithemba ukuba afake isicelo somsebenzi.
- Uninzi lwabahlobo bakho beveki bathenga iimoto zabo. Umntwana wakho uyashukunyiswa ukugcina imali yakhe ukuze athenge yakhe imoto nayo.
Nazi izibonelo ezimbalwa zengcinezelo yontanga engalunganga:
- Ingane yakho inesondo nangona ayifuni ngenxa yokuba iqabane lakhe liyamqinisekisa ukuba wayemthanda, wayeya kumthanda.
- Umntwana wakho oselula uya esikolweni ngenxa yokuba usuku oludlulayo kwaye akafuni ukuhlekisa ngenxa yokubonisa.
- Ingane yakho ithengisa i-cigarettes kwi-intanethi ngenxa yokuba abahlobo bakhe bathi bayakwazi ukuhamba nayo.
Khetha Ubulumko Bakho
Akusoloko uvumelane nomntwana wakho okhethiweyo wefashoni okanye izigqibo zakhe malunga nendlela yokuhlobisa igumbi lakhe. Kodwa kubalulekile ukungenelela xa ehla endleleni engafanelekanga.
Njengomzali, uya kuba nefuthe elikhulu kunomntwana wakho, nangona kungenakuvakalelwa ngathi ngamanye amaxesha.
Ukuseka imithetho ecacileyo kunye nokulindela, kwaye ulandele nemiphumo xa kuyimfuneko.