Abantwana abaze kwihlabathi bekulungele ukudlala kakuhle. Kufuneka bafunde ukuziphatha okwamkelekileyo kuluntu, kunye nezingane ezithile, ezinokuthatha iminyaka. Oko akuthethi ukuba bazalwe amacwecwe amancinci alungele ukubhalwa. Emva koko, akudingeki ukuba bafundiswe ukubetha okanye ukuluma ezinye izingane. Kufuneka bafundiswe ukuziphatha okufanelekileyo ukubuyisela ukuziphatha okungamkelekanga njengokubetha, ukubetha nokukhaba.
Izingane ziyimveliso yeempawu ezizalelwe kunye kunye namava akhulayo, kokubili ekhaya nasezikolweni. Esi sizathu esinye isizathu sokuba abanye abantwana banokuba ngabaxhatshazo okanye babe ngabafundi kwaye kutheni kuthatha ixesha elide kunokuba abanye bafunde ukutshintshisa loo ntshutshiso kunye neziphathamandla eziphathekayo kunye neziphathamandla ezithandekayo.
Ukuxhatshazwa
Akukho mntu ufumana ukuziphatha kakubi. Uxhatshazwa ngokwenene? Sicinga ukuba siyazibona xa siyibona, kodwa mhlawumbi siye sikhathazeke ngokuxhatshazwa esiyibonayo yonke into engabonakaliyo ebuntwaneni njengesenzo sokuxhatshazwa. Kodwa ukuxhatshazwa kunemisebenzi ekhethekileyo engeyona inxalenye yazo zonke izenzo ezingenabubele zabantwana. Abantwana abaxhatshazi abantwana abanamandla, banamandla ngakumbi, okanye banamandla kunoko. Bayazi ukuba abayi kuhamba kunye nokukhetha abo bantwana, ngoko bakhetha abantwana ababuthathaka, abangenamandla, nabanamandla.
Abantwana abaxhaphazayo banenjongo yokulimaza ixhoba labo. Ingozi ayifuni ukuba yimizimba; kunokuba nemvakalelo. Oku kuyinyaniso ngokubhekiselele kwi-cyberbullying, apho kungekho nxu lumano phakathi koxhatshazo kunye nomntwana ekuxhatshazwayo. Injongo ekuqhubheni i-cyberbullying kukunyanzelisa ingqondo. Nangona xa ukuxhatshazwa kusemzimbeni, kunenjongo ethile yokuhlazisa ithagethi.
Akukhona nje ngokulimala ngokomzimba. Ngokuqhelekileyo ukuxhatshazwa kweemvakalelo ezibangelwa iingxaki ezininzi kubantwana abaxhatshazwayo.
Bonke abantwana bafumana olunye uhlobo lokulwa namanye abantwana, nokuba ngabahlobo babo. Imfazwe ayisoloko isemzimbeni, kodwa isenokulimaza. Ukuthukuthela nokubiza umhlobo igama okanye ukuthetha kuthetha izinto malunga nabo kukusingathwa komntwana kwimpikiswano ethile. Le ndlela ayiyixhatshazo, nangona kunjalo. Kukho umahluko phakathi kokuxhatshazwa kunye nezinye izenzo ezingenabubele . Ukuxhatshazwa kubandakanya izenzo eziphindaphindiweyo, kungekhona isenzo esisodwa "sokuzibuyiselwa" ngenxa yezinto ezincinci okanye ezingenabubele.
Kutheni abanye abantwana bexhaphaza? Kukho izizathu ezahlukeneyo zokuxhatshazwa . Ezinye izizathu zibangelwa ngamava anjengomzali ovumelekileyo, kodwa ezinye zibandakanya imiba yemvakalelo njengokungabi nabubele kwabanye okanye ukuzithoba.
Ukuqhawula
Ubungqina obunjalo abufani nokuxhatshazwa. Ukuziphatha kakubi kunokuphindaphindiwe, kodwa akukwenziwanga ngenjongo yokulimaza okanye kugxininise ekujoliswe kuyo. Umntwana onomdla ufuna ukuthanda indlela yakhe. Ukuze ufumane indlela yakhe, umntwana ophetheyo utshela abanye ukuba benzeni noko akufunayo. Injongo yomntwana okhuseleyo akayikulimaza umntu, kodwa ukufumana oko akufunayo xa efuna.
Umntwana onomdla akafunanga omnye umntu ukuba abe ngumphathi. Akukho zijoliso zendlela yokuziphatha. Umntwana uya kubambelela ekuhambeni kwakhe nabani na osemgangathweni wokumnika lona, nokuba ngaba abanye abantwana okanye abadala.
Ukuxhomekeka kubantwana abanesakhono ngokuqhelekileyo kubangelwa yimfuno ethile yangaphakathi okanye impawu, ezifana nesidingo sokulungelelanisa okanye ukuthanda imithetho enzima. Umntwana onobuchule unokuphelelwa ngumonde nokungahambi kwabanye abantwana ukugcina okanye ukunyamekela. Abantwana abanikiweyo abahlali baqonda ukuba abanye abantwana abanomdla kwimimiselo yomdlalo njengoko kunjalo okanye ukuba abanye abantwana abakwazi ukukhumbula yonke imithetho okanye abanenkinga yokuyiqonda yonke into.
Kungukuthi ukunyamezela inxalenye engakhokelela umntwana ukuba aqale ukuxelela abanye abantwana ukuba benze ntoni. Kulula kakhulu ukuxelela abantwana ukuba benzani kunokulinda ukuba bawufunde.
Abanye abantwana bayaziqhatha, nangona kunjalo, ngenxa yokuba basebenzisa indlela yabo. Ukuziphatha kwabo kudla ngokuba ngumphumo wento ebizwa ngokuba "ukuphuza ngokweqile." Abazali ba bantwana abanjalo bahlala kuthiwa "amaqhekeza," makhe umntwana enze kwaye enze nantoni na ayifunayo, ngokuqhelekileyo ukuze agweme ukukrakra nezinye izinto ezimbi.
Kubaluleka koMbambano
Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba ukuxhatshazwa kunye nokuziphatha kakubi okufanayo, kwaye nangona kubini ukuxhatshazwa kunye nokuqhayisa kungabangelwa ngumzali ovumelekileyo, kukho ezinye izizathu kwezo ziphatho. Kubalulekile ukwazi ukungafani kweziphathamandla kunye nezizathu zabo ukuze bafumane izicwangciso ezifanelekileyo.
Ukuxhatshazwa kuyinkxalabo ephezulu kuba sele yenziwe ukulimaza. Kwakhona kunokuba nzima kunzima ukuxazulula ukuxhatshazwa ngenxa yobuntu kunye neengxaki zengqondo ezenza umntwana abe ngumngcipheko ekubeni ngumxhaphazi. Ukuzithoba, ukungabi nzovelwano, ukunyamezela kuphakathi kweempawu ezinokubangela ukuba umntwana axhase abanye. Kunokwenzeka ukuba abantu abaxhaphazayo batshintshe , nangona kunjalo, bancediswa. Abantwana abaqeqeshwayo banokufunda ukutshintsha indlela abaziphatha ngayo. Ngenxa yokuba izizathu zihlukile, izisombululo zokubambisa zikwahluke.
Ingaba ufuna ukuphelisa ukuxhatshazwa okanye ubuqabane kumntwana wakho, kubalulekile ukuba uqale ukuqonda ubuntu bakho umntwana ozalelwe kunye kunye nefuthe lokusingqongileyo eliye lafaka isandla ekuphatheni. Oku kuya kwenza kube lula ukuphelisa ukuziphatha okungavumelekanga.