Kuyinto engokwemvelo ukuthatha "ukuxhaphaza, ukuhlala uxhaphaza." Kodwa ukubethelela umntu onokuxhaphaza ngeelayibhile "yobundlobongela" ubomi bakhe bonke akuthinteli ukuxhatshazwa. Enyanisweni, ngomsebenzi onzima abanye abantu abaxhaphazayo abanye banako ukutshintsha. Ingundoqo kukubamba ukuxhatshazwa kwangaphambili kwaye ungenelele. Oku kungenelela kwangaphambili akubandakanyi nje ukuyala nje umntu otyhafisayo ngenxa yokukhetha kwakhe okungafanelekanga , kodwa nokumxhobisa ngezakhono afuna ukusebenzisana nabanye ngendlela ezintle.
Nazi izakhono ezisixhenxe ngamnye umntu owenza iimfuno zokuxhatshazwa ukwenzela ukutshintsha okulungileyo.
Xanduva
Ukuxhatshazwa kukukhetha . Akubangelwa yinto into echazwe yintlanzi okanye yenzayo. Kwaye abantu abaxhatshaza abanye kufuneka bafunde ukuthatha ubunini bezo zigqibo. Kwakhona kufuneka baqonde ukuba oko benzayo kwakungalunganga kwaye kwenzeni ukuba ixhoba live. Ukugxininisa ukuba akukho mntu "owenze" ukuba benze. Kumaemeko ezibandakanya uxinzelelo lwabaontanga , ukuxhatshazwa kweqela okanye ukuxhatshazwa kwezilwanyana , umxhaphazi unoxanduva lokukhetha kwakhe. Nangona kukho iindlela ezininzi ezahlukileyo zokufumana umxhaphazi ukuba athathe uxanduva, intloko kukuba unokutshilozela into ayenzileyo kunye nezenzo zakhe ngokunyanisekileyo.
Uvelwano
Enye yezindlela ezifanelekileyo zokujongana nokuziphatha kakubi kukubandakanya ukufunda nokufunda ngokomzwelo kwisicwangciso soqeqesho. Injongo kukuba abantwana abaxhaphazayo baya kwandisa ingqiqo yabo yengqondo kwinkqubo. Abantu abaninzi abaxhaphaza abanye banelungelo lokuziphatha ngendlela abayenzayo.
Ngenxa yoko, bafundise ukuba bajonge imeko ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Buza ukuba bakhulume nawe malunga nendlela abavakalelwa ngayo kwimeko efanayo. Ukuphuhlisa uvelwano kuya kuhamba ixesha elide ukukhusela iziganeko zokuxhatshazwa kwexesha elizayo.
Ukulawula umsindo
Abaninzi abaselula abanokubandezela abanye bajamelana nokuphathwa komsindo kwaye kaninzi baphupha ngaphandle kokucinga.
Ngenxa yoko, kunokuba luncedo ukufaka iingcebiso zolawulo lomsindo kwisicwangciso soqeqesho. Uncedise umntu ochaphazelekayo ekufundeni ukuxhatshazwa ufunde ukuqaphela umsindo uvuselele kunye nokuphuhlisa izisombululo ezinempilo zokujongana naloo msindo. Mkhumbuze ukuba intukuthelo iyimvakalelo evamile, kodwa ukuba unokuzikhethela indlela ebonisa ngayo loo mvakalelo. Ukukhetha ukubonakalisa umsindo wakhe kwiindlela ezilimazayo akuvumelekanga. Kubalulekile ukuba uyayiqonda loo nto.
Ukulawula umfutho
Ngamanye amaxesha abantu abaxhalabisayo abanakho ukulawula. Oku kuyinyani ngokukhethekileyo phakathi kwama-cyberbullies abathumelayo bathetha izinto kwi-Intanethi ngaphandle kokucinga ngemiphumo kunye nokuba ingabachaphazela njani abanye. Sebenza kunye nomxhaphazi ukuze ufumane iindlela zokulawula iimpembelelo zakhe kwaye wenze ukhetho olungcono kunye nezigqibo.
Ubuwena
Abanye abantwana ababandakanyeka ekuxhatshazelweni bajolise kwabanye ngenxa yokuba abanakho ukuzithemba. Ngenxa yoko, baxhamla kwabanye emzameni wokuziva bebhetele malunga nabo. Oku kuyinyani ngokukodwa kubantu abaxhatshazwayo. Baziva bexatywe kangangokuba bajika umsindo wabo nokukhathazeka kwabanye abantu. Ukulwa nemibandela yokuzithemba, sebenzisana nomntu oxhaphazayo ukuze ukhulise amandla akhe kwaye uthuthukise ubuthathaka bakhe. Misela ukuba yiziphi izinto afuna ukuzenza ezinjengezakhono zentlalo , ukubambezela , ukunyamezela nokuqina .
Ezi zakhono zakha isiseko sokuzithemba.
Kubandakanya
Amaxesha amaninzi abantwana abaxhatshazwayo bashukunyiswa ngumnqweno omkhulu wokuthandwa. Ngoko bayaphononsa nabani na ongasongela injongo yabo. Yilapho ukuziphatha kwentombazana enyanisekileyo kunye nezinye iintlobo zobudlova obusondeleyo . Ukuba umntu oxhatshazwayo unomdla kunye nesithandwa sakhe, mkhumbuze ngemigca yokuthandwa; kwaye basebenze naye ekuhlakuleleni ubuhlobo obuthathaka . Amaninzi amaninzi, ukuxhatshazwa kubangelwa ukufuna ukungena kwi- click or feeling pressed to bully . Jongana nale micimbi ngokunceda umntu onokuxhaphaza abe nobuhlobo obuhle.
Ukuhlonipha
Oku mhlawumbi enye yezona zinto zibaluleke kakhulu zokuthintela ukuxhatshazwa . Xa umntu oxhatshaza abanye eqala ukuqaphela ukuba wonke umntu ufanelwe intlonelo, akakwazi ukubandakanyeka. Isibalulekileyo kukumbonisa ukuba unokusebenzisa amandla akhe ngeendlela ezilungileyo, kunokuba zikho iindlela ezimbi. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umntu oxhatshazwayo ujonge ukujolisa abantwana ababuthathaka kuye, unokuyijika. Unokuqala ukuxhasa nokubanceda abafundi ababuthathaka kunokuba baxhatshazwe. Le ndlela yokugqibela yokubonisa intlonipho.
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Khumbula ukuba ekugqibeleni, utshintsho lugqityiwe ngumgquba womntu oxhatshazwayo kwabanye abantu. Ukuxhatshazwa kukukhetha. Kwaye ukuba umntu oxhatshazelayo ngokwenene ufuna ukutshintsha, kufuneka enze ukhetho oluhlukile. Nangona ungeke ukwazi ukwenza umntu utshintshe, unokufundisa iimpawu ezinempilo azifunayo ukuze enze utshintsho oluhlala njalo. Isibalulekileyo kukuba sihlale simele size someleze ingqondo efanelekileyo kunye nokuziphatha okunempilo ayifunayo ukwenzela ukujongana neemeko ezahlukeneyo.