Ukweba kuPhatha okuNokulungiswa
Ukweba kukuziphatha okuvame ukuphazamisa abazali, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni ubudala bomntwana. Akuxakalisi xa umntwana wakho ethatha izinto ezingezizo ngaphandle kwemvume. Kodwa ukuba mhlawumbi kunokukhokelela kwiingxaki ezinzulu zokweba kubantwana?
Ngaba Abantwana Abancinci Ukuqonda Ukuba Ukubi Kuyiphutha?
Akunjalo. Enyanisweni, abantwana abaninzi abancinci bathatha izinto ngaphandle kokubuza ngenxa yokuphuhliswa, abanakho ukuqonda imida malunga nokuba yiyiphi na yabo neyabanye.
Kuze kube yiminyaka emithathu ukuya kweyesihlanu, ukuthatha into ebamba umdla womntwana wakho akufanele ithathelwe njengento yokuba. Ngokufundisa, abantwana ngokuqhelekileyo bangaqala ukuqonda ukuba ukweba kungafanelekanga kwiminyaka yobudala bebanga lokufunda . Ngeli nqanaba, baqala ukuqaphela ukuba abantu ngokwenene banezinto kwaye ukuthatha izinto ngaphandle kwemvume akufanelekanga.
Kutheni Abantwana Beba?
Abantwana bangaseba ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi. Kubalulekile ukuqwalasela izizathu ezininzi ezinokuthi zijongane kakuhle nokuziphatha. Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana akafundiswanga ngumntu omdala ukuba "kakubi," ukujongana nokuziphatha kwebabi kuyakufuna indlela eyahlukileyo kunokuba umntwana eba ukuze athathe ingqalelo yomntu omdala, okanye ukuba abe yindlela yokuvukela omdala.
- Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana beba ngenxa yokungabi nantliziyo, bengacingi ngemiphumo emihle yezenzo zabo.
- Ngamanye amaxesha ukuba kuba yindlela nje yokuziphatha kakubi eyenzelwe ukukhutshwa komntu omdala.
- Ngelishwa, ngamanye amaxesha abantwana baye babona ukweba ngabanye kwaye baxelisa indlela yokuziphatha.
- Abanye abantwana abazange bafunde kumntu omdala onenkathalo oba kubi.
- Abantwana abasetyenziselwayo kunye nabanyanzelwayo bangaseba ngenxa yokuba into ebiwe ibenza bafumane intuthuzelo.
- Abanye abantwana beba "ukukhaba."
- Abanye abantwana beba ukwenzela ukuba bahambelane kunye neqela lontanga elixabisa ukuziphatha (uxinzelelo lwabaontanga.)
- Abanye abantwana beba njengendlela yokuvukela igunya.
- Abanye abantwana beba ivakalelo lokuzimela.
- Abanye abantwana, ngakumbi abantwana abadala, banokuba ukweba utywala okanye iziyobisi.
Abazali Bangayibhekisela Njani Ukusela?
Abazali banokulungisa ukuphanga ngokufundisa umntwana wabo ukuthini nokuba kuyiphutha.
Xa ukuziphatha kwenzeka, ukuba kunokwenzeka, abazali kufuneka babe nomntwana abuyisele into ebiwe kwaye axolise ngokuyithatha. Ukuba umntwana enze ulungiso ngandlela-thile kumntu ayebiweyo kumncedisa ukuba ukuba kuba nemiphumo. Akunako kuphela ukuba umntwana wakho enze izilungiso kuye kumncede ukuqonda ukweba kwakhe ngokungalunganga, kodwa kuyithuba lokumfundisa ngovelwano.
Abazali bafanele baphinde bachaze ukuba ukweba kakubi kwaye akufanelekanga ukuziphatha. Ngaloo ndlela, unako ukulingwa ukuba udlulele ukuba, ngokukodwa ukuba kukho isizathu "esiqondakalayo," njengomntwana onomona ngomzalwana okanye udade ofumene into ethile. Sekunjalo, gcinani engqondweni ukuba awuqeqesheli umntwana wakho ukuba angabi kodwa ukunceda umntwana wakho ukuba ukuba kakubi kuya kumnceda ahlakulele ingqondo kwabanye.
Kwiimeko ezininzi, xa abantwana bebanjwe beba, ukungenelela ngqo kufuneka kulungiswe ingxaki. Kungabakho ukukhumbuza abantwana abancinci amaxesha amaninzi ukuba ukuthatha izinto kwabanye kungalunganga kwaye kukulimaza kwabanye.
Ukongezelela, abazali kunye nootitshala kufuneka bafanise ukuziphatha ngokunyanisekileyo ukuze abantwana bafumane imodeli emihle ekhaya nasezikolweni.
Ukuthetha Nabantwana Bakho - Ukuthobeka, Ukunyaniseka, Nokuvuma Ukuziphatha Okulungileyo
Kubalulekile ukuzola xa uthetha nabantwana malunga nokuba . Ukuhlambuluka nokuqina kuhlale kukhuthazwa ngenxa yokunyuka okanye ukulimala kwabafundi abancinci.
Yazisa ukuziphatha okunyanisekileyo kubantwana bakho kwaye uyabancoma ngezigqibo ezifanelekileyo.
Xa Ukunyuka Kuqhubeka
Kwiimeko ezinqabileyo, umntwana unokuqhubeka nokuba nangona ukulungiswa. Kuloo meko, kunokuba kuyimfuneko ukuba abazali baqale ukunyuka kwimiphumo yokuba. Umzekelo, umntwana abuyisele into kwaye mhlawumbi alahlekelwe lilungelo ixesha elide. Ukuba ukuziphatha kuyaqhubeka, imiphumo iya kuba yinto ebalulekileyo njengokwenza umgangatho okanye ukuthatha uhlobo lokuzonwabisa. Abantwana banokwenziwa kwakhona ukuba benze imisebenzi eyongezelelweyo njengesiphumo. Unokucinga ngeminye imiphumo enengqiqo enokusebenza kakuhle kumntwana wakho othile.
Ukuba ingxaki iyaqhubeka, kunokufuneka ukuba ufune uncedo lochwepheshe. Umcebisi wesikolo somntwana wakho okanye isazi seengqondo sezikolweni sinokukuncedisa ngokucebisa nokuphuhlisa iindlela zokungenelela.
Zama ukuqonda ukuba kutheni umntwana wakho ekutshweni
Ukuthetha nomntwana wakho kunokunceda ukunika ingqiqo malunga nokuba kutheni. Ukubuza imibuzo evulekile kungakhuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba athethe. Hlalani nizolile. Nangona kulungile ukubonisa ukuba awukuvuyela ukuziphatha, thintela ukuhlazisa umntwana ngenxa yokuba ufuna ukwabelana ngolwazi ngokukhululekile. Yithi, "Ndixelele isizathu sokuba uthathe imali. Yintoni owawuceba ukuyenza ngemali?" Ingxoxo enjengale nto inokunceda umntwana wakho avule kwaye abonise ubunzima ebomini bakhe. Xa uyazi ukuba kutheni umntwana eyeba loo nto, uya kuba nako ukunceda ukuba akhethe iindlela ezithembekileyo zokusombulula iingxaki zakhe kunokuba athathe utyalo. Zama ukusebenzisa isiqwenga sokuba njengexesha elifundisekayo.
Imithombo:
I-American Academy yabantwana kunye ne-Adolescent Psychiatry. Ukweba Kwabantwana nakwi-Adolescents. Updated 12/2014. https://www.aacap.org/AACAP/Families_and_Youth/Facts_for_Families/FFF-Guide/Children-Who-Steal-012.aspx