Kuphilile ukufuna ukuvelisa okulungileyo kumntwana wakho. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, abazali babeka abantwana phantsi kwengcinezelo eninzi ukuba benze kakuhle ukuba abantwana babo baneziphumo ezinzima.
Abazali bahluke kwiimbono zabo malunga neengcinezelo ezingakanani abantwana abafuna. Enyanisweni, uphando olwenziwa ngo-2013 yi-Pew Research Centre lufumene ukuba ama-64% aseMerika athi abazali abafaki uxinzelelo olwaneleyo kubantwana ukuba benze kakuhle esikolweni.
Xa abantwana bengenako uxinzelelo olwaneleyo lwabazali, banokuba banako ukwenza okusemandleni abo.
Abanye abantu abadala bafuna ukuba abantwana baphumelele. Bachaza ukuxhalabisa ukuba abantwana abakwazi kuba bantwana ngenxa yokuba bahlala becinezelwa ukuba benze kakuhle ukuze bafike ezikolweni eziphambili okanye bafumane i-scholarship.
Ewe, isikolo akusiyo kuphela indawo apho abazali bafaka khona uxinzelelo kubantwana. Abanye abazali bagxininisa abantwana ukuba baphumelele kwimidlalo, kumculo, kwiithala okanye kwinani leminye imisebenzi. Abazali abaneengcinezelo eziphezulu banokubambelela ukuba abantwana bahlale beqhuba rhoqo kwaye baqhuba kakuhle kwimincintiswano.
Nangona ukulindela okuphezulu kunokuba nempilo , ukubeka uxinzelelo oluqhubekayo kubantwana kunokulimaza. Xa abantwana bevakalelwa kukuba umsebenzi ngamnye wesikolo uza kwenza okanye uphule ikusasa labo okanye ukuba umdlalo ngamnye webhola lebhola ukhumbule ukuba bafumana i-college scholarship, loo ngcinezelo iya kuba nemiphumo emibi.
Indlela Yokubeka Ingcinezelo Eninzi Kubantwana Kubachaphazela
Nazi ezinye ezimbalwa zeengozi ezingabantwana xa abazali bebabeka phantsi koxinzelelo oluninzi:
- Izinga eliphezulu lokugula ngengqondo. Abantwana abavakalelwa ngathi bangaphantsi kwengcinezelo banokufumana uxhalabo oluqhubekayo. Amanani aphezulu oxinzelelo angabanika abantwana ingozi enkulu yokuphucula uxinzelelo okanye ezinye iinkalo zempilo yengqondo.
- Umngcipheko wokuzibulala. Uphando lufumene unxibelelwano phakathi kweengcinga zokuzibulala kunye noxinzelelo lwabazali. Phantse omnye kwabahlanu kwabafundi bavavanyelwe ukuzibulala ngenxa yokunyanzeliswa okukhulu kwabazali ukuvelisa amabakala ambalwa.
- Iingxaki zokuzithemba. Ukunyusa abantwana ukuba baphumelele kungonakalisa ukuzithemba kwabo . Uxinzelelo oluqhubekayo lokusebenza luphazamisa ukubunjwa kwabantwana kwaye lubangela ukuba bazive bengenalo ngokwaneleyo.
- Ukulahlwa. Abantwana abaziva bexinzelelo lokuba benze kakuhle esikolweni banokuhlala befunda ngokukhawuleza kwaye ngenxa yoko, banokuba nzima ukulala ngokwaneleyo.
- Ingozi enkulu yokulimala. Abadlali abavakalelwa kukuba uxinzelelo oluninzi luyaqhubeka nokuthatha inxaxheba kwimidlalo naphezu kwemazi. Ukunyamekela intlungu okanye ukubuyela kwimidlalo ngaphambi kokulimala kuye kungaholela ekulimaleni ngonaphakade.
- Ukwandisa amathuba okukopela. Xa kugxininiswe ekuphumeleleni-kunokuba ukufunda-abantwana banokukwazi ukukopela. Ingaba ngumntwana omncinci obamba impendulo yommelwane wakhe kumbuzo, okanye umfundi wekholeji ukuhlawula umntu ukuba abhale iphephandaba, ukukopela kuqhelekileyo phakathi kwabantwana abaziva bexinzelelo ukuba benze kakuhle.
- Ukula ukuthatha inxaxheba. Xa abantwana beva ukuba injongo kukuba "bahlale beyona nto ibhetele," abanako ukuthatha inxaxheba xa bengenakukhanya. Umntwana ongeyena umgijimi onokukhawuleza unokuyeka ukudlala ibhola kunye nomntwana ongeyena umculi obalaseleyo kwiqela angayeka i-choir. Ngelishwa, oko kuthetha ukuba abantwana abaza kuthatha amathuba okuphucula izakhono zabo.
> Imithombo
> Uxinzelelo lwabazali kunye neengcinga zokuzibulala. I-Medical Journal yabathengi . 2003; (85): 18.
> Rogers MA, Theule J, uRyan BA, i-Adams GR, uKeating L. Ukubandakanya kwabazali kunye nokuPhumelela kweSikolo soBantwana: Ubungqina beNkqubo yokuHlanganisa. I-Canadian Journal of School Psychology . 2009; 24 (1): 34-57.