Yintoni ongayenza xa umntwana wakho evakalelwa kukuba uyaphumile emphakathini
Ukuziva ukushiywa ngaphandle okanye ukutyhulwa kunokuba kubi, kuba badala. Khawucinge ukuba indlela eyingozi kunye nokuphazamiseka kwayo kufuneka ibe ngumntwana omncinci, ongenalo amava obomi kunye nokufunda abantu abadala, ukuva amazwi anjengokuthi, "Awukwazi ukudlala nathi," okanye "Asinakufuna ukuba uhlale apha, "okanye" Awumenyelwanga kwidlanga lam lokuzalwa. " Kodwa ngelishwa, le mizekelo yokuxhatshazwa kwabantu kunye noluntu kunye nokungabandakanyi zizinto eziqhelekileyo eziqhelekileyo phakathi kwabantwana abaneminyaka esikolweni.
Iindaba ezilungileyo kukuba kukho iindlela eziphathekayo abazali nabafundisi abanokungenelela ekuncedeni abantwana abakwazi ukujamelana neengqungquthela kunye neentlobo ezinobundlobongela.
Yintoni i Cliques?
Into yokuqala abazali bayayazi ukuba ngaba yintoni enye into echaza i-clique. Nangona iqhelekileyo kwaye inempilo yabantwana ukuba baqhotyoshelane kwaye benze abahlobo baze babe nobuhlobo obusondeleyo kunye nabantwana abathile ngaphezu kwamanye, iifowuni zihluke kwiqela labahlobo ngeendlela ezithile ezibalulekileyo.
- Ii-Clique zihlala zikhokela kwinkokeli okanye iinkokheli ezithatha isigqibo sokuba ngubani oza kuyenza kwaye akayi kufakwa.
- Ii-Clique ziyakwenza ifom yesikolo esiphakathi nesekondari, kodwa unokwenza kwaye uqale ekuqaleni kwinqanaba lesikolo nakwi- kindergarten .
- Abantwana abangamalungu e-clique banokuziva bexinzelelo ukwenza izinto abafuni ukuzenza, ezifana nokukrakra okanye ukuxhaphaza umntu ongekho kwiqela.
Oko Abazali Bangakwenza
Ndiphulaphule ngokwenene oko umntwana wakho akutshoyo xa umbuza ukuba isikolo sinjani , kwaye ubuze imibuzo ethile ethi, "Ubani ohlala naye ngesidlo sasemini namhlanje?" okanye "Ngubani owake wadlala nayo?" Ukuba umntwana wakho ubonakala edangele okanye ecasulayo malunga nokuphendula le mibuzo, okanye uthi akahlali okanye adlale nabani na, mbuze ukuba kutheni.
Thetha notitshala womntwana wakho. Utitshala womntwana wakho mhlawumbi uyazi iinguqu zentlalo eklasini, kwaye unokukwazi ukunika ingqiqo into eyenzekayo. Yena okanye mhlawumbi unamava ekujonganeni neenkcazo kwaye unokukwazi ukubonisa izicombululo zokuncedisa umntwana wakho ukuba ngaba umntwana wakho akhankanyiwe ngeefowuni.
Ungacingi ukuba le "yinxalenye yobuntwana," okanye umendo wenkcazo eya kwenza abantwana banamandla, okanye baya kuhamba xa bengayithobeli. Ukungaxhatshazi okanye ukuxhatshazwa kwentlalontle kubundlobongela, akukho iifs, kunye neenjongo. Kungenxa yokuba ukuziphatha okubi kunokuba yinto eqhelekileyo kwizizukulwana ezidlulileyo kwaye mhlawumbi kungabantwana abathile basebenza namhlanje, akuthethi ukuba sifanele sivumele ukuba kuqhubeke, utshilo u-Tracy Vaillancourt, PhD, uProfesa kunye neSikolo soPhando lweCanada kwiMpilo yengqondo yabantwana kunye nokuPhepha koBundlobongela kwiYunivesithi yaseOttawa. Kwaye, okubaluleke kakhulu, uphando lubonise ukuba iimpumelelo zangexesha elide loxhatshazo lunokudlulela iminyaka emininzi emva koko, kwaye ludibaniswa neengxaki zomzimba kunye nezempilo kunye nezinye iziphazamiso xa zikhulile.
Khuthaza umntwana wakho ukudlala namanye abantwana. Xa siziva singabandakanywa, ngokwemvelo senza nzima ukuba singene, kusho uDkt. Vaillancourt. Yenza umntwana wakho ngokubhekiselele kwabanye abantwana kwaye ugxininise kude neentsana ezinentsingiselo. Misa usuku lokudlala emva kwesikolo kwaye uhlele ukuhlanganisana nabazali kunye nabantwana abangenayo inxalenye yecacque ukuze umntwana wakho atyele ezinye izihlobo ezinobungozi.
Ukuba umntwana wakho uyinxalenye yecacque, xelela ngaye malunga noko kuthetha ntoni kunye nokuba yiyiphi i-downsides ( Akunakuvunyelwa ukuba ngokwakhe; unokufuneka enze izinto angafuni ukuzenza ukuze angene; Ezinye iinjongo ziziphatha kakubi; njl.).
Thetha naye malunga nokuba unamandla phezu kwabanye kuthetha ntoni, kwaye ukhuthaze uvelwano ngokumbuza indlela onokuvakalelwa ngayo kwelinye icala, ukushiywa ngaphandle, ukuxhatshazwa okanye ukukhutshwa.
Yintoni ootitshala abangayenzayo
Ootitshala bangadlala indima ebalulekileyo ekubunjweni kweefowuni. Ukuthintela amaqela asekuhlaleni okufana nokwenza nokufumana amandla kwigumbi lokufundela, ootitshala banokuqiniseka ukuba babeka isigaba ukuze kungenzeki, utsho uDkt. Vaillancourt. Bangakwazi ukuqhekeka amaqela afanelekileyo afomene aze adibanise iintsana ezahlukileyo rhoqo kunye nokukhuthaza bonke abantwana ukuba basebenzisane.
Bobabini abazali kunye nootitshala banokwenza umzamo wokukhokela abantwana ngendlela efanelekileyo ukuze abantwana bafunde ngezinto ezifana nentsebenziswano kunye nobubele , kungekhona izakhono ezithetha kwiindawo ezimbi kakhulu zokuziphatha kwabantu ezifana nokunyaniseka nokunyaniseka.
"Sisoloko sigxininisa kwizinto ezintathu" zeR "kwimfundo kodwa siyawahoywa u-R" wokuqala "wobudlelwane-imfundo," kusho uDkt. Vaillancourt.