Akukho buhlobo bobuhlobo obuhle. Enyanisweni, abanye abahlobo abahlobo babo. Kulezi zihlandlo, umhlobo wakho unokuba ngumxhaphazi oza kuba ngumhlobo ngakumbi ukuba ulawula kwaye akuxhaphaze. Nangona le nyaniso ingaba yipilisi enzima ukugwinya, ungazivumi. Ubuhlobo obuninzi buqulethwe ngabahlobo bamanga , ama- enemy kunye namantombazana athetha .
Into ebalulekileyo ukufunda indlela yokuchazela umahluko.
Uninzi lwabantu ababizwa ngokuba ngabahlobo balawulwa kwaye babalawuli be-manipulators-i-epitome ye- bully . Ngenxa yoko, bahle kakhulu ekukhohliseni ukuba bakholelwe ukuba ningabahlobo. Kodwa kunoko, ubuhlobo abusekelwe ekuhlonipheni. Isekelwe kumandla abo nokulawula phezu kwakho. Ngenxa yoko, kubalulekile ukuchonga iimpawu zomhlobo olawulayo kusenokwenzeka ukuba unokuphelisa ubuhlobo kwaye uqhubeke. Nazi iziganeko ezithandathu eziphezulu zabahlobo abalawulayo kunye nabaxhamli.
Umhlobo Wakho Ufuna
Ukuba umhlobo wakho ubeka iimfuno ezingenangqiqo kuwe kwaye ulindele ukuba ubeke yonke into xa ufuna, oko kukulawula. Kwakhona unokufuna ukuba uchithe ixesha lakho kunye naye. Ukulawula abahlobo baze bazame ukulawula oko ugqokeyo, zeziphi iiklasi ozithathayo kunye nobani oqabane naye. Unokuba unokumangalela ngokungabi ngumhlobo olungileyo xa ungahlangabezane neemfuno zakhe.
Kodwa khumbula, ukuba awuyikulawulwa kwezigqibo zakho ebuhlotsheni, ngoko ke lobu buhlobo obuthile.
Umhlobo Wakho Akakuhloneli Njengomntu
Ukuba umhlobo wakho uhlekisa ngawe, unciphisa imbono yakho okanye usebenza ngokubizela igama , qaphela. Oku akusibuhlobo obuhle . Enye iiflegi ebomvu ebusweni obungenabungozi ngabahlobo abakuxelela indlela onokuvakalelwa ngayo kunokuba uyamkele iimvakalelo zakho zokwenene.
Ngokufanayo, unokugxeka ukuba unomdla, ngakumbi xa enza amahlaya ngeendleko zakho. Yaye unokugxeba ukuba uyazicingela xa uthetha into oyifunayo okanye oyifunayo, ingakumbi ukuba ayinakuhlangabezana ne-ajenda yakhe. Musa ukukhohliswa. Oku akunempilo. Kufuneka ulawulwe iimvakalelo zakho neemvakalelo zakho. Ukuba ukhona ukuhleka usulu ngenxa yokuziva ngendlela oyenzayo, ngoko ke lobu buhlobo obunempilo.
Umhlobo wakho Izenzo eziphezulu kunye nelifa
Xa umhlobo elindele okanye efuna unyango olukhethekileyo oluphawu lokuziphatha. Kananjalo angasebenzisa ukuhlambalaza xa uthetha nawe kwaye enze njengokuthi uhlala echanekile, uyazi kakuhle kwaye unengqiqo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abalawuli abalawulayo bathetha kuwe okanye bahlambalaza baze bahlambe. Ba no ku xelela ukuba iimbono zakho ziyintsipho okanye aziqondi. Ngokubanzi, umhlobo olawulayo uya kuthetha ukuba ungezantsi kuye ngendlela ethile. Ukuba oku kwenzekayo kumhlobo wakho, akubi.
Umhlobo wakho Udala idrama
Ngamanye amaxesha ukulawula abahlobo kuza kuqala iingxabano ngenxa yokuphikisana. Ngamanye amazwi, bathanda ukuthatha indawo echaseneyo. Kananjalo nabo bangabonisa ukutshintsha kwemizwelo okanye babe neengxaki eziphazamisayo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukulawula abahlobo bayondla umdlalo kwaye baya kujonga ukwenza ingxabano evamile okanye ukungavumelani kwisenzo esikhulu. Bakujabulela ukusabalalisa nokuhleba . Ukuba kubonakala ngathi umhlobo wakho uhlala evuselela into ethile, qaphela. Oku akukona ukuziphatha okunempilo.
Umhlobo Wakho Uloluleko
Abantu abakhohlisayo basebenzisa imfesane, ukuxabisa, ukwesaba okanye amanye amaqhosha ashushu ukulawula okanye imeko. Kananjalo banokukulawula nokukulawula ngokukwenza uzive unetyala ukuze ukwazi ukwenza okufunayo. Kwaye banomdla wokunyongela iimpazamo zakho nokukuhlazisa esidlangalaleni.
Khumbula, umhlobo omhle akaze afune ukuba ube neentloni. Ngoko ukuba wakho umhlobo uhlala ebenza uzive ungakhululekile, ungayihoyi lo mqondiso. Lobuhlobo obunempilo.
Umhlobo Wakho Ulukhuphaza
Umhlobo olawulayo uzama ukulawula abanye abahlobo bakho. Bafuna nokulawula ngokupheleleyo abahlobo ochitha ixesha nabo. Basenokuthatha ifowuni yakho, funda iitekisi zakho kunye ne-imeyile kwaye uphulaphule imilayezo yakho ye-voicemail. Kananjalo banokugxeka abanye abahlobo kunye namalungu entsapho. Ngokubanzi, bafuna iindlela zokukusebenzisa ekusebenziseni ixesha lakho kunye nabo kwaye bacaphuke xa unabanye abahlobo. Basenokungena kwiingcinezelo zontanga ukuze bakwenze oko bafuna. Ukuba oku kwenzeka kuwe, usebuhlobo obungenampilo.
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Ukunquma ubudlelwane nomhlobo olawulayo kunokungabonakali kwaye kukuvulele ukuxhatshazwa . Qiniseka ukuba uvumela umntu ukuba azi malunga nemingeni ejongene nayo ukuze bancede. Kungaba nzima ekuqaleni ukuphula ubudlelwane nomhlobo olawulayo, kodwa ngemida enempilo kunye nokuqinisekiswa , unokuhambisa umhlobo ohlonipha ukuba ungubani.