I-coaster-roller coaster ehambahamba ebusheni ingaba yindwendwe yasendle. Kubazali, impendulo yakho ye-teen-top-top ingase ibonakale igxothwe ngaphandle kwenani.
Kwaye, intsha ibonakala ibathanda umdlalo. Enoba bayasasaza inhlebo okanye baqala ingxaki kwimidiya yoluntu, bayakhula ngokuvuyisa.
Ingaba umntakwenu unomtshato ongaphinda aphinde abuye naye okanye uthintela ukuxubusha kwintetho yentlalo yentlalo, ingxaki yosuku ngalunye ingabonakala ingenakwenzeka.
Kubazali, ukuphazamiseka okuqhubekayo kunokuxhalabisa. Kodwa, qiniseka ukuba lesi sigaba kufuneka sidlule.
Umdlalo omncinci wenkwenkwezi uphathelene ne-biology. Uphuhliso lobuchopho kunye nokutshintsha kwe-hormonal kukhokelela ekutshintsheni kwemizwelo edlalwa emva kweempendulo zakho.
Ngamanye amaxesha, umnqweno we-adolescence wokuguqula yonke into engundoqo kwiinkxalabo zikarhulumente ezinokubangela ukuba unqwenela ukufumana ingqalelo. Xa umntwana eselula efunda iindlela eziphilileyo zokufumana ingqalelo, umdlalo udlalwa.
Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, iimpendulo ezimangalisayo zibangelwa ukuba abatsha bahlole iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokubonisa iimvakalelo zabo. Xa behlala bekhululekile kolukhuni lwabo, iintetho ezibonakalayo ziyancipha.
Indlela oyiphendula ngayo intetho yesiganeko esenza intombazana ibe yongeze emlilweni okanye incede umntwana wakho azinciphe. Ezi zicwangciso zinokukunceda ukukhawuleza umdlalo wenkwenkwezi ngokufanelekileyo:
1. Sebenzisa Ukumamela okuBonakalayo
Gwema ukungena kwixazululo kwangoko. Ukunika iingcebiso ezingaceliyo kunokwenzeka ukuba imeko ibe yimbi ngakumbi.
Sebenzisa ukuphulaphula okubonakalayo ukubonisa ukuba uzama ukuqonda iinyani malunga nale meko. Yithi into enjengaleyo, "Ngoko oko ndikukuvayo kukuthi uthisha wakho uyaphulela amaphepha akho ngenxa yokuba engakuthandi?"
2. Qinisekisa iimvakalelo zakho zentsha
Nangona ungacingi ukuba inkinga yakho yakutsha ibangela ingxaki, thintela ukumxelela ukuba uyamkhathaza.
Kunoko, vumela iimvakalelo zakho zentsha ngokuthetha into enjengokuthi, "Ndiyabona ukuba unomsindo ngokwenene kwinto eyenzeka emini namhlanje."
Nceda umntwana wakho abhale iimvakalelo zakhe aze athi into eqinisekisa ukuba kulungile ukuvakalelwa ngaloo ndlela. Umntwana osemva oziva eqondakalayo unokuqala ukufumana iindlela zokujamelana nayo.
3. Hlalani Ucocekile
Ingaba umntwana wakho usetshutshiswa ngokugqithiseleyo ngenxa yeendlebe zamva nje, okanye ufuna ukuba ubomi bakhe bonakaliswe ngenxa yokuba uthe akukwazi ukuphuma ngoLwesihlanu ubusuku, kubalulekile ukuhlala uzinzile. Ukulingana nomgangatho wakho weveki ngokumemeza okanye ukuveza ukukhungatheka kuya kwenza imeko ibe nzima.
Gwema ukubandakanyeka kwingxoxo enomsindo. Ukuba umntwana wakho uyamemeza okanye uziphatha ngokungenakuhlonela , mxelela ukuba uyavuya ukuthetha ngawo xa ekwazi ukwenza njalo ngendlela efanelekileyo. Khangela ngaphandle, uthathe umoya okhulu, okanye uvumele ukubuyela kwintetho kamva.
4. Fundisa i-Skills Regulation Skills
Chaza ukuba kulungile ukuvakalelwa, ukukhathazeka, nokubuhlungu, kodwa kucacise ukuba iimvakalelo ezinzulu azivumelani nokuziphatha okubi. Fundisa wakho umntwana ukuba abe nokulawula iimvakalelo zakhe ukuze iimvakalelo zakhe zingamlawuli. Sebenzisa ixesha lokufundisa izakhono zolawulo lomsindo nokuphucula izakhono ukuze ufumane iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokujongana neemvakalelo zakhe.
5. Khuthaza i-Problem-Solving
Fundisa izakhono zokulungisa iingxaki ngokucwangcisa izicombululo kunye. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba uyaqiniseka ukuba akaze adlule esikolweni esiphakeme ngenxa yokuba wahluleka ukuvavanya, xubusha into angayenza ukuze wandise amathuba okuba uya kukwazi ukudlula. Thetha ngokukhetha kwakhe kunye namanyathelo angathatha.
6. Khuphula iZakhono Zakho Zengane
Umntwana ongeke aqiniseke ukuba angayifaka njani ingxoxo unokuzihlambela kwidrama njengendlela yokuqwalasela. Ngokufanayo, intombazana engaqinisekanga indlela yokujongana nesizungu inokudala umdlalo ukuze uqaphele. Qaphela ukuphulukana kwamakhono akho kunye nokuzimisela ukufundisa izakhono ezintsha zokunxibelelana, izakhono zokusombulula iingxabano, kunye nezakhono zokulawula umsindo.
Njengoko ukuzithemba komntwana wakho kukhula, umnqweno wokubanjwa kwidrama kuya kwenzeka ukuba wehle. Yenza inxaxheba kwimisebenzi ehlukeneyo kunye. Umntwana okhuselekileyo uya kuba nexesha elincinane lokudala idrama.
7. Intsapho yokubulela
Impendulo ephawulekayo isoloko ivela kwiimeko zokungabi nabulungisa-ngokwenene okanye ekucingweni. Ukukhuthaza umbulelo uya kunceda umntwana wakho agxininise kwizinto analo, kunokuba afune ukuba angcono. Fundisa wakho umntwana ukuba abone zonke izinto ezintle ezenzeka ebomini bakhe kwaye uya kunciphisa umdlalo ngokukhawuleza.
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