Fumana indlela yokujonga abatsha abanomdla obuthathaka abanye
Abantu bakhuluma nge-narcissism lonke ixesha. Bathile abahlobo babo, abasebenza nabo kunye nabamelwane babo. Basenokuthi bafumane iileyiti zomcimbi, abafazi babo kunye nomfundisi wabo womntwana i-narcissist.
Kwaye bakhuphe ngokukhawuleza ukubhala i-narcissistic ngenxa yobuninzi be-selfie kunye nezithuba ezingaphezulu kwe-Instagram kunye ne-Twitter.
Kodwa iingcali zibonisa ukuba kukho umehluko phakathi kwabaselula abazimeleyo abathumela ngokugqithiseleyo kwimidiya yoluntu kunye ne-narcissist yangempela.
Enyanisweni, kukho okungakumbi kwi-narcissism kunokuba neengqiqo zokuzixabisa, iincandisi zibonisa iimpawu ezithile ezibenza bakwazi ukulawula nokuxhaphaza abanye. Nantsi ingqamaniso yeempawu ezinhlanu eziphezulu ukuba intombazana inomtsalane kunye nomxhaphazi.
Ukungabi novelwano kunye nobunengqondo . AmaNarciss akufumanisa nzima, ukuba akunakwenzeka, ukuvelela iimvakalelo zabanye . Ngenxa yesi sizathu, bahlala bexhatshazwa kwiimbonakalo zemizwa. Kananjalo abahlala bengenalo ingqiqo kwimvakalelo yabanye kwaye banzima ukufumanisa iimvakalelo zabo. Enyanisweni, xa bebuhlungu, baya kukhanyela ukuvakalelwa ngaloo ndlela. Kwaye xa bebuhlungu okanye bekhungathekile, baya kuhlala behlaselwa baze baqhawule.
Ngenxa yeso sizathu, banomdla wokunyelisa abanye.
Abangenalo kuphela uvelwano oluyimfuneko ukubenza bangabakhubazi abanye, kodwa nabo baxhamla kwiimvakalelo zabo ukuba indlela kuphela eyazi ngayo indlela yokuziphatha ngayo inomsindo kunye nentukuthelo. Isiphumo sokuphela sihlazisa abanye abantu.
Bonisa iimvakalelo zokufaneleka . AmaNarciss anemvakalelo enamandla yokufumana ilungelo kwaye kaninzi enza izigqibo ngaphandle kokucinga kwangaphambili kwimpembelelo kwabanye abantu.
Ngenxa yoko, bazive benelungelo lokufumana unyango olungcono kunabanye abantu. Kwaye xa abantu bengabaniki nto abavakalelwa ngayo, banokukhwabanisa. Kwakhona banokuziva banelungelo lokuphatha abantu ngokungathi bangaphantsi kwabo. Oku kuthetha ukuxhaphaza abantwana kwibhasi ukuba babe "kwisihlalo sabo" okanye bathathe izinto ezingabanye. Bavakalelwa ukuba banelungelo lokuma kwindawo efanelekileyo kwiqela, indawo yokuqala ekuhambeni, kwindawo engcono kakhulu yokudla kwasemini kunye nokunye.
Bonisa iimpawu zokuzibamba . AbaNarciss bacinga kuphela ngabo kwaye abanakuzibona iimfuno okanye iimvakalelo zabanye. Ukongezelela ekuziphatheni ngokwabo, nazo zilawula kwaye zixhaphaze kwaye zivame ukuxhaphaza abanye ukuba bafumane indlela yabo. Ba lawula iingxoxo, bakhulume ngelizwi okanye baphazamise abanye.
Ubuhlobo nabanye bafuna ukunyaniseka okupheleleyo kunye nokungabonakaliyo kubahlobo babo. Ukuba ngabahlobo bavakalisa ukunganeliseki, i-narcissist iya kubavulela. Amacebo asetshenzisiweyo angabandakanya i- ostracism , ukuhleka kwenkohlakalo , ukuhlambalaza kunye nokuxhatshazwa kwe-intanethi . Baye banzima ukulwa nomona nomona baze babuze imibuzo kunye nokunyaniseka kwabanye. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba umntu uphatha njani i-narcissist kakuhle, banomuvo wokuthi awunakulungele.
Ukulwa nokuzifanisa nokuzihlalutya .
Nangona ininzi yama-narcissist ibonakala ingabonakaliyo kwaye ikhukhumezekile, inene ixakeke ngendlela abajongwa ngayo ngabanye. Ngaphezu koko, bahlambalaza kwaye bahlala besichaza ngokucacileyo zonke iikhompyutheni okanye ukuthetha ukuba kubekwe phantsi okanye ukuhlambalaza. Ngenxa yoko, akuqhelekanga kubo ukuba baqhankqalazele ukuba bangamaxhoba okuxhatshazwa okanye ukuxhaphazwa kunokuba ngenye indlela.
Ngaphezu koko, bahlala behlekisa baze bahlazise abanye, ngakumbi abo bafuphi kakhulu kubo. Benza amazwi atshabayo ngabanye emva komva wabo kwaye baya kuqhuba amahlebezi kunye nokuhleka ngawabanye abantu, ngokuqhelekileyo bachitha ukunyuswa kwabo.
Ukungabi nekhampasi yokuziphatha . Amaxesha amaninzi, iidiski ziza kuziphatha ngokungahambi kakuhle, ziphosakele inyaniso okanye zixhaphaze iimeko kunye nabanye. Kananjalo banqwenela ukwamukela uxanduva ngenxa yeempazamo zabo kwaye bahlala bexanduva lokutshintsha . Ukongezelela, baya kusebenzisa ityala lokuphatha abanye okanye ukubandakanya ukuziphatha kakubi ukuze bafumane imfesane.
AbaNarciss nabo banamalungisa kunye nokugwetywa kwabanye abantu. Ngenxa yoko, xa bexhatshaza abanye bahlala becinga ukuba ixhoba lifanelwe unyango okanye lizise yona. Ngenxa yoko, abaze bathathe uxanduva malunga nokukhetha kwabo ukulimaza abanye abantu.