Kukho intambo engabonakaliyo egcina abazali kunye nabantu abadala abasondeleyo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba umgama phakathi kwabo. Siyabulela ukuthumela imiyalezo kunye ne-FaceTime, umnxeba kunye ne-imeyile, unxibelelwano alubunzima ukugcina, nangona, kunye nabanye bethu abasanda kutsalwa abadala, ezininzi iimpendulo kwiimbuzo esizicelayo zidibene kunye namagama amabini okanye amabini ngokuphendula. Kodwa ngaphaya kwetheknoloji, umzali ufanele ukuba angahlali njani kuphela kwezobuchwepheshe, kodwa nangokomzwelo?
Njengoko abantu abadala bekhulile baze benze ubomi babo, banako ukushiya abazali ukuba baxhamle kuphela abo baye baba, kodwa ukuba bangahlala njani inxalenye yobomi babo.
Lungisa isimo sakho sengqondo
Into yokuqala neyona nto ibalulekileyo yokwenzayo yamkela ukuba ulwalamano lwakho luya kuqhubela phambili ukuguqulwa nokuguquka, njengokuba umntwana wakho - kunye nawe, unako-kwenzeka. Xa ukhululekile kunye nokuziphendukela komntu omdala kunye nolwazi, kwaye uyeke ukucinga ngentsapho yakho njengembopheleleko yakho okanye eyakho ukulawula, ungaphezu kwesahlulo sobuhlobo obulungileyo.
Umgaqo wokuqala wokuba ngumntwana osemdala ngumntwana ukuba angaphumi isigwebo. Nangona uqinisekile ukuba uyazi kakuhle, ukuba unokuziva unzulu emanzini akho apho zonke izilwanyana zokuba ngumzali zimele, kufuneka ulinde ukuba ucelwe uluvo lwakho ngaphambi kokuba lunikeze. Phantse wonke umzali othetha neProjekthi yeLifa malunga nalo mbandela uthe into efanayo.
Iimbalwa ezimbalwa zeengcebiso ezilungileyo ezivela kubanjwe kwiProjekthi yeLifa
- Abantwana kufuneka benze iimpazamo zabo.
- Kwintetho, bandise, musa ukungena phakathi. Qinisekisa oko kufuneka ukuqiniswa.
- Musa ukugxeka kakhulu - makabe ngabani.
- Bonke abazali bafuna ukuba abantwana babo babe nolonwabo, kodwa abantwana babo kufuneka bafumane lwabo ulonwabo.
- Khumbula ukuba akukho mntu uphelele.
Lungisa Izinto Ozilindeleyo
Ingaba umntu omdala osemdala uhlala kwiibhloko ezi-3 okanye ezi-3 ezikude, ukufuna ukuchitha ixesha kunye nabo akuyi kusebenza-nanini. Njengabazali, siya kuhlala sicinga ngoonyana bethu ngokuthi "zethu," ngandlela-thile, kodwa inyaniso kukuba ukuba wenze umsebenzi wakho kakuhle, baya kuphuma ehlabathini baze badale ubomi babo, ngamanye amaxesha baze bahluke kwi yethu. Unokucinga ukuba isidlo sakusihlwa ngeCawa kunye kunye kukubalulekileyo, kodwa umntwana wakho akanako. Ungacela, kwaye umeme, kodwa lungele ulungelelaniso kwizicwangciso zakho kwaye ulungele ukunciphisa yonke indlela.
Ukuba umdala wakho omdala uhlala kude, uhambo lokucwangcisa kufuneka luqale ngokufumana iimfuno zomntu ngamnye kunye nemida. Igumbi lakho leendwendwe, ngokungathandabuzekiyo, lithandekayo - kodwa abantwana bakho abakhulileyo banokukhetha ukuhlala ehotele efuphiweyo malunga nendawo yobumfihlo. Ngokufanayo, awunyanzelekile ukuba uhlale kunye nezingane zakho xa u tyelela, ingakumbi ukuba kukho izinto malunga nendlela yokuphila ongenakuthathwe ngayo, ezivela kwizilwanyana ezizitholayo kubahlobo abathandayo. Akukho "mfuneko" ukuba wonke umntu kufuneka alandele xa e tyelela intsapho, ngakumbi abantwana bakho. Kufuneka wenze okulungileyo kubo bonke abathintekayo.
Baxabise Abaphi
Akukho mzali ufumana yonke into abayiphupha ngayo kubantwana babo, kwaye xa sele bekhulile abantu abakhulileyo abacaca ngakumbi kunanini ngaphambili. Ukuvumela ukuhamba komntu ongcono owakucinga kwaye uwamkele umntu omdala osemdala uye waba luleke ukuba ahlale edibene naye. Awukwazi ukuthanda iittoti, iindandatho zeempumlo, apho ehlala khona, ngubani owenza imihla, okanye indlela abachitha ngayo ixesha labo elikhululekileyo - kodwa inyaniso enzima, akuyiyo ibhizinisi lakho kwakhona. Akukho mntu ufuna ukuziva ngathi bangaphantsi kwe-microscope, ingakumbi abantwana abangenazo intsingiselo kodwa abazali abachaphazelekayo .
Kungenzeka ukuba:
- Abayi kwenza izinto ezifana nawe
- Abayi kubona izinto ezifana nawe
- Abayi kusabela kwizinto ezifana nawe
- Abayi kulandela ukukhokela kwakho, kungakhathaliseki ukuba uzama kangakanani ukubakhokela
- Abayi kuba ngubani okulindele
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba unokuba ngumqondo ovulekileyo, isigulane, nothando kwaye uguquguquke, unako ukugcina abantwana bakho besondele kuwe ubomi bakho bonke, kwaye akuyona into ebaluleke kakhulu?