Izifundo ezininzi ziye zafumanisa ukuba amantombazana angase aqalwe ukutshatyalaliswa kwangaphambili kunokuba amantombazana akwenzile ngaphambili, into ebizwa ngokuba yindlela yokuphila. Nangona kungokwemvelo ukucinga malunga nezinto eziphilayo ezibangelwa ubuntwaba obuphambili , ngokwenene, ezininzi iingqondo zengqondo okanye zengqondo zingabangela ukuba intombazana ekhulelwe.
Ukunyanyiswa kobubele kunye noTata
Ukuba intombazana ingenayo uyise wayo ophilayo ahlala naye, mhlawumbi ufikelele ekufikeni ubusana ngaphambi kokuba amantombazana abekho uyise.
Enyanisweni, uphando oluthile lubonisa ukuba utata osele ude engekho, ukukhawuleza kuya kuqala. Abanye abaphandi bakholelwa ukuba ubukho bootata okanye intombi ehlala endlwini kubaluleke ngakumbi kunobungqina obubele kunokuba ubaba engekho. Ngamanye amazwi, akunandaba nokuba ubaba uhambe, kodwa kunokuba ngaba umntu uthathe indawo yakhe. Batsho ukuba abantu abangafaniyo bakha i-pheromones - iikhemikhali ezingenasiphelo zomoya ezinokuchaphazela ukusebenza kwe-hormone. Ezi pheromones zenza ukuba intombazana ikhule ngokukhawuleza. Le ngcamango ixhaswe kwizifundo zezilwanyana, kwaye kukho ubungqina bokuba kubantu, ngokunjalo.
Ulwalamano lwentsapho
Xa ininzi intsapho ilwa, ngaphambili intombazana kuloo ntsapho iyakwazi ukufikelela ebusheni. Nangona abaphandi bengenakunyaniseka ukuba kutheni oku kwenzekayo, uxinzelelo olude lwaluphi na uhlobo-ngokomzimba, ezentlalontle okanye kwengqondo-lubonakala lukhawuleza ukuvuthwa kwamantombazana.
Ngako oko, ingxabano phakathi kwabalingani bomzali (nokuba isatshatanga okanye ayikho), ukungasebenzi kwintsapho ngokubanzi kunye nokufudumala komntwana kwintsapho yonke ifumaneka ukuba inxulumene nobushushu obunobuncinci kumantombazana.
Ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo kwabazali
Ukuba ngaba umzali - ingakumbi umama - unengxaki yengqondo, kukho ubungqina bokuba intombi yakhe iya kuba nexesha lokutshatyalaliswa kwangaphambili kunabalingane bakhe abanomama onempilo.
Kutheni ukuba imeko yengqondo yengqondo yomzali ingabangela ingxaki? Njengengxabano yentsapho, ukuba nomzali onesifo sengqondo kunokubangela ukuba uxinzeleleke, unengcinezelo engapheliyo. Ukuba uxinzelelo lubangela ukukhula ngokukhawuleza, kulandela ukuba impilo yengqondo yabazali inokuyichaphazela ixesha lokukhulelwa komntwana.
Umthombo:
U-Ellis, uBruce J., noGarber, uJudy. Iinkcenkcesho zengqondo zohlukwano kwiintombazana zokusasazeka kwexesha: Ukudandatheka komama, ukuhlala kwisebe, kunye nomtshato kunye noxinzelelo lwentsapho. Uphuhliso lwabantwana. 2000. 71: 485-501.
UWalvoord, uEmily C. Ixesha lokukhulelwa komntwana: Ngaba liyatshintsha? Ingaba unomsebenzi? Umbhalo wezeMpilo yabantwana. 2010. 1-7.